How do you slide into DM's the right way?

Teddey_Bear · 2018-06-10T05:26:35+00:00

Tell them they look like they smell nice then ask for some of their hair

rosebudd_ · 2018-06-10T07:11:54+00:00

I have not had plenty of result from "DM Game" but I have had SOME results that make up for it, it's still a field I very much want to get better at. I only use Instagram for this with my page Public so she can see all my pictures and know i'm not a random insecure guy hiding behind an online profile.

I simply message them something non-creepy. I will send out A TON of messages before I get a reply, the the few times you get a reply, it makes it all worth it because my instagram is crafted to showcase my life and also serves as DHV spikes. When she responds, it's because she has at least some level of attraction and I just have to maneuver my way into a date.

So far I have been sending casual messages like "Whats up! (Question) " I try to make things relevant to her profile so if I see she has a picture in Hawaii I may go "Wattup! Did you grow up in Hawaii/ Do you know how to surf? Are you into kayaking?" So far this is better than the "Hey I saw you while swiping on tinder blah blah" or "Hey I thought you looked nice blah blah" yeah no shit, they know they look nice because no one messages ppl they don't find attractive.

That's for girls I don't know yet. For girls that are friends of friends, it's much easier. You can go 2 routes:

1) If you have a good relationship with the mutual friend, simply say you're going to message X and get her situation so you don't waste your time.

2) If it's just an acquaintance and you don't feel comfortable telling this person you're interested in X, I have tried adding and if she accepts, THEN i'll message like "Hey, saw you're friends with Jessy, did you go to X high school?" or whatever question you want, just to open. If the acquaintance doesn't have much influence in your social circle and you don't mind someone showing your picture around like "omg do you know this creep?" Then simply send a simple message and hope for the best.

I have managed to get some solid girls from sliding into the DM's but I have not yet perfected the best messages to send and if I should Follow + Message or just Message and THEN follow, or just Follow and wait for a follow back to message.... Loads of field tests need to be done still, it would be nice to get a few of the guys here testing stuff so we can see what works best.

Stevpie · 2018-06-10T03:43:47+00:00

It depends. How well do you know the girl?

thatbowlwillseethe · 2018-06-10T06:23:34+00:00

If you don't know her then it would be pretty damn hard to not seem creepy unless you have a really popular and attractive page. Even then it's creepy, but there's a chance the girl will be willing to give you a shot if you seem worth it.

If you even are a little friendly with her then it can be easier. I'd wait till she posts something on her page or on her story and then dm her something funny about it. Don't force it and message her something lame. Imagine if you were getting a DM from some random person who you don't know is normal yet. It's gotta be good or you're gonna be pretty creeped out. After that I'd talk to her for a little on dm, don't try and force the conversation to go on for too long. Then, after a bit, message her "you seem kinda chill. What's your number (or Snapchat might be better if you haven't talked so much)". Then if she gives it to you, text her a little bit and then ask her on a date.

JakejtaSterben · 2018-06-10T12:42:56+00:00

Whether she thinks youre creepy or not isn't up to you its up to her. Ask her something you want to know or crack a joke you think is good or just say hi. If she likes you she'll think its cool if she doesnt she'll think its creepy.

masteryimain34 · 2018-06-10T05:32:25+00:00

You don’t seem creepy by being cool and not creepy. Was that hard?

Title	How do you slide into DM's the right way?
Author	CodeSkill
Upvotes	10
Comments	9
Date	June 10, 2018 2:46 AM UTC (8 years ago)
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