Why i can’t get the concept of getting girls

Danielsavv · 2019-12-08T03:40:17+00:00

Cut almost all the bullshit you hear here and in most pua communities. They are selling shit.

Learn basic psychology thats well established and widespreadly accepted. Not some "gurus" advice. Hit the gym, eat right, get a better body. Pick good hairstyle / facial hair style that suits you Upgrade your clothes so they fit you best. Whiten/ repair your teeth Read / watch lots of interesting stuff so you have things to talk about. Make sure you know your own value and pick accordingly. And so on. U got the point.

2019-12-08T03:29:38+00:00

Yup I'm on same boat as you. For me i have just stopped trying... I hope someone more experienced answers this problem.

omega_constant · 2019-12-08T04:13:05+00:00

this is the biggest burden on my life i want to change that now

I think it's safe to say that most males in your age bracket feels exactly as you do during those years. There's nothing I'm going to say here that's going to magically get you a date but here are some tips that will hopefully help you:

Don't measure yourself against other guys, ever. Be yourself. This is not automatic, it takes time, determination and, most of all, courage. You have to become willing to be criticized. Let the critics criticize. As Eminem put it, "I’m sorry, wait, what's your talent? Oh, critiquing my talent." Critics are worthless husks of human beings that can only derive a sense of value by putting others down.
One of the first principles of sales is that it is up to you to close. "Closing" means getting a signature on the dotted line. Left to themselves, the customer will never make up their mind. So it's up to you to help them make their mind up. (NOTE: In the MeToo era, it is obligatory for me to note that I'm not talking about being rape-y, I'm talking about just taking the initiative and actually offering a date.) The ones that are a solid no will just tell you, "No." The ones that don't tell you "No" might have their mind changed if you are politely persistent and make sure to always leave the door open for future opportunities should they arise.
While your body is telling you that your most important problem in life is getting laid, the actually most important thing at your age is to find out who you are, as an individual. What are your life goals besides getting laid? What activities do you have outside of work/school/etc? What do you do for IRL social network (meetups, hobbies, outings with friends, etc)?
Meeting girls, getting dates, getting laid... these really are byproducts that will come about automatically if you focus on self-development while "putting yourself out there". Yes, you need to take the initiative. Yes, you need to approach IRL and/or send out inquires on OLD. But those activities need to be the 5%, the 95% needs to be focused on developing yourself, finding your goals and setting out a plan for achieving them. The more "on your path" you become, the easier it will become to meet and date women.

MountainClimax · 2019-12-08T13:17:00+00:00

You need more women to talk to. Eventually you say "fuck the strategies" and just communicate the way you want because of so much failure.

theonow · 2019-12-08T21:28:41+00:00

I'm a 33 year old man who has had only one sexual experience over 10 years ago. I read and re-read all these things too, Daniels. I'm even stuck on some one-itis. I don't know if you ever watch Seinfeld, but one of the best episodes is an episode where George Costanza does things in the opposite direction of his normalcy. The start being order a different sandwhich at a restaurant. After he does that an attractive woman gives him a look. Normally, he would think nothing of it and leave the diner. Instead, he goes up to her and introduces himself with complete honesty: "Hello, my name is George. I'm unemployed and I live with my parents." The woman becomes even more intrigued due to his brutal honesty and no qualm attitude about it. I, too, don't know how to approach women. Most ladies I know are through work and school colleagues. Keep putting yourself out there Daniels. You got this.

davidholaquehay · 2019-12-08T22:57:42+00:00

Work on your inner game

volcanolairbadguy · 2019-12-09T02:26:27+00:00

Its a numbers game. Meaning, volume, spam approach but calibrate. There's some girls you won't get. There's nothing but to move on. Get girls who like you.

SlowCivicSi · 2019-12-09T04:35:03+00:00

Don't make getting girls the biggest burden in your life bro. If you're 21, I'm assuming you're a college student or working full time, trying to build a career. I'm also 21, and I graduate in May, so trust me, I level with you. I've had my fair share of problems with forging relationships with girls.

Focus on yourself man, and don't try to be like anyone else. Discover who you are, work on your personality, learn useful skills or valuable and interesting conversation topics.

Think about it, instinctually the first thing you do when you see another human is consider them. I'm not telling you to spend every waking moment of your life flexing, but if you seem like a well put together guy who has his shit together, has good social skills and has standards you will meet someone who shares similar interests.

Besides that, look cool online lmao

Insaneflirt_max · 2019-12-08T06:16:22+00:00

Approach more

Title	Why i can’t get the concept of getting girls
Author	Danielsavv
Upvotes	11
Comments	13
Date	December 8, 2019 3:17 AM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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