Too many leads lost through bad texting

2021-06-21T16:18:54+00:00

Make a point to call them. Seriously. Nobody calls anymore and most women are down for it. It's so much easier to build rapport through a verbal conversation than text.

Once you've built the foundation for comfort THEN it's cool to text.

Conversations can be however long you want. I found the sweet spot around 20-30 minutes, then bounce. I've also had 2 hour conversations. It's whatever feels natural at the moment.

After you've had one or two calls, it's not necessary to try to have full fledge conversations over text message. You need to demonstrate that you have a life, so don't worry about it.

I typically will send a text or two throughout the day, usually commenting on something interesting I'm doing. Have some fun photos to show off but do it sparingly.

MightyEco · 2021-06-21T14:57:54+00:00

Bro I was in the same situation as you, I know I'm good looking but whenever I texted girls they seemed to stop texting as much a couple days later and eventually stop replying.

I don't text as much anymore. I only text her to set up a date and if I want to talk I'll give her a call. When I first get a girls number my goal is to set up a 15 min coffee date. Something you can bail out of if its not going well and something you can easily extend to the evening if it goes well. Usually after that I'll call her if I really wanna talk

TheSunshineMan · 2021-06-21T18:28:43+00:00

Text for logistics only - capitalize on your in person game.

lordkin · 2021-06-22T00:55:07+00:00

You can't text forever. You need to see her. You know how long your text game is, if it's coming to a close then ask her out.

If she's responding to all your texts in a more than polite way she'll absolutely go on a date with you

Noobcreate · 2021-06-22T02:39:52+00:00

I would say stop texting. I dont care if your the sexiest/charismatic man on the planet, no woman is going to more attracted via text. Text is for setting up the date. If you could not get them to go on a date from text, then they were not interested in you enough. You have to answers the reasons that she is giving you a chance.

Unitedtendies · 2021-06-21T21:18:57+00:00

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Interesting-Brief202 · 2021-06-21T15:37:52+00:00

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Don't text except to set up a date. Don't call except to set up a date. "A phone is only to set up a date. A phone is only to set up a date. "Repeat to yourself 10x every morning then write it down 10x.

Texting beyond "how are you lets get together" is just giving a girl free attention. You do NOT text or call before sex except to arrange a date. She hasn't earned that attention.

2021-06-21T20:46:00+00:00

Good looking is more important of an attribute for women than men. Yes, women want a good looking guy but more important is a good career and money.

iceicebabyvanilla · 2021-06-21T21:23:38+00:00

Text to set up a date, not to have a texting buddy. Be a thrill in person, and she’ll want to text you often.

nevertextgoodnight · 2021-06-21T21:26:34+00:00

Same boat

If these are cold approaches, you ought focus on a more engaging and investing initial interaction for her

Texting is the worse for building attraction, unless it's from tinder or whatever which is totally different.

Cold approach is ALL about the first interaction. I'd focus your energies on that. Then text for logistics

Again, don't get it twisted, when people talk about text game, it's usually from dating apps. Took me a while to notice that

Edit: to add more about the interactions, if it goes well pretend you're on a date already. Escalate the flirting, maybe touch her arm, etc...

Just getting a # does not mean she's invested, and every text afterward is just a chance to ruin things

Which leads into setting the date there on the spot. "Hm I'm pretty busy right now, let me check my calendar. You said you're free Thursday, wow that's like my only night free. How about this place at 8?"

Remove as many steps as possible from meeting her to going on the date

shotgun_slade · 2021-06-22T08:00:40+00:00

Never forget the value of humor. If you can get anyone to laugh, then they will elevate you in their mind. Not everyone has a natural sense of humor, I do. And it has got me into trouble too.

Plays in words, double entendres, and other puns can show you to be a man of distinction and apart from the rest of the herd. Display some intellect and literacy coupled with a sense of humor and that will help you a lot.

Just a few things from me to maybe help your text or talk game. I have gotten women interested in me online ACCIDENTALLY, I am married and have no bad intentions. But it has happened.

arihant-hg · 2021-06-22T12:08:14+00:00

Read books. There's no point pretending to be interesting if you not.

TheSunshineMan · 2021-06-23T17:15:23+00:00

Texting is for logistics only.

Get the number.

Set up the meet within the first 5 messages you send.

Anything longer than that - you're just losing your appeal; and the odds get lower of her actually meeting you with each other message you send.

sickly-survivor · 2021-07-06T22:05:56+00:00

Maybe they just feel more autonomous over text and feel it's easier to say no.

Title	Too many leads lost through bad texting
Author	daslattbeans
Upvotes	22
Comments	50
Date	June 21, 2021 2:41 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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