Asked a girl out for coffee, got a "not today maybe later". Do I follow up, ask again, or leave it ?

treyheyhey · 2013-12-11T13:36:02+00:00

Drop it. Next time you meet her have a lighthearted conversation. Bring it up like she reminded you of the date.

2013-12-11T14:51:21+00:00

If she had your number, let her contact you.

If not, move on. Texting back after anything less than a yes isn't worth your time. There are plenty of women who would love your time, you don't need the shit tests.

joshsway · 2013-12-11T14:26:28+00:00

You most likely got rejected. You can try again in a while but doubt anything will change. Better to play it cool and try to build more attraction if you have the opportunity to see her around.

MondevilZ · 2013-12-11T15:16:23+00:00

Yeah the best thing you can do is act like it didn't affect you and maybe in the future when she's feeling lonely you will get a call asking for coffee.

1vibe · 2013-12-11T18:23:15+00:00

It may be that 'maybe later' means 'maybe something more fun than coffee'..... Wait 4-5 days and ask her to something but ramp it up from coffee. Make it a date date, something that you love doing and can lead to kino, etc :)

XionGuard · 2013-12-11T19:03:56+00:00

She doesn't want your cock. "Maybe later" was just a pussy way of her saying "no".

puaCurveBall · 2013-12-11T19:19:52+00:00

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jp_lolo · 2013-12-11T15:44:14+00:00

never leave it! follow up!

Title	Asked a girl out for coffee, got a "not today maybe later". Do I follow up, ask again, or leave it ?
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Date	December 11, 2013 11:24 AM UTC (12 years ago)
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