Seddit,

Background on flaker:

Flaked on a big D2 I was looking forward to since we planned it lat week. I got a speech to the toon of "Im not ready to date right now. Just got out of an LTR. You talk to a lot of girls, you should have no problem." I was caught off guard. That was unexpected.

I tried a "Why over think this? Let just go out and have fun together." She was not buying it.

"I just need to spend time with my friends. I'll see you [in our little social circle]."

Tips appreciated.

Impromptu D2:

Called a # I got yesterday night. "This is on a whim, but I am grabbing happy hour after work. You should join me if you are not busy."

"I'm free, where?"

[We make plans]

She arrives 15 minutes late. We BS about our day a little bit. I work in teasing because she trips on a few of her words. I tease her about being inarticulate even though she is going to law school. She defends herself. We both laugh.

We do a quick interview session with "What do you do" kind of stuff.

I try out the 20 Questions game. This worked like magic. She asks me questions about my work, my small business, blah blah blah. I star off subtle. My questions train goes like this:

1) How many boyfriends have you had? "One"

2) Strangest place you've ever done it. [Lame answer, but it sets the mood]

3) Are you a good kisser? "Yes!"

4) How do you know you are a good kisser? "I got a message on facebook from someone telling me I was the best sex they ever had."

5) That's not kissing, but ok. What are some of your little tricks? "OMG I don't have any. [Embarrassed. Goes off on a tangent.] What was the question again?" I excuse myself to the bathroom and tell her to think about it. I whisper in her ear as I walk by her, putting my arm around her stomach and opposing torso to pull her close.

"What's the best trick you have in bed?" I walk away.

I come back, we had decided we are going to go to another venue after we finish this round. We leave as she is telling me she has no tricks in bed. I say I am driving us to the next place. She asks me a rather deep question (relationship with parents). I dodge the question as I walk her to my truck. I walk her to her door like I am going to open it but K-close her instead. After we stop, she says "You know, we don't have to go to [venue 2]. We can just go back to your place."

On the drive I tell her the answer to her question will not be a "fun" one. She says answer it anyway. I answer it to build comfort, rapport and show her my serious/sensitive side. Then I take her back to my place for some really good sex.

We make plans for a D3.

Take aways:

Abundance mentality saves the day.

20 Questions can work wonders. It's surprisingly easy.