This last post on seddit brought up the idea that coy men fall into the framework of what is known as the 'Boyfriend Dilemma,' that is, the situation in which a man is strung along for a commitment by the hope of elusive sexual pleasure.

To avoid this, the article suggested moving to a (private) location for sex within ten minutes of meeting and fucking as soon as possible thereafter. Now, while fucking within ten minutes is achievable (with some women easier than with others), many artists move far slower than this guy, often deliberately.

We all know the necessary steps, Opening, Attraction, Qualification, Comfort, Seduction.

Therefore, my question is how long do you guys usually take in these categories (don't tell us all about your openers, though; I don't care, those shouldn't last much longer than a minute).

How long do you sedditors take until f-closing? In fact, tell me all the bases. The longest and the shortest f-close, the most and the least successful experiences. Tell me it all.

The reason why I ask is that I have one girl whom I am afraid wants to move too slow for this reason. We've met twice, once after a party, another time, on a date (she asked me out; I deny her invites more often than accept them, and I never ask her out - I usually don't). We made-out on both occasions, and physicality is becoming increasingly sexual, but, fuck it, we're not naked yet.

Am I simply becoming far too anal about not seeing anus - or vagina, for that matter? If the women are asking you out, and are even paying for you, is there even a danger of the boyfriend dilemma? Is there hope in sustained intimacy?

What do you guys think? At what point does a man face the Boyfriend Dilemma straight in the face, with all the certainty that he is almost within its clutches? At what point should he ask himself if he really thinks he'll fuck his woman?

Also, most importantly, if one finds themselves in this Dilemma, how does one escape?

NB: Excuse me if I'm rousing a storm where there need not be one. As we all have grown accustomed to, a newly designed "pickup artist" will often be, at first, more cocky than is truly necessary. My friend seems to have a similar problem, though, and he is more experienced.

tl;dr: How long is the time period in which (or how many meetings are there before) one should f-close? If one is in the dominant side of an advancing relationship, is that person in danger of becoming part of the hardly sexual boyfriend category? How does one disestablish the category once established?