Reddit, help me get the girl for valentines day!

solocup · 2011-02-04T16:00:07+00:00

You did do it wrong.

In particular, the "how do I get this one girl" section.

SpookyKG · 2011-02-04T16:59:37+00:00

If you haven't seen her in a month, you've already lost.

frogma · 2011-02-04T16:20:57+00:00

Don't plan so far ahead- you have no idea how your first interaction is going to go. As it stands, it doesn't sound like you've built any attraction.

Don't even finish that book (in fact, it's probably better if you don't, because you'll have a more interesting conversation since she's done with it and you're not. However, it's already gonna look desperate if she knows you got the book just because she liked it. Also, for the love of god, don't spend 20 minutes talking about one book).

Invite her out as soon as possible- before any attraction she may have felt is dead- and definitely read the sidebar.

morowhat · 2011-02-04T16:39:14+00:00

Seduction is not about attracting one girl in particular, it is about being attractive to women in general. This was your first mistake. If you take a minute to glance over at the sidebar (----->), you will notice that there is a section entitled If you are a total newbie OR HAVE A QUESTION ABOUT ONE PARTICULAR GIRL YOU LIKE, read through this material before asking any questions in the form of a post! This is for you.

Since then I've texted her a few times (first time was a day after, because apparently I like making myself seem a little desperate/i think it makes me seem like a more genuine guy) and had a few somewhat encouraging conversations on facebook.

When it comes to texting, less is definitely more in the world of seduction. The more you text, the more needy you will appear in her eyes. Being needy is one of the biggest turn offs for women. You say that by being desperate, it makes you seem more genuine. I don't follow your reasoning, unless you mean that you come across as genuinely desperate. This is a vibe that vanishingly few women will be attracted to. It is nearly impossible to build attraction via text messages or Facebook. You state that you only met her in person briefly, so it is likely you did not build a huge amount of attraction. Moreover, two months have passed in the meantime and any interest she had has likely waned.

Reading her favourite book might sound like a good strategy but it is not. It comes across as try hard and it shows that you are seeking her validation. You need to get to a place where she is the one seeking your validation, not the other way around. You need to be someone who offers value to women, not someone who takes it. You should want to talk about things that interest you, not things that you think she might be interested in talking about.

Movies are a horrible date idea. Not only are they cliched but they present little opportunity for physical contact or connecting with the girl.

You have a long way to go. Hang around and you'll learn a ton. I guarantee it!

Title	Reddit, help me get the girl for valentines day!
Author	morowhat
Upvotes	0
Comments	12
Date	February 4, 2011 3:44 PM UTC (15 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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