I've never had sex while sober and I'm 27 years old - a rAFC's journal

ThrowawayPUA · 2012-03-02T04:34:02+00:00

Whoa, slow down there a little. I see your logic here, you want to be able to do while sober what you've only done so far while drunk and don't give a shit. Which is like everything. So you've laid out an ambitious plan, you want to work on everything up through closing. But you're thinking about the end goal while you're still having trouble with AA. So I would just make a plan to work on your AA. Nothing happens without approaches, even for an mPUA. So I would suggest just focusing on approach and openers, until you are having fun at it, even if you're getting shot down a lot. We all had to do it. Once you can have fun doing openers, no matter what the outcome, the general anxiety will subside somewhat. Just do tons of openers, and see how far you can push each opener. Soon you will discover what to work on for the next step. Hey we all know what the last step is, don't worry about that now.

I noticed your comments on clothes, holy crap, I thought my 13EEEEE shoes were big. So I'll give you my favorite big feet joke. You know what they say about guys with big feet... They have big.. shoes. Use that on a woman sometime, pause a bit before the punchline. Then she feels like a sex fiend when she thinks of the obvious dirty punchline and you're going for the clean one.

Anyway, you need to find a Big & Tall store. I'm lucky because in my town, there's a shop where all the basketball & football players go, they stock big shoe sizes. But since this is a mostly rural college town, they have nothing really fashionable. If I want decent clothes of any type, or nice shoes, I go into a big city like Chicago.

choc_is_back · 2012-03-02T14:17:00+00:00

Dude, I'm almost jealous you're only about to get started. Granted, you're a little late to the game but still: prepare to inject some awesome moments in your life! You have all it takes to be successful with women: good conversationalist, don't look repulsive and living an interesting life. The only missing gap is the one you just took: realize 'success with women' is something that you can work on.

My advice for a first step would be this. From now on, be hyper-social, not just to pretty girls. Also to guys, ugly girls and their moms. You know how to do this as a sales guy, but I bet you don't naturally do it with everybody yet, just those who you need to sell something to. So start little fun conversations with strangers all the time, ask for help from a stranger for the tiniest thing, comment on the weather to whoever is nearest to you, etc...

A next (or simultaneous if you're feeling ballsy) nice step is to get in the habit of teasing girls even though you're only talking with them for, like, 40 seconds. Playfully point out something that is wrong with them, or how they come perfectly in handy to solve a problem you were just having or whatever.

Keep us posted :-)

DarkGamer · 2012-03-02T17:33:07+00:00

/r/tall sent me.

Get some tailored clothes, bro. They will cost a lot more but they will fit you properly. You will look better. They will give you confidence, and you will be glad you did it. Get someone to do your measurements and check around online.
Pull-ups for posture. If you hunch over forwards this is what you need to do to fix it. Since you are a tall dude they will be more challenging (mass cubes as you scale up, linear strength like muscle squares) and you may have to work up to them by hanging from the bar and slowly lowering yourself.

Good luck.

Marsupian · 2012-03-02T11:47:55+00:00

Maybe it's a good idea to look around /r/malefashionadvice for tips on fashionable clothes for tall men. If you can't find anything by searching it might be worthwhile post your specific problem. Dressing well is not only about attraction but also about making you feel good, making you feel more confident and expressing yourself.

Good luck on your journey!

2012-03-02T14:16:49+00:00

My goal isn't necessarily to get one-night stands, I'm more interested in dating and getting experience with a large number of women so I'll be able to make a good decision when choosing who to get into a relationship with.

^{^this} is the goal we should all be reaching for

PUAlurker · 2012-03-02T15:08:09+00:00

Check out (r/100sets)[http://www.reddit.com/r/100sets] for the 100 set challenge. You can use it to work on your weaknesses, for example AA. Set yourself the goal of approaching 100 sets. For the purposes of the exercise: As long as you go up to them and start a convo it's a success (even if it ends 2 sentences later). It's only a failure if you let your nerves overcome you, and there's someone you want to approach but don't due to AA. Then once you've got that down you can move to other aspects of your game.

HeroicPrinny · 2012-03-02T22:22:45+00:00

Hey, at least you can have sex when drunk! Whiskey dick has robbed me on far too many occasions.

Title	I've never had sex while sober and I'm 27 years old - a rAFC's journal
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Date	March 2, 2012 4:08 AM UTC (14 years ago)
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