When and how should you bring up exclusivity? (for when you find a girl you want to date)

twitch1982 · 2016-03-28T19:11:55+00:00

If I'm not ever going to want to be exclusive with someone, I bring it up way before date 3.

Back when I was doing monogamous relationships, This conversation did not have to happen by date three. Shit, you may only have known some on a couple of weeks by then. Way too early to make that kind of decision.

The only time this ever fell apart on me was with one girl who equated sex with exclusivity immediately, but this wouldn't have been avoided by the articles plan.

whenfoom · 2016-03-28T23:02:50+00:00

If you want it - never. If you don't want it - whenever.

Dio_Brando_Joestar · 2016-03-28T19:47:00+00:00

You dont. Men are the gatekeepers of relationships, women are the gatekeepers of sex. She has to bring it up.

MylesKennedyIsGod · 2016-03-28T19:10:27+00:00

Let her bring up exclusivity/commitment. If you do, it makes you look like you don't have any other options (and maybe you don't, but don't let her know that). Girls love a little mystery, not guys with their hearts on their sleeves

Remember...Women are the gatekeepers of sex--Men are the gatekeepers of commitment

SClanding · 2016-03-28T21:24:38+00:00

Third date?

No wonder there are so many clusterfreak failed relationships and marriages...no way in hades you know a person well enough in 3 dates whether they are a "exclusivity" appropriate mate.

Horrible freaking advice.....

naughtpocket · 2016-03-28T22:46:04+00:00

Keep up the great work Sarah!

sorcererbro · 2016-03-29T00:27:58+00:00

Never? Lol. Non-exclusivity is the default; if someone wants to be exclusive, it's on them to bring it up. In which case I decline :)

Britney_Spearzz · 2016-03-29T03:43:00+00:00

First you got to neg her like "nice shirt grandma", then you say that she shouldn't see other people and that, as reward, you won't see anyone else. If she declines (obviously she won't if you're alpha af), keep throwing negs until she submits to your demand. EZ

Title	When and how should you bring up exclusivity? (for when you find a girl you want to date)
Author	IntrovertedAlpha
Upvotes	71
Comments	27
Date	March 28, 2016 5:30 PM UTC (10 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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