How to increase your "value"

TheXXL · 2016-05-11T14:28:46+00:00

I've recently found some confidence after years of terrible self-esteem and I'm wondering how I can increase my value

The biggest trap for people who came from a situation of no confidence, is to become extremely arrogant, and overconfident. This will decrease your value extremely.

to get attention from 10s and be able to talk to and bang attractive women.

Getting attention and being able to have sex with attractive women are two different things. If you are in the game for attention, you haven't understood it. The goal of the seduction community is to be able to seduce women, not to become one of them. A man doesn't need attention, he is the one that leads and takes what he wants. A woman is the one that is reliant on getting the attention from men. Ah, and by the way, don't start with this "she is a 10" crap, this scale was invented for the sole purpose of marketing, and is used to brag to your friends about what a stud you are. The problem with this is that it leads to seeing women as the center of your life, making you needy, craving for attention, which is just pathetic. A woman is not a trophy, and not your only reason to live, she is a great side effect of living a great fulfilled life.

To my credit, I'm a writer, I'm politically involved, and I'm trying to become an entrepreneur, and I work out and am pretty slim (not built, I have more of a runner's body than a bodybuilder's body).

Here you have you value, work on that, excel in what you do and you will become happy, therefore attractive.

But on the negative side, I have asperger's and I'm kinda new at this (I'm 18 and never had a gf or anything like that). So not to sound pompous, but I think I have some kind of potential. So, how can I improve my value?

I see more and more people coming to seddit who are autistic, and since i have no experience whatsoever with this particular thing, and i bet the majority of the other posters neither, i am not sure if this is the right place for you. It's worth a try though. my advice is to read the sidebar, and try out what might work for you. In terms of value, you are doing pretty good already.

CA_Tenant · 2016-05-13T14:25:45+00:00

Social-proofing has been able to turn failing sets into successful sets.

Yesterday, I approached a girl in a convenient store at school. I approached her, said hello, she said, "I have to work on a mid-term project with some classmates so I'm kind of in a hurry", grabbed a poptart and then headed for the check-out line. She effectively blew me off, as she had gone around the stand and she no longer sight.

I went around the stand, talked to her in line, and I kind of panicking on the inside because she was stonewalling me. I made a joke. She gave me a courtesy smile. So did the girl in front of us. I engaged the girl in front in conversation. I got her to laugh. The guy behind joins in. We make little jokes back and forth. THEN THE GIRL I ORIGINALLY APPROACHED ENERGETICALLY STARTS TALKING DIRECTLY TO ME!

Had I not made a small social group and dominated it while we were standing in line, she would have just left like she was planning to.

That gave me enough value where I was able to say, "well, let me introduce you to my friends first before we leave". They were sitting just outside the shop. She was then with me for about 1/2 an hour even though she was in a hurry.

Social proofing, man. It works miracles.

Title	How to increase your "value"
Author	henker220
Upvotes	3
Comments	3
Date	May 11, 2016 11:55 AM UTC (10 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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