Hi, I feel like I'm going to be posting a lot on this board.
So yes, 24 recent college grad, working in the suburbs, ex-forever alone breaking out of shell.
I'm a greeter at work, so after the usual "Hi, and Welcome to Derp's Sporting Good" any more small talk thereafter is either a part of the job or part of game. So i have lots of opportunities talking with strangers especially, girls and moms.
So today, a real cute HB8 came in with a younger unattractive girl (turned out to be little sister) wearing some big shades, and those gift from God Yoga pants from victoria's secret those Love Pink stuff, best clothes ever. cute tank.
i say hi, in my best Alpha voice, and what can i help you find?
I'm giving her the eyes, and looking for body language any kind of ioi, and i go for natural kino with a shoulder touch. She is smiling, and nervous to ask, she's looking for a Yankees jersey, but we only sell Chicago teams here, and I call her a traitor, and we have friendly banter about her just not being really into baseball but liking jeter, and me negging her bad about that, really teasing her and making her laugh.
She walks off, smiling. She's about to wander out of the store, we make eye contact again, and I smile, and ask her whats in her hair? She had some long blue and red feathers in there, very cute, and I told her so. She giggled said thanks and gave her hair the bashful twirl.
So she left, so i missed the opportunity, but we are in a strip mall with a walmart and other shops, so i run out after them for my 10 minute break convinced I could have number closed. So i'm walking and I ask myself "what am i doing, i would be a creep." but i keep walking cause i had some momentum confidence wise. I see them in walmart, and i have to think of an excuse to be there, so I figure i can get a drink. But fuck, in my haste I forgot my wallet.
I was thinking that could be a good reopen, ask her to spot me for a drink? I'd pay her back. But i didn't have the confidence, an the creepyness of me running after her, was making me second guess the reality of he rapport established.
So i run out while they are checking out, making sure not to be seen. I take the walk of shame back to work, it is blistering outside.
then i hear girls behind me, its her and her sister walking right behind me.
Third chance! must take it. I was pissed, "Hello oh again ladies, are you planning on stalking me back to work?"
she laughed, "oh you know it!"
I was pissed and frustrated "ugh, ya know i hate it, i ran to wal mart on my break to grab a red bull, and i forgot my wallet!"
she laughed and teased, "Oh nice one! I'm sorry you couldn't get a red bull no vending machines at work?"
Alpha voice, "yeah but they don't have redbull, haha oh well, at least I got to talk to you again."
she smiles, little sister is lagging behind being ignored haha.
I noticed a baby store bag with baby goodies.
i ask "so what are you doing today? after this? You got some baby stuff there I see..."
she laughs and smiles "Oh yeahh, my best friend is having a baby! she's like due the umm...22nd? she's huuuuuge!"
she continues, "oh and she has to walk her big pitbulls round, and he's draggin her all over the place!"
she had a monkey stuffed animal, i ask "oh is that a monkey?"
"yeah! of course"
"i grab it, oh my nephew loooves monkeys!"
"is it a boy or girl?"
"we don't know"
banter banter, it was good, i felt so good. then we got back to the front of my store, and here's the moment...
she says, little hesitant pause, "ok, well umm, it was really nice talking to you."
i also hesitated, and slumped, and just was like thinking she'll say no, how embarrassing, just everything that could go wrong i was thinking it simultaneously in the span of 3 seconds.
And i just cowered, and said "OK. yeah. nice talking to you too." and went back inside. ashamed. kicking myself.
The next 10 minutes were story telling with my cashier buddy, and hating myself coming up with a million ways to ask her, but never ever being able to use them.
Confidence advice?
Did i read this situation right? Was she just being friendly? To me, it felt way past that, to rapport building, and she was really getting invested in the conversation. I could have number closed if i had a pair of balls that is....
sorry for a long post a little frustrated, but growing in confidence.
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