Having trouble reconciling seduction with friendship

Dodechaedron · 2021-01-23T00:27:22+00:00

What is the problem? You need two to tango; if you approach in "seductive mode" and the other person reciprocates, you carry on. If you don't intend to seduce but be friends you don't do the innuendo, the kino, etc. Not being honest is when you promise friendship but really all you want is sex (and it generally doesn't work).

revente · 2021-01-23T03:58:08+00:00

Then don’t shit where you eat and go for the girls outside your closest social circles.

2021-01-23T07:01:03+00:00

It comes down to your motivations. I think it is possible to be sexy and seductive and also want to friendly with a person. That's like, how normal relationships work. Women like sex and flirting, after all.

OrzhovPalatine · 2021-01-23T19:22:39+00:00

Not really cause I compartmentalize and understand the parameters of each relationship.

alexmegoox · 2021-01-23T05:31:00+00:00

I find if you think of seduction more on the intimacy and strengthening the bond instead of on the advertisement and profit side it smooths it over with your conscience as there are many forms of intimacy not all of them being in a sexual manner. You don’t have to be dishonest if you convince yourself you want to be closer and not just seduce for sex it doesn’t have to cross over to the sexual side however if sex is what you want I’d suggest going with the intimacy route (convince yourself it’s to grow closer and it’s not just for sex I find that helps as far as the conscience goes) and get her feelings for you to grow substantially then one day she may be the one to initiate it ... that’s how you know the job is done in the long term (if you’re looking for sex that is), when she starts asking for sex

MakeSail · 2021-01-23T19:35:18+00:00

Seduction as a skill can be used for good or ill. For me, seduction is an extension of making an emotional connection with a woman which is nonbelligerent. That being said, to directly answer your question, as a man I don't really know the intentions of an interested woman until I find out who she and her needs, then I reflect on my own needs, and see if there is a basis for a relationship, which can be very diverse, or potentially, none at all.

So in understanding a woman and her needs, the approach for me is always the same. She is an individual, so I try to understand who she is during conversation. I know it probably sounds like a long series of questions and other mundane stuff. But it's not, and is very difficult to make people understand the techniques a man with connection and empathy skills can do to using just text like on reddit. You actually have to see seduction in real life to understand what is happening.

You adopt your approach based on the woman. It can be cerebral, playful, reflective, calming, caring, a combination of things etc. when you can read women you always have a basic idea as a starting point. But where seduction as a skill comes in, is in how quickly you can guide the conversation to uncover and satisfy desires (needs).

All women are different. There is no list or procedure to use. If you are skilled you adapt as you go emotionally guiding the interaction to make the best, and provide direction for, a relationship if one is possible.

Title	Having trouble reconciling seduction with friendship
Author	Grouchy-Mycologist52
Upvotes	11
Comments	8
Date	January 22, 2021 11:57 PM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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