Should you ever question and ask "Why?" or for a reason when a woman completely ghosts you?

hiddenpleasures123 · 2018-08-22T07:52:24+00:00

Ghosting =

She's lost interest completely. You are of no use to her. (There the question is answered)

Don't ask why, cut your losses and move on. Do not take/ask for advice from women on what you did wrong(it's often the most superficial reason why they stopped and they will NOT tell you). Believe me, one of my plates ghosted her boyfriend of a year and a half because he was opposed to nipple piercings and took her to get them away(she told him "She needs to be alone for now".. even though she wants a LTR with me)

Brush up on your game and strategy.

vandaalen · 2018-08-22T06:02:11+00:00

Talking to a girl on online dating, going back and worth, long length conversations, and suddenly she stops responding.

If you would have read the fucking sidebar you you would know the answer and wouldn't have to contemplate asking a sit pisser for advice.

Never ask for reasons. They won't know the real reason anyways and if they would, they wouldn't tell you. Just next.

fnordsnord · 2018-08-22T16:04:25+00:00

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__uwotm8__ · 2018-08-22T09:28:17+00:00

Usually I would never bother, because at that point the attraction is already gone and asking why only makes you look weak and needy.

About a week ago I decided to go against that and actually asked. I wasn’t trying to negotiate my way back or anything like that, I’ve accepted that it’s gone, but I was also genuinely very curious to know what went wrong, so that I can be wiser next time. It was about me and not about her. The girl felt like a very honest person, so I assumed it might not be a total waste of my time to just ask.

Some background: HB9, a doctor, super smart, my age (31) but very well kept. We went on one date which went super well. Huge IOIs. Brought her over to my place that night. She was on her period so couldn’t fuck, but gave me great head. She was super horny and told me how bad she wants to fuck. We spent about 1-2 hours just cuddling and building comfort after that. The next day she started texting me and she suggested that we meet the day after, showing lots of interest. The schedule didn’t work for me, and after that I just couldn’t make plans with her. She was always “busy”. I tried twice and got the same answer, “I don’t have time this week”. Soft nexted for about a week, no response from her. I realized it’s over. Then one night, about a week ago, I felt like I want to know what the hell happened since I thought I had it in the bag.

According to her, she got the vibe of a “player” from me, who doesn’t want anything too serious. She specifically mentioned how I was being so aloof and negged her a lot and that made her feel like I’m not that interested in her other than casual sex. Which kinda sucks, because I am actually looking for a LTR and she looked like a promising candidate. Oh well.

I feel like I got good feedback, which I will use in the future with other girls to better calibrated my game. So overall I would say I’m glad I asked and I would recommend that you do the same every now and then, but only when you want to learn.

markmcccc · 2018-08-22T07:29:42+00:00

Nah, move on to the next girl.

purplefidgetmidget · 2018-08-22T08:11:18+00:00

No, nor will she tell you.

Musicgoon · 2018-08-22T09:26:21+00:00

You won't get answers.. Don't bother. Just move on.

oytrp · 2018-08-22T14:48:24+00:00

You know the answer: You weren't good enough.

Asking why is just sad and pathetic.

Psychological_Radish · 2018-08-22T18:06:33+00:00

The online dating answer is simple: you never got around to asking her out, so she grew bored and disinterested. Try to ask her out by the 6th message. If she tries to stall or stops responding then it means she isn't that into you.

As to the actual date, you'll never get a straight answer like others here have been saying. Women don't understand what makes them attracted to one guy vs another, except for vague notions of confidence and charm.

Introspection is your best course of action. Think about how your own behavior and see if you can pinpoint what you're doing wrong.

marcus8crassus · 2018-08-22T04:45:43+00:00

In terms of messaging online, ya, build some rapport. But move to set up a date quickly. That pussy is drying up the longer you text back n forth. Logistics.

As for ghosting, you win some, you lose some. I wouldn’t sweat it. But if it’s always happening, there may be something wrong with your game or personality.

Title	Should you ever question and ask "Why?" or for a reason when a woman completely ghosts you?
Author	Major_Outlandishness
Upvotes	4
Comments	19
Date	August 22, 2018 4:32 AM UTC (7 years ago)
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