This is a very common recommendation for people, so I would like to ask, what should I do once I’ve met them?
Just for background I’m 24, quite introverted and am in need of work to improve his social skills especially with women.
That said, I have a couple of hobbies where girls are frequent. My main homework for now and until we return from New Year’s break, is to take action to just meet them. I was wondering, what do I do once I’ve done that? I’ve met some cute girls (or at least ones I find attractive) but not sure how to take it further...
[–]rich_god 1 point2 points3 points (2 children) | Copy Link
What are your hobbies ? How do you meet those people ?
Basically once you've met them you get to know them better, you build excitement and attraction, you go on dates, things like that.
[–]Zlint[S] 0 points1 point2 points (1 child) | Copy Link
The hobbies I do is a running club and dance lessons.
With the running club I usually just meet them by randomly talking to people about how they feel for the run, if they come often, or what they’re wearing (like a sports team shirt).
With the dance class we rotate partners so I just ask them for their names, if it’s their first time or how they’re finding the moves. Just quick small talk with not much time since we rotate a lot and fast.
I try to meet girls and guys for both hobbies so no pressure on me to just talk to girls only. My main priority for now is to just put myself out there and challenge my shyness but I’ve met some cute girls who seem single and it got me wondering.
[–]rich_god 1 point2 points3 points (0 children) | Copy Link
It's great ! Definitely the good way forward. What I would do is like start a facebook or Whatsapp group then propose a social event like a salsa night in a bar, or just grab a drink with the running club. There you can talk more in-depth with the people you want to connect with. Also being the leader in that situation makes you stand out.
All in all, you're doing great. Give it a bit of time, talk with them when given the opportunity, build complicity and attraction and try to bring value to them (by bringing fun, making compliments on their improvements, talking about things they like, being curious).
[–]WIA20XX[🍰] 1 point2 points3 points (0 children) | Copy Link
The only way to get good at talking to girls is by talking to girls.
Hobbies, lifting, making money, etc are all SECONDARY strategies.
Hobbies and a cool lifestyle make you a well rounded person, but they are no replacement for opening, transitioning, attracting, qualifying, getting investment, building trust, solving problems, and sealing the deal.