What to do when you've gained the reputation of a sleazy guy?

emilcioran123 · 2018-10-26T14:06:26+00:00

Stop getting so wasted.

K3wp · 2018-10-26T15:03:04+00:00

Speaking from experience, most 'AAA' girls will DQ you for being a man slut. So it's up to you to make a decision what you want, bar whores or HBs.

I will say that you are young and people have short memories, so if you stop doing it and actively cultivate a more mature persona people are going to forget. And if someone keeps bringing it up, you need to 'fire' them from your social circle and make new friends.

2018-10-26T17:46:15+00:00

Well you should be hitting the gym hard, and alcohol doesn't mix with that.. honestly give that shit up. As someone in my 30's I wish I could take back every dumb blackout night along with the trouble and shame most of them brought me.

What can you do is not any more. Or do it when your friends aren't there.

Cultivating a good IG feed might help too, doing stuff that isn't drinking. Show to people who know you that their impression of you being a 24/7 drunk isn't accurate because there you are on a hiking trip, another at a car show, whatever else it is you do outside of the bars.

ivan_mcnasty · 2018-10-26T17:40:23+00:00

Blacking out might seem normal because it’s college, but it is actually pretty dangerous

I’ve had friends hurt themselves badly and some developed alcoholism because they thought drinking like that was normal. Just make sure you are still in control of your drinking, if you’re not - you really need to re-evaluate now before you develop a life long problem. Try taking a week or two off and see if you have the will power to not take a drink, if yes - you’re fine.

I am now long past college, Just my anonymous 2c.

As far as a from a game perspective, don’t feel too bad. You have the skills to get the girls, you just need to adjust your approach.

Practice some longer term oriented game. Get to know some of the next girls first. Don’t fuck them on the first night even if they let you. Court them a little bit while still maintaining your sexual frame. This will drive them wild. It will be this investment from them that will likely lead to a longer term relationship.

Of course also understand that relationships are natural. You can’t force them. I grew up with paranoid disorder and anti social disorder. This makes me great for being a player but harder to build trust and love someone. Maybe it sounds like you might experience a similar thing. If this is true for you, it will take time. Many years, but it can be done.

Even though others might downvote this advice, try being more romantic. Write some poems, make some cute games for you and the girls. Instead of using your charm to escalate to sex, use your charm and run away. You will find she may start to chase. There is nothing wrong with being romantic, even though the I could predixt some readers here would argue otherwise.” Remember that life is not linear, you don’t always need to follow the algorithm. Alpha does not have to be aggressive by default. This will make you a much stronger alpha anyways.

Try treating women less like objects and more like humans and you may find what you are looking for.

As far as the social image, don’t stress about it. Anyone who gives you shit you could easily cut out of your life. Before you know it this will be behind you, but your actions are what define how people see who you are.

Focus on that instead of their opinions

RussianFakeNewsBot · 2018-10-27T01:24:55+00:00

Blacking out is a nightmare, I've done it countless times and it's never been enjoyable. I live in a culture where it's close to normal behaviour so I can get away with it but it's a terrible place to be in. The anxiety is off the charts when you wake up after a work night out not remembering how you got home or what you said.

Best advice is to knock that on the head and drink a little bit for fun, never aim to be getting wankered. Admittedly it's one of my weaknesses and not only is it no help to your social life, its terrible for your mental and physical health.

If you like the action of drinking, try single spirit and mixers or weak beers.

Title	What to do when you've gained the reputation of a sleazy guy?
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Date	October 26, 2018 1:37 PM UTC (7 years ago)
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