A lot of you have been faking confidence till you feel like you will reach 'the place' as you roughly might refer to it. Here is how I just broke through and began to chart my course into it:

Take care of yourself. You will begin to feel better and thus love yourself. You. MUST. Love. Yourself. You are an awesome person for the one or many ways which you do in your own unique, signature way. These small signiture things will only begin to really pop as you focus in the details of grooming, ironing, etc.

What I've realized is I have a lot of the pieces in front of me naturally and the ability to learn anything I put my mind to(we all do if laziness doesn't overcome us). All I have to do is fine tune certain aspects. Your life is an adventure, or as I recently referred to it, a sport. (I'm not any sort of jock, the analogy is just to good to pass up on though). Life is fun so lets have fun with it! With the right positive attitude you will go out and people will be naturally attracted to you.

To every guy who has never had this happen: you will get compliments from random people for things like a fun t-shirt your wearing, people will be attracted to who you allow to be seen.

These only begin the trip. Here's the thing, that's NOT the goal, its just a by-product. Suddenly YOU don't really need anyone and EVERYONE wants to know why.

Work on holding your tongue, not saying so much but still being active in conversations and when you begin to reveal yourself use storytelling. I never put the two together before, in reality the reason you need to be a good story-teller is because you aren't telling your whole life story as soon as you meet people (Don't information dump on ANYONE anymore, you are a prize and few deserve your time). This is your chance to build yourself, how do YOU see YOU? People will get a glimpse of how you feel about yourself: thus the cycle continues, until you build more and more confidence. Having social proof is VERY important, don't get me wrong but having SELF proof leads to social proof.

Welcome to the club, except its not a club, we're just enjoying our lives and like being around people who do as well.

Live Confidently. edit: grammer & shameless plug for a subreddit I'd like to see more people involved and contributing in: r/malegrooming