Okay guys this is going to be really long, but I hope you enjoy:

This happened last Friday while I was visiting some friends in a different city (one I've never been in before). Me and another buddy went out to this lounge style bar because another friend of ours was DJing there that night. We were both on the guest list, so it felt pretty awesome when we got to say "oh, we're on the list." We said hi, got drinks, and danced a little bit. There weren't many girls in the bar, and the few that were there were with guys already, so my buddy and I just hung out and got into the music.

After a while more people showed up, including more girls, but I was feeling really out of state and was feeling a lot of AA, psyching myself out a lot. Eventually I just went to the bathroom, got a new drink and walked up to the first girl I saw and said "Hey, how's your night going?" She was really receptive and pretty cute so we talked a bit, but she pissed me off by saying something shitty about one of my friends (a girl that bumped into her) and hating on the music my buddy was playing. I told her I had to get back to my friends and bailed. I tried opening up another couple girls but it didn't go anywhere.

After a bit longer my friend and I started talking to this music producer that was a friend of our DJ friend, but I was kind of on the sidelines of the convo, not having much to talk about and being in my own head. I knew we were all getting ready to leave so I made a promise I'd make one more approach before taking off, and not 10 seconds later I see the two most gorgeous girls I'd seen all night walk by, both Indian descent (Dem eyes). I felt myself start to psych out, so just walked up without thinking of anything to say.

"Hey, how's it going? I've only been in this city for three days" was what came out and first thing I thought to myself was that was kind of stupid but they both got immediately excited. "Oh really? where are you from?" "What are you doing here?" I started in immediately with the kino, leaning in close to talk and putting my hand on their lower backs a lot, and they both reciprocated touching my arms and shoulders. I actually felt myself go on autopilot where I pretty much stopped thinking about what they were thinking and all that stuff and just enjoyed the flirting. We were all making fun of each other and I kept making sex jokes and innuendos. I definitely liked one girl more than the other and could tell she liked me too, so when my buddy showed up I introduced them all, and things just kept working out (I'd already talked him up knowing he'd show up eventually so they'd be comfortable with him).

My buddy and the other girl went to dance and I stayed with the girl who I'll call Allie from now on because that's the first name that cam into my head. We ripped on each other, both being pretty cocky/funny, and getting closer/touching until I kissed her (still pretty much on auto pilot). She pulled away and said "I'm not going to kiss you, do you even remember my name?" I said "sure I do, it's Ashley" (very much not her name). She laughed and called me an asshole. I took her hand and told her to come dance with me. "You really want to dance?" she said, sounding skeptical "yup." and gave her a stupid grin. I went in to kiss her again and she kissed me back HARD, like shoved her tongue right in there.

We danced and made out while I grabbed her ass. The place closed down at around 2:30, so we went outside and found our friends who were still hanging out. We all went to get a snack and spent about 45 minutes on the street. I was making out with Allie while our friends (both much drunker) wandered around and did whatever.

I kept saying she should come back to my hotel room but she kept saying no, but we did make plans to hang out the next day. I was pretty aloof the whole time because I was really just having fun with the whole situation. She was a fun girl to be with because we challenged each other quite a lot. She told me she liked how bold and honest I am. I was saying whatever came into my head, like "hey let's go bang behind that dumpster." If she said she was a classy girl I said "bullshit" and grabbed her ass. This is the kind of behavior I always kept myself from engaging in because I thought it made me a dick, but now I realize that under the right circumstances it's just dumb fun. Besides she was doing the same. I'd say something like "you're pretty glad I came up to you tonight eh?" and she'd say "Not really, I'm not attracted to you and you're really annoying." and me, "Yeah I can tell" and then I'd kiss her and we'd make out again.

Eventually she agreed to come back to my hotel after her friend did (buddy and I shared a hotel room, but it was like an apartment with different rooms). We made out but she kept shooting me down whenever I tried to take things further. She wouldn't even let my reach under her shirt. I realized she liked it rough at one point when I said something snarky and she tried to pinch me. I grabbed her hands and she gave me this look like "yeah fucking give it to me," so I held her down and she went wild, but still wouldn't let me get any further. It was kind of baffling actually, because I've never been with a girl that's in to me basically choking her and holding her down, dry humping like mad, but won't even let me get a good boob grab. I guess it may be partly cultural. She was Hindu and still lived with her family despite having a great job. She even was talking about how her dad was going to be worried about her and waiting up for her (she's 26).

Her and her friend left at 6am and said I should call her the next day (that day at that point?). My buddy at least got the other girl's shirt off but nobody got laid that night. The next day we met up, did some more intense making out and then some touristy stuff before she had to go to work (graveyard shift). She was super affectionate and kept grabbing my hand etc as we walked around, even did a bit of making out. We were still challenging each other all day. At one point she said "you haven't complimented me once yet you know" I said "Don't guys tell you you're hot and gorgeous all the time?" "yeah" "So I don't need to do I? They do it for me." At that she gave me a big smile and shook her head like "you cocky asshole" I kissed her then said "I'll tell you one thing though, you're very interesting." Damn did she love that.

We again made plans to hang out the next day (my last in the city), but she flaked and said she wasn't able to see me since it was too late by the time we were able to. I wasn't actually that choked because I wanted to spend some more time with my friends who I won't see again for a while anyway.

Overall I had a lot of fun, and the whole thing did wonders for my confidence. She was definitely the most beautiful girl I've ever met in a bar, and since then I've really stopped seeing hot girls as these mystical creatures that were beyond my grasp and more as just other people. It's too bad I didn't get laid, or at least get to see her boobies, but honestly I'm not too choked, I count this as a success. Plus I remembered how much fun I had being cocky and funny and flirting with a girl that challenges me.

TL;DR: Picked up a gorgeous girl, made out, didn't get laid but had a lot of fun anyway.