second date, she wants to meet up with her friends and go to a movie

Bobsutan · 2011-09-01T20:25:19+00:00

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TheEllimist · 2011-09-01T19:00:39+00:00

Also we've been texting none stop for a week, mostly benign texts.

This combined with the fact that she's having her friends tag along on your non-date (it's not a date with more than two people) makes me think you're doing a great job of killing attraction. At best you're being railroaded to Boyfriend Town, where she'll take it nice and slow (no sex!) and make sure her friends approve of you before she carries on.

seeing a screening of some documentary

Also, just to ram home how much of a non-date this is, you're going to be at dinner with her friends (limited chances to actually talk to each other or be physical) then are basically going to a movie, where you cannot talk at all. EJECT EJECT

heybulldog · 2011-09-01T18:29:32+00:00

Either that or she wants to know if her friends approve of you.

sillymallard · 2011-09-01T20:46:58+00:00

I have been here before, and it has gone miserably. Don't be a zoo animal. With me, an AFC, it's always been the girl's friends that say something which instills doubt in the girl whether or not you're good enough, when by herself she would have been enthralled with you.

smart_alec · 2011-09-01T21:27:14+00:00

DO NOT DO IT.

2011-09-01T18:43:11+00:00

Second Date is not a date.

2011-09-05T08:45:09+00:00

Similar thing happened to me, however, she didn't tell me she's bringing along friends until like an hour before hanging out. In the end, it worked out fine.

If you will go, do not act all quiet by her friends, a long long time ago, I've been there, and it's not a good place to be. Contribute to the conversation, try pulling out some kino, (although, I understand it's a LOT harder when there is friends around, especially guys <_<). About the texting, don't text her constantly, that will show that you are needy, give her some days in which you just don't have time to text her. This drives them nuts.

dancn_jesus · 2011-09-01T19:33:36+00:00

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puaCurveBall · 2011-09-01T19:21:31+00:00

How is she going to introduce you to her friends?

postman_pat · 2011-09-02T11:20:41+00:00

If you want a relationship with this girl, go for it. Go out, have fun.

Realistically, there's probably no chance of getting an F-Close from this "date".

daygamer · 2011-09-02T12:57:05+00:00

You have nothing to gain by going, you can only lose when one of her friends takes a dislike to you or something you do (at least one of them will). Don't play by he rules. Don't go to this film.

Paul Janka has a whole section of his DVD set devoted to why this is a bad idea.

2011-09-02T15:02:00+00:00

I've been in this situation on a FIRST date and it was awkward and awful. The fact we went to see Boogie Nights only made it worse.

Bobsutan · 2011-09-04T16:57:06+00:00

On one hand her wanting you to meet her friends can be a good thing because she's seeking peer approval to date you--if they say yes, then you're good to go. On the other hand you can't really have a good time with her friends around and it's really going to fuck up your ability to seal the deal.

Personally I'd avoid meeting her friends until after you hookup so that her friends' opinions are less likely to carry any sway at that point.

Lastly, STOP TEXTING SO MUCH!

coolaznkenny · 2011-09-01T20:03:40+00:00

I AGREE WITH theEllimist -> get out NOW! reschedule for an one on one.

Title	second date, she wants to meet up with her friends and go to a movie
Author	daevud
Upvotes	5
Comments	22
Date	September 1, 2011 6:09 PM UTC (14 years ago)
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