A week ago I went camping with a group of people I had never met. I was getting interest signals from several attractive women there, but not all of them - and specifically I was not getting much from a petite 5'1" Asian girl who I found particularly attractive. I've reached the point where I do enjoy the chase... I made sure to find some time just myself and her during a hike mid trip, and when breaking down the camp at the end of the weekend. I'm sure she noticed that I was doing these things. She was unresponsive to kino, but did continue to drop verbal hints (at least, under my attraction assumptions, they sounded like hints). She told me that "Men who easily attract women are sometimes frustrated by me" and that "sometimes men can't tell when I'm into them". Further, she seemed to be trying to DHV a bit at times (she demonstrated her yoga handstand prowess - super hot when a woman can lift her legs in the air with control like that, sit stable in a hand stand, then slowly lower them back down to earth). I decided she was interested, but guarded. After packing everything up, the group said farewells in the parking lot. I wasn't going to # close her in front of everybody (to number close only the hot girl in a group in this setting would not have been cool - besides I knew I could get her email address from the website). She made a point of providing me her email address verbally to a group of guys I was standing with. I again assumed attraction (and memorized it). At this point I'm mostly reading between the lines and assuming attraction.

I drive home, shower, take it easy, and don't get around to emailing her.

The next morning she emails me. She had looked up my email address on the website. She tells me she'll be on a future outing, signs the email and finished with her phone number. Interesting. She must want me to use it. I text her about my yoga practice that night (I was doing a challenge in November, 25 sessions in one month - I had just finished number 23). She replies promptly. Seems that was not out of place.

Five days pass. I'm busy, don't get around to emailing her or lining anything up. She emails me a coupon for a free session at her yoga studio (and cc's another friend of hers). I'm not going to go alone, but I think to myself: maybe I'll ask her to join me. but I'm busy. I don't email her back yet.

The morning of the sixth day she emails me: "I recommend <instructor>, she teaches 1-3PM on Sundays. I'll be gone much of December but am planning to go on the 17th."

Assuming attraction, she provided me with a time and place, might as well follow her lead. So I tell her I'll join her the 17th. Easy. I email her back and we set it up. She follows up with some hint of availability before the 17th. So I follow through on that also, we line up a date for Sunday (yesterday). There were several back-and-forth in setting up a time, she was really seeming to make an effort to find a time that worked for both of us. More evidence of interest.

I arrive, we eat dinner together, good food and conversation. Some flirting. No kino. Split the bill and I suggest that we go ice skating. She counters with a walk (she broke her tailbone twice last year in falls), I accept that sounds safer and so we head to the beach. I'm upping the kino a bit (I'm getting pretty into this girl. She's my body type, has common interests, and I can tell she has put a lot of effort into getting her life in order). But she is not responding positively. An arm on the back goes noticed, but no obvious reciprocation. An arm around her shoulder and she's not acting all that emotionally warm. But she is still with me. She hasn't suggested we end the evening. So though something is up, her actions indicate she's not out of this yet. We sit on a swingset on the beach and start really honestly talking. Pretty rapidly she's telling me she likes to start off friends, that she has attachment issues when things get physical, and that she has male friends who want to date her but she's not attracted to. My immediate impression is that she gets lots of attention, emotional contact, and general near-boyfriend experiences from these guy friends in her life. Big red flag!

What do I do? I tell her straight up that I am not in the business of hanging out with a woman weekly just to be friends. Not a woman I'm attracted to. I tell her that sex is important, and that I understand her position (that some women become quite attached fast when sex enters the picture) but that sex is a huge part of a relationship and I'm not willing to spend too long dating before that compatibility is tested. Her response? She starts to test me. The vibe? She is recognizing that she won't be able to make a new orbiting friend. If she wants me to stick around, she is going to have to treat me like more than a friend. She wants me to change her opinion of things. She wants me to help her fall for me. She could have left the swingset, but she stayed and kept asking questions.

Her words were repeatedly: We will just be friends.

Her actions in response to my declining the offer: Staying with me, talking, laughing, challenging me.

We end up back at this hotel lobby and talking for another hour. She's opening up to me. Rotating in her seat, facing me (I'm facing 90 degrees to her). I kino on her thigh as she sits there sometimes, but she does not reciprocate. But she's still there. She's still interested. There is a vibe.

10:30 PM (date started 5:30) she pays the bill and drives me to my car. En route I bring up uncertainty over her sexual repression (conversation earlier had made me concerned - so I wanted to screen her). Result? Thirty minutes of talking about sex, what she likes, laser hair treatment down below, likes and dislikes in male anatomy, and much more. Pretty clearly she's changed in her posture towards me. She is acting a bit like she is afraid she has ruined her chances with me. I tell her it is getting late, wish her a safe drive home and move to get out of the car.

Her: "Don't I get a goodnight hug?"

I grumble (I don't like end-of-date closes of any sort really, why bother if it's not leading to more that evening) but climb back in, give her a hug.

Her with a concerned face: "Are we dating?"

Me in my head: LOL WTF knew it

Me: "We are hanging out"

She lights up.

Her: "Can I kiss you?"

I grab her by the nape of her neck and we makeout for 15 seconds. I release her, climb out of the car and wave. Walk to my car.

She emailed me this morning with her availability next weekend.

TL;DR; Woman pursues electronPua, he accepts advances and invites her on a date. Woman claims date isn't a date, she wants to be friends but emotional and talky talky. ElectronPua rejects offer for orbiting male status. Woman changes outlook on electronPua, makes out with electronPua. Read a woman's actions, not her words.