Most content here deals with getting the date and keeping them attracted during that time. But what happens after you close the deal? This is key; and here are some of my tips.

  1. Don’t text immediately the morning after sex. You don’t want them to think that they already hooked you. But also don’t ignore them the whole day. Feel good hormones are running through their bodies for 24 hours, and you don’t want to miss that window. Wait for them to text you, and if they haven’t, text them at night and tell them you had a great night. If they text back, keep the conversation going casual but sexy.

  2. Sex is good; sex is great; but do everything in your power not to get hooked after the first time, no matter how great it felt. The feeling that we get from sex is mainly due to our hormones and our brain, not the other person’s skills (with some exceptions). And great sex doesn’t mean a great relationship. You can have great sex with different people, so DO NOT get hooked immediately. If you’re looking for something serious, wait until they show you more consistency before you show your hand. Otherwise you can find yourself in friend zone territory or worse.

  3. DO NOT express your feelings right after sex, no matter what!!! Again, your body just got a rush of hormones and you’ll say anything to keep that rush going. It’s like an addiction. But it will likely backfire so hold your tongue. Don’t try to label things either; let them flow.

  4. If they liked having sex with you, they will let you know. Let them bring it up. If you want to know if they liked it, use vague statements like “I had fun tonight”; don’t say “sex was amazing”.

  5. Keep the conversation and date planning going as you did before sex. There’s no need to change anything at this point. However, during your text and phone conversations, do escalate randomly with reminders of what body part you liked, or bring up smells or tastes. That will let them know that you want more, but are not desperate for more.

  6. If/when you see each other again, don’t try to go straight for sex. Talk, have a few drinks, keep getting to know them. But!

  7. Escalate to sex again before the night is over. Don’t take a step back because again, that could put you in the friend zone or worse.

I hope this helps and if you have any additional tips or questions let me know.