How to not have a negative mindset after constant disinterest?

habbyshouse · 2019-11-21T02:38:19+00:00

What I've found is that seduction is a state of mind. The more you love yourself the easier it is to tap into that feeling and mindset. Women are emotional creatures and they can sense the vibe you're giving out.

Edit* You're also self-sabotaging yourself thinking you aren't good enough. Of course you're good enough, you just have to believe it and feel it.

2019-11-21T02:59:45+00:00

It’s better to be up front and honest during your interactions with women (while still maintaining some respect of course). Saying something along the lines of, “Excuse me, I just want to let you know that I find you very attractive and I heard you talking about weed yesterday. If you aren’t busy (right now or after school) let’s have a smoke together.”

Here you stated your intentions and all she can really do is say, “No I have a boyfriend,” or “Sure, why not?” Then you introduce yourself and whatever her response is you continue from where you left off.

The thing about situations in life is you never know how things might turn out or if the end result is really what it seems. There was a time when mankind didn’t understand why the sun came up and came down. Now we know it’s because the Earth revolves around the sun so it looks like the sun is coming up and going down when in reality, it isn’t.

What helps me is in situations like these is thinking of women like the people they are. Maybe she will reject you not because she has a boyfriend, but rather she doesn’t want to have mixed feelings about fucking you when she has a boyfriend. Or, maybe she will cheat on her significant other. Maybe he’s bad in bed and can’t get it up. Maybe her boyfriend is a cool guy and you accept the fact that she has a boyfriend and have a smoke with him too. You just never know man. Get out of your own way and start living life. You only have one. Peace and prosperity to you always.

passionlessDrone · 2019-11-21T03:24:54+00:00

Why would this girl ever go out of her way to make an effort to get to know me?

Because she sees value in people other than as romantic partners. People have value outside of wanting / not wanting to fuck you. Whatever you do, try to address this mindset before you do anything else.

Like today, I asked this girl next to me in class if she knew anyone who had weed because I overheard her talk about it the day before. I really wanted to ask if she wanted to smoke because I thought she was cute, not looking for weed actually

This is about the dumbest thing you could do. You can find a reason to talk to a woman without making up a rationale. Imagine the situation where she responds like this:

yeah, come over after class and let's get baked

Now what? Plus, what the hell, you don't need another connection? Everyone needs another connection. She can probably get you good weed and you are blocking her, are you kidding me?

rich_god · 2019-11-21T09:38:03+00:00

You're thinking everything completely upside down. You're too self-centered. Look at your post, it's only "people should be nicer to me", "why would anyone want to know me ?", it's you, you, you. That's why people ignore you. You don't even care about them, you only care about what they can bring you.

Change your mindset. What can you bring to other people ? What can you do to make their life more exciting, interesting, fun ? What fulfilling experience can you share with them ?

People don't owe you anything. They don't owe you to answer you, to reschedule with you, to do anything with you. Their only responsibility is to do what's right for them and follow what they want.

If you provide them something they value, like a nice moment, like helping them, like sharing an exciting and meaningful experience, they will want to spend more time with you, they will want to connect with you. If on top of that there is some physical attraction, they will want a romantic relationship with you.

if this girl has someone, I doubt she’d wanna get to know some random guy from her class.

Have you ever heard the word "friends" ? I have many girl friends I like to spend evenings with, smoking joints and talking about our lives. If you talk to every girls with the intention of seduction before you even know them, it will be difficult to have new people in your life. Especially if you lie to them and pretend you want something when you're actually trying to get in their pants.

Be honest, be authentic. Bring value in other people lives, and don't expect them to reciprocate. If they do, enjoy and thank them from your heart. Open yourself.

bigredten · 2019-11-21T13:21:38+00:00

Talk to ALOT more people. For 3 months commit to talking to almost everyone you see (when reasonable, but don't make excuses). Introduce yourself in a fun memorable way. This isn't meant to get you laid (it might), but you'll pick up on social queue's/behaviors better and you'll focus on the interactions instead of the outcome. Once you're able to talk to almost anyone, and know the appropriate responses in most situation then you'll be golden. I can almost guarantee that if you talk to 5 new people a day, for 3 months you'll notice a change.

ntipz011 · 2019-11-21T04:35:57+00:00

You're pissed because you're lost and powerless.

Grab a pen and paper and write EXACTLY what you do right and what you do wrong.

Give yourself objectives in the form of things that you have to do during the set, not in the form of outcome (ie : did I hold her attention throughout the set?).

Establish and try new ways to attain those objectives (ie : how to get her to stay focused on me during the whole interaction ?)

Think with that sexy brain of yours, or watch youtube videos answering your question. By now, every pickup question has at least 10 dedicated youtube video to answer it so you have no excuse. (ie : "how to NEVER lose a girls attention + infield !!1! 69 !" )

Practice, apply, go back to step 1.

Also, you could just pay a coach to do that work for you.

Title	How to not have a negative mindset after constant disinterest?
Author	habbyshouse
Upvotes	5
Comments	7
Date	November 21, 2019 1:18 AM UTC (6 years ago)
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