Kissly virgin needs advise on a girl who might be hitting on me.

Nointhr · 2013-08-23T05:59:40+00:00

Assume attraction
Escalate

PrettyBlueEyes · 2013-08-23T07:31:31+00:00

Sounds like she's just naturally flirty. Don't assume she's into you, but test it, ask her if she wants to do something with you some time, like go out dancing, just the two of you.

centurijon · 2013-08-23T13:55:14+00:00

I thought she just wanted the attention(I'm asian) to show she has different kinds of friends.

Always assume attraction.

she came up to me and asked me to grind on her. I wasn't feeling it so I just gave her a hug instead.

Well, it's good that you stood up for what you wanted, but that is a pretty big open invitation.

She made some remarks about me a couple of time and pointed at me a little while dancing. What does this mean?

Schrodinger's conversation. It could mean everything, it could mean nothing. Until you discover what was said, it is in a state where it is simultaneously everything and nothing.

This girl is really outgoing and kinda hipster. She sometimes says stuff and doesn't mean it. [...examples...] Could it be just attention seeking?

On the surface, that's what it seems like.

Today is her birthday, and we are going to her apartment along with crap ton of other people. Experts of seddit, I desperately need your help.

Assume attraction
Display confidence
Flirt, escalate
KINO
If her IOIs drop to zero, then stop giving her anything beyond friendly attention
Demonstrate your intentions. Use your actions, not words. If you go for a kiss, make sure you're in private
At the party, don't focus on her. Have fun. Maybe you'll meet someone that you like more
At the party, go for longevity. If you drink then drink lightly, try to be the last man standing. As people fade out of the apartment you'll be more able to have real conversations and flirt a bit more heavily

thelateoctober · 2013-08-23T13:50:49+00:00

Im terrible at these things, but... Id have a few drinks, then TELL her when you will be doing something, anything, together alone. I think the kind of girl you describe likes that. Again im bad at this stuff but thats what i would do.

ltkernelsanders · 2013-08-23T14:07:20+00:00

Dude, pretty sure if she's that out going in those ways she's in to you and if she's that all over the place and you try to escalate but get rejected, you can just chalk it up to her being that way. There's no real downside, right now you aren't fucking her, if you fail, you are right back where you were, if you succeed, well you succeeded.

Okuser · 2013-08-23T16:15:02+00:00

You wouldn't grind with her?? That poor girl...

Sr_Wafffles · 2013-08-23T17:03:22+00:00

No more I TALK TO THIS GIRL WHAT DO threads, read the sidebar and actually get a grip on this stuff

SpenceMasta · 2013-08-23T14:55:13+00:00

when she said shes catholic, you shouldve said, "me too, but not the religion, just plagued by thoughts of guilt and sex (cause youre asian and self aware and not sensitive about it)", she laughs, youve humored her and bonded, then you ask her out for her number

Title	Kissly virgin needs advise on a girl who might be hitting on me.
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Date	August 23, 2013 5:52 AM UTC (12 years ago)
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