Avoiding buying girls dinner, help?

doomgoblin · 2011-04-29T01:03:52+00:00

Dont go dutch thats tacky. Just make plans to avoid normal meal times. Ie later or after lunch so you can avoid it all together and she wont be all "im so hungry." Just ask ber to come tk your place for drinks or a bar. If your place is lame as shit take it into account and have a small get together or a party then invite her over. More casual and if she doesnt know too many people there she'll stick by you why you're showing her how awesome you are because you know everyone. Create your own zone/ frame where you know everyone and all of a sudden you have a girl around you and you're the life of the party. Win?

Edit: just cook her dinner, damn. I had this confused with a similar post, but its the same principle

bl1ndside · 2011-04-29T07:28:03+00:00

You just don't take a woman to an expensive dinner. You just don't do it. You do not ever on a date allow a woman to take her friend along. Her newly separated friend, her friend who doesn't have a boyfriend, her fat friend, her best friend, whatever. Because, of course, then she expects you to pay all the bills or the expenses for the evening for the fat friend as well. Then the fat friend can fantasize that she's on a date herself, a date that she can't get on her own for whatever reason. You must resolutely resist this. Call her up on the phone, you say, "Hey, what time are you having dinner tonight?" She tells you. She's going to answer the question, "7:30, 8:00," and you say, "Good, so you ought to be done about 9:30, why don't we hook up for a drink about 10?" She doesn't even realize you just aced her out of dinner. I've done this a million times. There are chicks I've dated, I have never seen them pick up a knife or a fork. I've never seen them sitting with a plate in front of them, never. A glass, maybe. A bottle, possibly. Not a plate. I always say let Poindexter in the IT department take you to dinner. Then you can not sleep with him. I'll feed you with drinks later, after you're full. You have to really want to eat badly to go out with somebody you wouldn't sleep with, don't particularly find attractive, just so you can eat good lamb chops somewhere. If her company is worth something but yours isn't, how low is your self-esteem? Girls say, "Oh, there's this great restaurant you've got to take me to." "No we'll just go there and get a drink. Let Poindexter take you to the great restaurant." The dinner whores are women who have higher self-esteem than the suckers who are laying out $400, $500 for dinner. It's "Show me what you got, and I lie to you, and give you the impression that maybe, but actually never. I'll never have sex with you, but I won't tell you that until after I've scarfed down as much caviar and champagne as I can." If a guy has the balls to say, "I don't care how hot you are, I'm not spending any money on you," women respect us for that.

l3fth4nd · 2011-04-29T02:15:22+00:00

I don't do meal first dates, take her somewhere you like to go. If it's a girl I like and know I'm going to see again. we just alternate, saves the hassle of splitting the check.

2011-04-29T13:54:04+00:00

Sit-down meals get girls thinking about food in their teeth, bad breath, and taking a shit later that night. They should always be avoided for dates unless it's some weird special circumstance or you're officially dating (exclusively).

puaCurveBall · 2011-04-29T16:14:33+00:00

I had my first ever dinner date last night(really). Only agreed because she had groupon and wanted to pay.(score!)

I have never even remotely had this problem, even for drinks we always go dutch. If I say something about the bill, and they give me a hint of attitude then they are not my type of girl and get the curb.

intjpua · 2011-04-29T01:22:41+00:00

First date: Drinks, coffee, pool, bowling, etc. I pay or swap rounds, whatever seems to fit the mood; I tend to buy first round, and give her a chance to buy second if she's so inclined (if things are going well, she'll tend to do so to keep me around). No big deal. It's always cheap, always has an escape clause an hour or two in, and allows for switching venues if things are going well.

Second date: Cooking together or pizza at my place, movie, Rock Band, sex, etc.

I don't do dinner out dates until after sex. I don't care about the money aspect of it. I can afford dinner out as often as I want. But, I do care about the results, and dinner dates tend to be the slow way to build a meaningful connection and have a good time.

Title	Avoiding buying girls dinner, help?
Author	jamonman
Upvotes	2
Comments	8
Date	April 29, 2011 12:50 AM UTC (15 years ago)
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