Opening....on Facebook!

HyeR · 2012-01-03T08:50:39+00:00

This isn't specific to your problem but it might help at some point.

When "gaming" on facebook. Talk to a lot of people at the same time

4+ people is optimum. In my experience this significantly decreases the dependency on that one person, because you are talking to so many other people it does not matter. You won't be instantly replying (keep the waiting bro). And finally it revs up your social calibration (by this I mean you'll be more wittier know what to say, because your focusing on a group of people and won't have time for some stupid response that took you 10 minutes to think of.

Anyways those are my 2 cents. Goodluck.

frogma · 2012-01-03T09:16:51+00:00

I wouldn't necessarily recommend it, but what worked decently for me was to find random girls from my college and add them as friends. I did that with literally about 100 girls.

Some will message you and ask who the fuck you are, some will just add you, some will add you and then chat with you, some will be interested right off the bat, and some will just ignore you.

Then it kinda depends on the situation. If they messaged me, I'd message back saying I'm just meeting people and shit, and basically leave it at that until/unless they responded. Or I'd start a random chat with them, say basically the same thing, and ask what dorm they're in or say something situational (this was freshman year, so everyone was in dorms). Most conversations won't lead to shit unless you really know what you're doing, but some will (just based on the sheer number of girls). For a lot of em, I just invited em to come play volleyball with me and my friends. Meanwhile, I'd also be going around the dorms to gather people to play (guys and girls). So we'd eventually have a group of 10-20 people and we'd all play some volleyball. Then from there I'd invite a smaller group to a party, and from there I'd pick out which girls I wanted to take it further with. It was basically the greatest system in the world.

I'd also invite some girls to the caf for lunch and shit, which worked sometimes. I'd do the same thing in person- like I'd literally go up to random rooms in the dorms around me and just knock and see what happened (or I'd go to the caf and sit next to like 5 girls and chat with em). As long as you're not super weird, people are usually pretty nice about it. And if you're at least semi-confident/cool, they'll want to party with you. Then you can take it further from there.

Obviously it works differently if you're not in that exact situation, but it's pretty similar. IMO, it's best to invite random girls to parties like it's not a big deal- basically you're telling them "Hey, I just randomly saw you and we're trying to get people to show up at this party, so feel free to come." Then it doesn't matter whether they show up or not, because there will always be other girls. If you don't have a party to go to, then feel free to try to set up some sort of date situation- just know that it's more complicated and kinda weird to do that over facebook.

Most importantly, don't use facebook (or any dating site) as a substitute for real-life interaction. It's most likely not gonna work out. Use it in conjunction with real-life shit. And as always, don't assume you can build attraction over text the same way you can in real life. Basically if the girl can't see your body language and can't directly experience sexual tension, the attraction won't be the same no matter how "suave" you are.

And if she's in your same social circle, then dude, FUCKIN TALK TO HER. Just start it off nonchalantly and say something situational (like "Hey, you're in my class," or "Hey, you're friends with Whatshisname?"). You'll hardly ever get a bad response from that, and you can take it from there. Like I said though, it's still tough to build attraction that way, so you shouldn't focus much on making shit happen. Mostly focus on having a nice little convo, and if things are going good then go ahead and suggest a hangout (or whatever works for the situation).

2012-01-03T15:54:00+00:00

I would love to hear y'alls thoughts on this. Do you have experience with this? Any good tips on this?

Yes, my experience says that going outside will raise your success by a factor of infinity. Don't look on Facebook because you're too afraid to meet women in real life. How do you think that'll work when you want to meet the Facebook girl in real life?

Any tips? Yeah. Go outside. Add them on Facebook once you've met them. Or let them add you.

harshtrue · 2012-01-03T15:13:29+00:00

You should probably use the online dating site OkCupid instead of Facebook since it's actually meant for that purpose. There is also /r/OkCupid

Trooper2442 · 2012-01-04T05:15:24+00:00

I do a lot of game on Facebook. I also approach many girls IRL but Facebook is easy since you don't need to leave your couch.

My true method is I will add a certain amount of girls. The next day I see the notifications of which accepted my request. (Remember to have a good, solid default picture since it is the only thing she will see. Make sure your profile highlights that you're fun, exciting, and social.)

After they accept, I wait about 3 days or so and eventually message/chat them and ask: "Whats up? Do I know you?" Sometimes they answer and sometimes they don't. If not then move on, if they do then try and start small conversation. Sometimes I find attractive girls willing to talk to you like they've known you for years. A couple times they've even gave me their number without me even asking. Depending on how much the conversation has escalated, I'll either tell her I'm about to go out and talk to her later, or if we're on a subject such as bars/restaurants/etc. then it's usually a perfect time to try asking for her number to text her and possibly meet up sometime. The goal is to get the conversation off of stictly facebook as fast as you can without being too pushy or coming off creepy. It's the internet and you will NEVER get her number if there is even a shred of uneasiness towards you. If you end up strictly messaging and not chatting with the instant messenger, then it may take a few days. But make sure you treat the time of reply as text message replies. I.E. she takes 4 hours to respond, you take at least 4 hours to respond.

Any other tips I may have missed would be great. Using my above methods I landed 10 or more numbers in about a week, right after I broke up with my ex. Good luck.

2012-01-03T18:32:04+00:00

Men who meet women in person don't waste their time trying to meet more women online. Women know this. When you try to meet women online, the women are fully conscious of the fact that you're doing it because you're not meeting women in person. And that's why online dating doesn't work.

luciiz · 2012-01-03T19:29:51+00:00

Meet them in real life and then game online them after. Doing it the other way round is super lame.

BudapestPUA · 2012-01-03T09:53:24+00:00

Man the fuck up...

Title	Opening....on Facebook!
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Date	January 3, 2012 8:26 AM UTC (14 years ago)
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