So this is a continuation of my Dance FR from a few nights ago. Specifically, HB7.5 expressed interest in seeing me soon, this is a continuation with her.

Why HB7.5?

I saw a recent "what makes a good FR" post which mentioned classifying why an HB is of certain value. So lets open with that here. HB7.5 is of attractive Columbian stock. High cheekbones, nice backside, good legs. She's 21. During the first night I danced with her (previous FR), she pulled no fewer than five guys onto the dance floor with her, easily and rapidly. She would smile, high five every attractive guy who walked by: in essence she was sort of following PUA techniques (life of the party). During this upcoming FR, she had the hottest women in the place pull her up onto a table to dance Coyote Ugly style (and tell her she was "gorgeous"). BUT is she an HB8? I think maybe not. Physically she not quite there (at least for me). She's not being approached so much as she's bringing approach to her. Ok? So I'm going with HB7.5.

I texted her the day after our dance evening (prior FR). Normally that would be too early, but she told me she is staying near my apartment with a friend for the weekend, before moving nearer her internship (an hour away). So time was important here.

TEXTING

Me: "I survived my long day, zombies nearly got me though." I was going to follow up with a story about a woman who tried to pick me up at a coffee shop and looked undead (perhaps due to her drug addiction ways?). But HB7.5 didn't ask for clarification.

HB7.5: "Haha I'm glad your alive how many hours did you work senor?"

Me: "That would depend upon your method of measurement. Some might say 2, others ?? I am still doing laundry so..."

Mentioning laundry was sort of questionable! I was trying to get some dialog going. She called me on it.

HB7.5: "Laundry :/ so thats what your doing all night?"

Shit test-ish, I ignore.

HB7.5: "So what does a braniac like youuuu do for fun?!"

Me: "I think you know already! At least a little. You'll have to hang out with me again to find out more. What's your Friday looking like?"

HB7.5: "Yes I do remember little bit what you told me last night I know your into art. Tomorrow and this weekend I will be in Torrance visiting another friend if your free tomorrow we can meet up at the <mall>. I will be watching the mid night screening of Harry Potter because my friend is a big fan."

Good: She's qualifying a little in trying to prove she was listening to my interests during our dance conversation. And she's trying to distance herself from the Harry Potter because she's afraid I'll judge. Not exactly confident in her activities. Lesson: Don't excuse your plans with a "because a friend likes it." It just sounds weak.

I decide I don't want to meet her at <mall>. That would be sending a "I'm so available I'll meet you in line waiting for a midnight movie at the mall" vibe, which is total crap. Furthermore, I'm not sure I need to make time for her, I'm not sold yet.

Me: "I'm going to the Twilight Dance @ Santa Monica Pier tonight, 7-10PM. Theme this week is 80's Pop Rock!" Turned out the Bangles were playing. Sweet! And it's free.

HB7.5: "Sounds like fun!! But unfortunately I wouldn't have a ride"

This sounds like a plus to me - if she's not too out of my way. Not much beats having the vehicle on logistics.

Me: "And you have plans, no? I would think you have to be in line early for Potter? Where would you need a ride from?" I really thought she had plans with this friend of hers, and I was disqualifying her availability. But in case she changed her mind, I'm assessing how far I have to drive to take her to this concert.

HB7.5: "Yes I do but I would love to do both :) My friend would be in line so I would meet up with her. My friend that I am staying with now lives in <city 10 minutes from my office building> is that far from you?"

Good news, it's close.. And the movie theater is near my apartment.

HB7.5: "Hey so I told my friend about Santa Monica and she totally told me to go and then meet her after the movie ends around 2AM. Do you have work tomorrow?"

Ok. So HB7.5 is asking for a ride. She's telling me she's free and putting herself alone with me until 2AM. She's practically setting up the logistics for me.

So we conclude logistics over text, I'll omit - except I'll toss in this final exchange because I thought it was good.

HB7.5: "Okay sounds good is it okay if I have my bags with me?" She was moving from one friend to another.

Me: "Sure. $20 for the first checked bag, $25 for the second. And we don't serve peanuts anymore. Bring your own pillow."

DATE NIGHT

Ok. So I pick her up and we drive to Santa Monica, park and hit the pier. We are dancing in the front row, up against the metal crowd control fence - she's in front of me and I am dancing right up behind her. For awhile I'm dancing with my hands in her pockets (fingers sort of rubbing inside upper thighs through her short pockets), sometimes hands roam to her sides, back, etc. But every couple songs I would back off and let her dance without physical contact - thinking that might help Push-Pull a little, leave her wondering if I'm entirely sold.

At times I hooked a thumb in the back of her shorts, pulling back and down a bit as we danced together. Subtle indication of what I wanted to do with said shorts, maybe she picked up on it. Thought I would try it. At no time during our dancing did she seem uncomfortable with my actions.

Ok, so the concert winds down at 10PM and I have planned to offer alternatives for the remainder of the night. This may have been a bit of a slip-up, but I've done this before and if a woman has reached buying temperature she always sets up logistics by choosing my apartment option. I offer HB7.5 three options: A Dancing at a club in Santa Monica (but tell her we would have to do some exploring to find a place, I haven't done enough SM game to know where the dance clubs are), or B drive down to my apartment, walk the beach (an excuse to get to my apartment, the walk part probably wouldn't happen), or C Beach city dancing where we met two nights prior. HB7.5 seems to pick up on what I'm getting at with option B, tells me she wants to dance and takes option C. I take this as a bad sign (this was the optimal switch-over point in the evening, time-wise, if we were going to fool around until 2AM). My slip up may have been to provide these options, instead of more persistantly saying: lets go to my apartment, I'll show you my photography. But, I do prefer to have the woman select the option which is clearly leading to my bedroom, without having to shoe her into it (particularly when I'm her only ride for the night in a city she doesn't know). I've run into this moral issue before: I once was a mentor for a woman on a backpacking trip and told her she could stay in my tent with me. I felt morally I couldn't push too hard on the trip because I was her source of housing for the backpacking trip (and her mentor). So I was a bit tentative on the sexual escalation, and nothing happened.

We drive to Beach City and hit the dance bars. She's being far less flirty with other guys this time. In my prior FR, she was flirting with all the guys in the room (and they her). This time she's really focused on me (to the point of almost being possessive? If my eyes start to wander to other sexyness in the room she would grab my arm and pull be into her). We make friends on the dance floor, HB7.5 gets their phone numbers (HB8 girl tells HB7.5 that she is "gorgeous" and we all dance together, manage to get a HB8 / ElectronPUA / HB7.5 sandwhich going). But I'm not able to dance with other women very easily, HB7.5 is being kind of possessive-ish. At one point HB9 dancing on the table (getting eyes from EVERY guy in the room) pulls HB7.5 up and they dance together.

It's getting later and I really see the prospect for getting HB7.5 to my place going down the drain. So I'm just dancing, seeing this as a learning experience at this point. We close out the bar (she seems to purposefully hold off till closing at 1:30 AM, possibly because she wants to have reason to go straight to the theater afterwards?). We drive to the theater and sit in the car for forty minutes. Her body language is good, and I've got my hand on her calf / thigh at times - leaving it there and she's not protesting. But I'm exhausted, and I have given up on anything physical that night. In my experience so far, I prefer to save the k-close for a time when further closing is possible - and I didn't see that at this point. She asks what I'm doing Friday, I evade a bit. Conversation goes pretty deep into confort building territory, she expresses interest in seeing me this weekend. Friend arrives and I drive home.

TL;DR; Despite HB7.5 setting up logistics perfectly for a First Date Lay, she evades during the night of and I don't push for F-Close.