So I've been dating a little but to be honest I've always thought that I get by on my looks since I've never tried too hard to get laid and it just ends up happening. I'm a good conversationalist but nothing special. I finally decided to stop leaning on that and experiment a little since I've been seeing 1 to 2 girls/week through OKC and Tinder.

Well last night I went out on a date with this girl I met on tinder, easily an 8/10, and I could tell she was 50/50 on meeting me initially. She didn't seem to be the kind of girl looking for a one night stand - definitely more of a dater looking for relationship material. We texted some jokes and I said we had to meet up and we scheduled to meet the next day (which was last night). I live really close to the bars near my apartment and offered to let her park there but she very sternly said, "No way. I'll meet you at the bar, thanks though." Obviously I came off as a rapist - oh well.

We started chatting once I got to the bar and she was telling me some stories about her day, and she was a little standoffish. To start the date off well I went along with the conversation and made her feel comfortable, selecting what I thought was interesting and choosing to talk about those topics further and get to know her - very subtly guiding the conversation because this hit me as a girl who liked to be in control, but I wanted to come off as if I had the ultimate direction of things. She started disclosing more but it felt more friends than anything else and she didn't hit me as interested at all so I thought "fuck it let's experiment." Once I caught her intimating more vividly with her talking points, maybe feeling as if we were friends, I immediately leaned back, crossed my arms and acted like I wasn't really that interested (frankly though, what she was saying was gossipy and boring). You could really feel the tension that comes when a first date isn't going that well and you wonder what to do - the conversation starts dying, I'm sure we've all been there, and normally I would try to talk through it. Instead of accommodating the tension because I thought it might be my fault I let it sit for the first time ever. I found her stuttering to find things to say and looking down at her lap.

I immediately jumped to the fact she was from a foreign country and asked some thoughtful questions on where she was from, and she just immediately started talking more intimately about things. I don't know what it was but it was right then and there that I feel like I watched the switch flip for me from "random guy" to "guy I would probably sleep with."

I pulled some kino then and put my hand on her thigh (sitting at a bar, very natural) and could tell she was comfortable with it. Once she put her hand back on mine I immediately took a breather and leaned back again, not getting as quiet as before but not looking to carry the conversation or try, and removed any touch from the equation. She ended up carrying more of the conversation and I worked in style's invaluable "let me see your hands - rings" routine. After that I pulled away again but didn't cross my arms, just gazed at the basketball game on the tv for a minute and acted distracted.

At this point she pretty much jumped on me, pulling her legs up and putting them over mine while leaning back and looking for affirmation and attention - it was CRAZY! We had each only had maybe 1 drink too, so it's not like the booze did anything. I made a joke about it being expensive to drink and she immediately said, "Well there's no way we're going to your apartment tonight, I just met you!" I hadn't even mentioned my apartment so I took it as a good sign. I then made fun of how much she was touching me, saying that's not the way you treat someone you just met too, and then said I wanted to try another bar (switch locations, make it feel like a journey or whatever from the mystery playbook).

Anyways, I ended up doing the same moves - 2 steps forward, one step back - at the next bar too. I experimented with other ways of jumping forward after touching and began to get explicitly sexual - she stretched and I just gawked at her chest - only to then pull away from touching at all and looked at other girls at the bar. She would lick her lips and I (very subtly) would lean back and not kiss her. Long story short, a girl that wouldn't park at my place before a date ended up staying the night.

TL;DR - this Push/Pull stuff is crack to women, confirmed by experience