The crowds in my area's shopping centers are starting to get more packed. Sunday have usually been pretty quiet but during this recent weekend things seem to have picked up.

Also worth mentioning is that I have been going out with a wing lately, but in some ways it seems like he has held me back. I do enjoy his company, but I think I prefer being a lone wolf most of the time. I find it more gratifying to meet girls while I'm alone, rather than have the moral crutch of another person by my side. There are also other issues with having a wing such as: not being as nimble and flexible with my approaches (i.e., randomly just walking into a store and doing some approaches, or seeing a girl from afar and calculating the logistics of making a run-in with her seem spontaneous.), fatiguing my vocal chords by talking with said wing, and missing approaches due to being caught up in conversation. I do enjoy having a wing, but I definitely don't want to create a co-dependent situation and I definitely want to refine the skillset of going out alone and using my own will to create and forge new relationships.

So I approached one girl in an urban outfitters. I complimented her and she seemed appreciative. I asked her what she was up to and she mentioned it was her sisters birthday and she was looking for a gift. I mentioned how its cool how urban has all of these cool little trinkets and fun books. We saw a cook book with snoop dogg on the cover and we joked about what his "special" ingredient is. We continued looking at the cool little stuff, almost simulating what it would be like to go on a date with me it felt like. She asked if I had an insta and I said "no, I stopped using it because I was addicted." She then said she had to go and began walking off. Almost as if it were an afterthought I mentioned "hey, we should get together sometime and grab a coffee or something.

I then walked into a high-end store called Bloomingdales. Immediately upon walking in I see an 9 with fake tits and a mannequin like ass staring at some gucci bags. In an automatic response type fashion I assume it'll never happen and continue walking. However, upon walking away I'm like "wtf dude, just try!" So immediately I go up to her and tell her I think she's attractive. She smiles and continues looking at her bags. My smile almost transitions to a a look of indifference as I'm ready to walk away at this somewhat dismissive gesture, but before that happens she looks at me smiles and bids me a good day. So I laugh and say you too.

After that I do a number of approaches in a different area to avoid being seen by the same girl who's number I got earlier. I'm not really sure what others' opinion is on this, but I don't want to be seen gaming other chicks after getting the number. I guess it can be used as social proof, but it can also create an image as a creepy pua weirdo who's not out here on his mission doing cool shit, but is expressly out here to approach girls (which I am, but I'm not a creepy weirdo). Especially when I use some type of time constraint such as "I'm going to be meeting with a friend in a little bit".

So yeah, I'm probably going to be doing a coffee and walk around type date, or a alcoholic drinks at an out-door bar type date. My sticking point is escalating on dates. I saw a recent post on here about that topic so I will be reading. I've recently discovered that its damn hard to be seductive when your sitting accross from someone. I'm trying to figure out ways to allow myself to close the physical gap between myself and the girl on dates. This may involve sitting at a booth rather than a table and calling ahead of time to reserve said booth. Or planning the date so that we walk around and allow ourselves to get close to one another. I'm also trying to avoid getting ripped off at expensive bars, as I paid $30 for a freaking double jameson and ginger ale and $15 for a glass of very mediocre wine the other day.