Dear Reddit, what am I doing wrong? Still single?! (xpost from /r/dating)

shelostcontrolagain · 2011-12-23T00:17:59+00:00

2 tips:

"Women don't owe you anything merely because you're "nice" for all the wrong reasons."

"Stop being a passive-aggressive doormat and be more candid about your desires. "

MetaSnow · 2011-12-22T23:15:56+00:00

Not sure if this post will go to the original topic creator, but welcome to Seddit. Read as much of the sidebar as you can. Then go read it again. Your second paragraph already has your logistics and a fucking awesome basis for inner confidence building.

Something is fishy if you are trying to be friendly and coming across as hitting on someone. Not being socially shy is excellent; it seems you need a good bit of kino and physical/emotional/psychological escalation in your life. Read the sidebar and post back with where you think you stand.

Sinnermario · 2011-12-24T01:55:42+00:00

Be your self , be honest and do not try to learn "TRICKS" to pick up girls , that shit wont work and when it does it gets you the wrong kind of girls . that being said : do not worry , keep talking to women and when you meet a woman that fits you will be strong and do anything you want to do , every time you feel you're scared and not sure is because you are not sure , very simple and being not sure means you don't want to go into a relationship with that woman so don't try it .

focus on what good qualities you want to have in a woman ,write them down and read them every day , and every time you talk to a woman try to judge her based on those good qualities , after a while you will find that woman where you will say wow , this is one i have to do everything to be with (again everything does not mean ling , showing off , buying her love , etc ) . that time will eventually come , it's just math at the end . not to be boring with all the mathematical possibilities of this but at the end for each person there is about 30 people with whom they are compatible with (IN ONE CITY ) and have a big chance of leading a successful relationship with . after knowing this fact all what you need is not to worry about why it is not working and start working on what you want in a woman and how to have it without ling , manipulating , abusing , etc ( just being a good person basically )

ShowcasePUA · 2011-12-23T00:31:36+00:00

You already have everything you need to start a successful relationship with one or multiple women. You just need to refine and sculpt your abilities.

Perhaps women are getting that vibe because you are doing what the ten or twenty guys before you did. Be the exception. Women absolutely love a challenge. As aggressive as it sounds, women love it when you take their game and dish it right back at them. Mystery's Venusian Arts Handbook is a great read to get headed in this direction as I share a lot of the same sentiments as he does. Just don't focus so much on the methods and techniques.

phallic_audio · 2011-12-23T15:27:48+00:00

you have a lot of good shit going on. Now stop being dependent on the outcome. Be more honest with yourself as far as what you want in life and relationships. Quit tip toeing around the fact that you are attracted to someone. Don't be aggressive just be candid and honest about it.

I think the main thing here is being dependent on the outcome. Stop doing it. Don't give two shits about the result, enjoy the process... and keep in mind that just because you don't care what happens doesn't mean you can act like an a-hole about it. Be nice. :)

ladybonersthrow · 2011-12-31T02:26:32+00:00

You sound like a catch to me.

Seduceher · 2011-12-23T19:47:20+00:00

Being too available hurts sometimes too. As an extremely successful young man with amazing prospects in life, some women are just hit too intensely by my power like some kind of sex supernova. Sometimes turning it down a bit can help you get what you want.

iznou · 2011-12-23T06:42:48+00:00

Maybe my standards are impossibly high?

Maybe.

jsba · 2011-12-23T16:22:26+00:00

you sound really boring

Title	Dear Reddit, what am I doing wrong? Still single?! (xpost from /r/dating)
Author	gwplaysnice
Upvotes	5
Comments	15
Date	December 22, 2011 4:55 PM UTC (14 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/nmrsz/dear_reddit_what_am_i_doing_wrong_still_single/
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