Hi.

I thought this might be helpful to some of you experiencing AA. I saw someone else's theory about "the truth", but I think it's much more simple than that.

I think "Confidence" and not having any AA is just about Not Thinking It's A Big Deal. For whatever value of "It".

It's not a big deal if you stop someone on the street to talk to her. It's not a big deal if you decide to approach a table full of hotties at a random restaurant. It's not a big deal what you say, or what happens, and so on.

You get the idea. Let's go through some examples:

Today I was wandering around, just taking care of some errands. At some point I stopped at a pharmacy, because there was a cute girl at the counter (actually two, but I chose a target), and I actually noticed she looked interested in me. (I've been completely blind & oblivious to everything back in my Hard-Core AFC Days)

Then I just decided to go up to her and say: "you look like you'd like to go out with me". This is Vietnam, so she didn't quite understand. They gave me a piece of paper and a pen, and I wrote the same thing down. Then they got it, and thought it was funny :)

We talked through pieces of paper for quite a long time. It was actually kind of romantic! :) But I was just having fun with the situation, and coming up with some "cute" lines etc. Sometimes I'd give her a "sensual look" (at least that's what I think they are :p), and she'd respond in kind.

Eventually I picked up her number and e-mail address, and she'd definitely go out with me if I wasn't leaving the country in a couple of days. Didn't mention it yet though, but I'd be honest with her if we went out.

Some time later, I was walking on the street, and passed by a group of three girls. One of them was kind of hot, maybe a HB8, so I just looked at her in an appraising way when side-by-side. She opened and asked my name or something.

I decided to have some more fun experimenting with approaches & kino. I practically instantly stole her away from her friends by "leading her around" and being kind of forward about touching her, not really thinking about anything I was doing, no tactics, no routines. Just went with it, grabbed her hand and kind of like investigated her fingers. For some reason, her pinkies were really short, so I asked if she had been in an accident or something, etc. That wasn't meant as a neg by the way, it was just what I thought might have happened.

After a while, she had left her friends somewhere, and led me to some place where they sell SIM cards, etc, and all the while I was just.. I don't know, doing and saying whatever happened. Nothing spectacular, I just maintained an experimental kind of mood.

I collected her number, and she kept making sure I'd call her after I'd had lunch etc, and then we parted ways.

I went into a restaurant, and saw a group of four HBs 9, 9, 8.5 and let's say 6.5. The hottest one had huuuge breasts OMFG, which sure caught my attention as I was being seated. So on a whim, I pointed at the table of hotties and asked the waitress how old she thought they were. She didn't really answer that question, but I talked with her some more and somehow she ended up blushing while taking my order. Again, I didn't really do anything special, maybe just looked at her in a sensual way or something :p

While eating, I noticed that Miss Huge Boobs turned around to look at me a couple of times, but it had already occurred to me that "Shit, I could just go over there and ask them how old they were."

So after I finished eating, I walked up to their table, and asked. Walking up to a table of four hotties in the middle of them having lunch: No Big Deal. They told me they were all 19, and students at where-ever. I told them I had no idea if they were 15 or 16 or 19, as it's always difficult to tell with Asian women (/people).

Pretty soon one of them popped The Question: "do you like Vietnamese women?" :D Hah! This happens basically anywhere in Asia you go. "Do you like Japanese women?" "Do you like Korean women?".. Of course, they already know the answer - pretty much every single white guy in Asia likes Asian women, and luckily Asian women tend to like white guys, so it's a win-win!

Now, in the spirit of not trying to look any studlier than I actually am, I haven't actually been fucking hot Asian Chicks left & right in the aforementioned countries. But I do feel like I've always been a Natural, but he's just been buried under all the AFCness etc. So now I'm in the process of letting loose my inner Natural :p

So anyway, I replied by asking if they liked Western men. The hottest one with the huuuge boobs was looking kind of unwelcoming, so I pointed to her and commented: "She doesn't like Western men! She looks so gloomy". Hmm.. Well, I just plowed on with the question of them liking Western men, asking each one in turn. They didn't really want to admit to it, but one of them ended up saying something about "all" of her classmates or something liking us.

After I while, it was my turn to pop a question: "Which one of you would like to go out with me?", pointing at Huge Boobs (huge, I tell you, huge! no, not Hendricks-huge - that's just fucking gross) and the other HB9. I suggested they flip a coin to see which one "wins" :p HB8.5 actually pulled out some kind of coin-flipping-app on her iPhone! :) But then the other HB9 pointed out that Huge Boobs has a boyfriend, and I countered with "OK so it's just you two then", pointing at HBs 9 & 8.5

Hmm.. Now that I'm recounting the tale, I can't help but wonder if three of the four actually had boyfriends. They did point to the fourth, non-interesting one, right away when I asked who'd like to go out with me. At least during the encounter, I felt like there was no reason to doubt them (having boyfriends).

Anyway, all the good ones had boyfriends, so things kind of slowed down pretty soon afterwards. That was No Big Deal, though, so in the end I just chatted with them a bit more, finally wished them a good day "even without me" :P and walked away.

All in all, it was an interesting day. I got to experiment with some approaches, gathering some XP for the next Level Up :p

Oh, and the thing that other guy described in his "the truth" "essay" where women just completely fucking ignore you when you approach them has happened to me dozens/hundreds of times. I never went to the toilet to cry, but it always hurt to varying degrees, yes.

That bit about the toilet may have been exaggerated for dramatic effect (and eyeballs for his website and buyers for his app) though.

I hope this helped in some way.