I've never been one to ask for help...

Casually · 2010-03-03T18:49:15+00:00

The great thing about college is that there are an endless amount of clubs and teams to join, if you are so inclined.

You should sign up for as many as seem interesting and go to a few events.

Your schedule probably won't allow you to stay in all of the groups but you will get a sense after one or two meetings which are more social than others.

Stick to the groups with good social vibes and have fun meeting like minded individuals.

Enjoy yourself and others will enjoy your company.

The rest will follow. Good luck and have fun.

ryno55 · 2010-03-03T20:03:36+00:00

don't do anything that involves the internet after 7pm
go to advertised events on campus, you will see plenty of girls there
talk to the guys at those events
talk to the girls at the those events
rush one or more fraternities, you get free food and will meet a ton of people and there's no commitment
start going to the gym with a workout buddy. that's a good way to make a friendship.

Guy friends make girl friends in college, you want to expand your social network IRL. Keep talking to people and throwing yourself out there and your social ability with the ladies will only get better.

GreatBarrierReefer · 2010-03-03T21:49:13+00:00

Oh, and I might add that physical contact is REALLY important to college girls. This was a sticking point of mine, as I was raised in a very verbal family were hugs were rare or whatever. You could be an extremely witty conversationalist, but unless the college girl is super confident, then she is going to be confused if you don't add some sort of physical spark at least.

Hugs, light touch to the arm to emphasize a point, light touch to the back. These are all still within the realm of "Platonic friends" but they start the vibe and give you the confidence for something a little more implicit, like touch the belly or hair or back of the neck etc.

godlessgamergirl · 2010-03-03T19:22:43+00:00

I always recommend volunteering if you want to meet caring compassionate people who believe in a cause. You are FAR more likely to meet a nice girl volunteering at the local soup kitchen than you are at the local meat market.

GreatBarrierReefer · 2010-03-03T21:21:01+00:00

I am in a similar position mate, and made the concious decision to change the way I interact with women a few months ago. I'm still working hard and failing a alot, but I am succeeding more and more often so I am confident that I am improving.

Depending on what kind of learner you are, I recommend the following:

If you love to geek out on things like me, and can learn well from books, try Neil Strauss' 30 Day Challenge. I starts from the very, very beginning (Nobody is shy enough to start the challenge according to Strauss). Secondly, for college specific pointers, I recommend Mark Redman's Conquer your Campus, which provided a lot of insight into how college social scenes work.

If you are a more pragmatic learner, I suggest hanging out with a friend who is better than you at picking up chicks and learning by osmosis.

If you are a more direct learner, you could try just approaching as many women as possible and implementing tips from reddit and other forums one at a time. I know the Demonic Confidence program has you approaching 30 women a day, every day. Even if it is just ask the time.

My personal advice:

Always have something better to do than meeting women (or appear to have something better to do). Get involved in a new hobby. Enthusiasm will increase your confidence, and is contagious with the women.

Have a strong social group, but don't be afraid to meet new people. In college, everyone is figuring their shit out, so I find that students are more willing to talk to a stranger/ cut you some social slack as long as your put yourself out there.

Don't worry about bars. You should be meeting enough people (guy and girls) to have house/frat/dorm parties to go to all night long. Don't forget to go to concerts and external nightlife as well, keeps you social rounded and gives you plenty of stories.

As far as looks? Sure, getting in shape will always help, but a sense of style and an ability to articulate yourself is much more important.

I have a friend who happens to be a 300 pound samoan kid. He is, exceedingly witty (a couple of deviations smarter than the average person) and well styled (He is a DJ, so we are talking brightly colored kicks, hoodies, messanger bag, etc.). His physical appearance is by no means the cultural norm of "attractive", but between his enthusiasm for his hobbies, his evident self-confidence in how he carries himself and his style, and his whip-like wit, he has pulled some of the hottest college girls I have ever seen while the competing frat boys are busy popping their collars trying to figure out how they failed where he succeeded.

mynewname · 2010-03-03T21:20:13+00:00

A word of consolation: you just started college. Don't feel that you have to figure out everything right away.

I was pretty unsatisfied socially throughout most of my freshman year. Even Jon Stewart was "miserable" in college. You end up meeting people in your classes that you click with more than others. You end up meeting everyone in your major.

Anyway, you've got some good advice here and a headstart on the problem so don't worry too much. Definitely get off the computer and make facetime.

2010-03-09T07:45:09+00:00

You have a lot of learning to do. Picking up girls is not easy. its an art and you have to read a lot of information. I would start with mystery method, swinggcat guide to seduction.

Title	I've never been one to ask for help...
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Date	March 3, 2010 5:57 PM UTC (16 years ago)
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