[FR] Text game. I didn't get the date I wanted, but I think I did some pretty good things. Critiques?

rocket31 · 2011-03-23T19:24:34+00:00

i personally thought that was terrible. you demonstrated low value and neediness throughout.

leevs11 · 2011-03-23T21:20:08+00:00

ME: Hey, you sexy thang! How's class?

The term "sexy thang" makes you sound like a highschooler.

ME: You're right. I'm extremely gay. That's why I'm hitting you up.

Hitting you up just sounds like you are hoping to get a date with her.

ME: It's your sexy manly features that does it for me. hahaha.

Two texts in a row? Remember the 2/3 rule. Two responses from you for every 3 of hers. Going the opposite way is beta suicide. Also, don't call a chick manly.

ME: Not enough tho. That's why it would never work out between us... sexy womanly curves is a huge turn off.

So now she is manly and doesn't have sexy womanly curves?

ME: But I'm still gonna take you out on friday. Maybe you can covert me. ;)

2 responses in a row again... Never say "take you out". Use meet up, hook up, grab a drink, bang, whatever, but you are not taking her out. That sounds like you are her dad taking her out for a nice dinner because he is in town.

ME: Haha. Convert... stupid autocorrect.

Don't explain yourself, just make a joke like the next line.

ME: We are totally going to go spy... covertly.

Nice flirty joke, too bad it was the second text in a row for the third time.

Me: what

Forget about it.

Me: I was making a joke about the autocorrect... It wasn't that funny, now you're making it awkward. lol

Never explain yourself.

Me: I'll type slower for you.

Gold

Me: we still on for friday?

Replace with, "Meet me friday at x-bar"

Me: Haha. Wow, slow and a terrible memory...

Should have made a joke here. Or said, "I see how it is"

Me: Another time then. No worries.

Replace with (no response)

Me: You said that you'd have to see and I gave you until today. Nice to see that you remembered me... bitch. haha.

Crash and burn! Replace with (no response) bitch. haha sounds incredibly nervous.

Me: kidding of course

Never say you're kidding until she gets upset about something. And really not even then. Unless you make fun of a dead relative by accident or something like that.

Me: Oh, you actively didn't respond! I take back that "kidding"

Decent, conversation should have been over ten minutes ago though.

Me: I was gonna let it go, but you're gonna have to make it up to me now. You're gonna have to let me show you a great time next week, then. no complaints!

Weak. Going have to let you show her a good time? You are so lonely that you have to ask a woman to let you show her a good time? This is the most beta line you've had. Replace with "Maybe some other day, I'll have to check my schedule."

Me: Yep. A man who knows what he wants. I gotta go. Getting busy. Btw, did (mutual friend) tell you we ran into each other?

You're just trying to keep the dead conversation going here. This is bad. This whole thing could have been shortened to "gotta go"

Me: at the (singer's name) concert.

You know how I know you're gay? You went to a taylor swift concert with a tranny!

me: I'll talk to you later tho. I gotta go. Enjoy your extremely lame class.

Not needed

Me: Don't forget next time!

Never be the one to end the texting convo

In all seriousness, you kept the conversation going way too long. You should always have less texts and less words in each text than the girl. You were just trying to make the conversation last longer and she was trying to avoid you. How long were the breaks between each text? I bet she waited a lot longer than you did. Once she said no, you should have been done with the conversation because you are a busy man and prefer to talk to chicks in person instead of typing on a phone.

I'm not trying to be an ass here, but you didn't do much right. Making fun of her being slow was good. Other than that the whole thing was really weak.

wowitsazeppelin · 2011-03-23T20:51:38+00:00

I'm a big fan of the "less is more" mantra. It shouldn't take 43 messages to figure out that you guys can't meet up this weekend. You're a busy guy, remember? This should have lasted no more than 10 texts MAX.

You ask if she wants to meet up, she turns you down, you either don't respond or give her at least an hour text-delay before your next response. None of this "but but but remember you said!" nonsense. Like rocket31 said, it makes you seem super needy.

When a girl does something you don't like, you're supposed to punish her by ignoring her. Instead, you lowered your value by giving her the attention she wanted even after she turned you down. Don't worry, we've all done it. You'll do better next time.

Also, please don't call a girl a "sexy thang" unless she's already earned it. Especially not in your opening text.

THE_LD · 2011-03-23T21:47:20+00:00

This is disappointing. Overall, I would say this series of texts was a major fail. There were some gems in there, but overall it was lengthy and too try hard.

Go back and read the text convo again critiquing "HER GAME." She calls you gay and shit bro. THAT IS NEGGING. She is a fucking pro, and she does and gets what she wants. Make her want you, then deny her of it, for a little while.

One of your previous posts makes mention of the quick "farewell" of just writing "K" which i like very much. I will digress.

This is how I would have had that text convo.

Geaux: "Hey sexy, hows class?" Her: You are so gay! hahahah. It's fucking lame. thanks for asking.

Geaux: "Ouch. Who pissed in your cheerios? For that, you are paying for the first drink on Friday" I'm busy till 7, so I can pick you up at 7:30 or so. What's your address?

At this point she either gives you the address or she doesn't. If she gives it to you, respond with" K c u then" If she doesnt give it to you or gives you any response but her address, you respond with "oh well, your loss, gotta run. " and let it go. Then hit her up again in a few weeks.

By no means is this a lost cause. Be a little mysterious. Let her be curious.

Again, I dont think that text convo went well at all. However, you can still recover.

Geaux · 2011-03-23T20:14:33+00:00

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lurk-moar · 2011-03-24T01:51:10+00:00

Not good at all. Actually cringed through some of it.

someinterestedparty · 2011-03-24T01:13:21+00:00

i just think the ball should be in her court if she bails in the first place. personally when a guy i don't want to date keeps trying, it's annoying and uncomfortable because i don't like to tell them off. let her come to you.

mobsta · 2011-03-24T19:22:43+00:00

Shit, after I read OPs post, I recognized a lot of how I talked to a girl I liked a while ago, and I thought OP did quite well. But the comments suprised me! Now I see what I did wrong there, so I learned a lot from this as well. Thanks to OP and commenters : )

Title	[FR] Text game. I didn't get the date I wanted, but I think I did some pretty good things. Critiques?
Author	Geaux
Upvotes	10
Comments	21
Date	March 23, 2011 6:47 PM UTC (15 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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Geaux: "Ouch. Who pissed in your cheerios? For that, you are paying for the first drink on Friday" I'm busy till 7, so I can pick you up at 7:30 or so. What's your address?