Dissolution

durrrrrrrrrr · 2011-10-26T08:23:47+00:00

Why would you tell her how many girls you've been with? It's none of her business and it won't take your relationship anywhere.

Every human being is "approval seeking" to some degree. However, it's important to separate reality from the desires we project onto women. For example, you say:

I started to actually see something more in her

It's possible, and quite likely, that this "more" you see in her is a projection of some "ideal woman" that will fulfill your need for love and affection. When she called you out on being with another girl (because she was jealous of course) you went approval seeking went into honest/relationship-building mode.

The irony is that this "honesty" is in fact more superficial and disingenuous than the feeling you articulated so well:

No, it's not. I like women. I like having sex with them, so that's what I do. This is what I like.

A mature, sex-worthy man laughs at the thought of a woman defining his existence as "empty" or "weak." The man of abundance actively screens quality women out of the masses of everyday chicks he bangs. It's very easy to confuse approval seeking with a truly quality woman. Only experience will give you the necessary insights to separate the two.

Instead of worrying about the content of what this girl said, I suggest you examine why her perception of you carries so much weight. Your gut-feeling reaction was spot on. It's natural for a young man to have sex with women. All this talk of "weak" and "empty" from a woman might as well be puffs of air as far as your concerned. She was jealous and said something to push your buttons. Obviously worked.

2011-10-26T15:04:41+00:00

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ge99 · 2011-10-26T03:33:23+00:00

If you are unable to create a connection with a women than that's on you.

Its not the material and community's fault.

iznou · 2011-10-26T22:11:34+00:00

The girl's calculating attitude and passive-aggressive insult betrays her real feelings: She's hurt and wanted to leave a "winner" by making you feel bad. The worse you feel the more she wins. So first things first, she's an immature girl and don't put a second thought into what she said, it was designed to hurt you.

Now, if you have needs in your life beyond sex, congratulations you are a human being. Proceed to level 2.

DutchPUA · 2011-10-26T06:18:33+00:00

Don't follow the 'rules' of pickup so narrowly, bend them, see what works for you. Something isn't working for you now, you just need to find a way to improve on it. See this as a sticking point, work on it like you would on any other. Find out what you want to achieve in life and work towards it. Good luck.

2011-10-27T17:43:46+00:00

It's because you've been following routine/techniques? Which is essentially the same as being a follower and not thinking for yourself?

That's the problem with routine/technique based pick up. It's training wheels before the big leagues, TRUE GAME. True game is when YOU are the sexually attracted man, not the fucking lines or routines.

No wonder Style said that learning Mystery Method is dehumanizing; it fucking is. Going out and putting on a fake persona? Ugh.

IMO, true pick-up is about being the person you want to be. Lots of sex and lots of women just come along naturally. I have yet to be bored of the game because I always put my true personality on the line and I'm always myself; I don't hide behind routines and techniques to cover my true self.

But to be fair, this is something that almost everyone goes through. First we learn about all the pua material, and go, "oh wow, this is fucking awesome! time to try it!". There's a great feeling of excitement because you just start learning what's possible. Over time, most people go, "fuck PUA, time to work on myself". Once people make the distinction to NOT follow routine, and start on overall self-improvement, their game tends to BOOST LIKE CRAZY.

So OP, you're right to do you. Whatever it is that you want to do, but don't stop getting laid! :)

Title	Dissolution
Author	[deleted]
Upvotes	13
Comments	10
Date	October 26, 2011 2:51 AM UTC (14 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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