Any way to salvage the impression of 'neediness'?

thepreacher116 · 2013-05-18T00:22:57+00:00

Im a lurker and by no means some type of expert in this field. However it seems to me that the mere fact youre asking this question demonstrates neediness. You started talking to a girl and think you fucked up? 2 things: youre probably over analyzing (characteristic of neediness) and secondly, who cares its just a girl. Dont try to APPEAR aloof with girls, BE aloof. If deep down you really DGAF then you will appear that way.

If it seems like the question was dodged, well, no one on the internet knows you, her, your situation, what she thinks, what you think... so youre not going to get quality advice thats speific to your dilemma. peace

2013-05-18T03:20:54+00:00

Asking this question may seem needy at heart but the girl doesn't know this. He is asking how to salvage the appearance, not to actually be non-needy.

I say you bail and run...for a short period of time. Give it a couple of days and if she doesn't hit you up then either move on or be extremely assertive. Out of the blue, tell her that you're seeing each other and if she's down she's down and if she is not then move on.

HelloHiHello · 2013-05-18T05:21:24+00:00

Don't say "females" – focus on women in reality, not the "idea" of women in your head.

Take responsibility for your actions. Write from the first person. If you want to make changes in your life, you need to start from your core, and work outwards. Change your perspective.

Even though you really do care about the girl.

Well what have you done with this girl? Why do you really care about her? It sounds like you haven't been physical with her before. If that's the case, any sense of "caring" is in your head exclusively.

If you have been physical with her, you have more breathing room. In this case, I would suggest cutting off all contact with her for the period of 1 week - 1 month. Then text her after a month like nothing happened. Remember: This only works if you've been physical with her.

If you got needy and you've never touched her, you absolutely need to move on. The friendzone is literally self-inflicted hell. It is such a horrible waste of time with absolutely no way to win. NEVER EVER "work" to get into a friendzone! It has absolutely NO benefit, and you need to cut all contact with a girl who even thinks about putting you there.

But realize girls DON'T put us in the friendzone... the only way that happens is if we don't ESCALATE PHYSICALLY! In that way, we're damning ourselves to a hell we become addicted to.

"One" should cut off attention with this girl. If you've never gotten physical with her, the only way you could ever "reseduce" her is if she saw you seducing a bunch of girls. Anything else is pointless.

No clue on any of the details of your story, but from what you've written, that's my feedback.

immrtlsaij · 2013-05-18T00:24:49+00:00

once you've given any appearance as needy, there is only one solution: never make first contact again. if that means you have no contact ever again, then so be it. wait for her to contact you first, at least a couple times, before returning to normal contact behavior.

madog20x · 2013-05-18T04:12:17+00:00

Its difficult to say if its too late or not because every girl is different and their tolerance for neediness is different. Remember, show that you want her but dont need her. If you may have crossed that line but dont know, be direct and honest with her in a text. DONT PROFESS UNDYING LOVE FOR HER, but state that you're into her. If she doesnt respond or says shes not interested, youve been rejected, move on. At least you know.

Title	Any way to salvage the impression of 'neediness'?
Author	kylerjalen
Upvotes	8
Comments	17
Date	May 17, 2013 11:12 PM UTC (13 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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