Alright, I'm not sure if this is a pattern, but I could use some advice. I'll give two field reports and see what you all say.

FR1: I have a weekly drinking/politics meeting that I host. It's a pretty successful weekly group. Lots of people show up. This one girl has been showing up that I go to school with. She knows that I am married, but she flirts with me. Touches my leg under the table. Shit like that. We made plans to hang out at her house. I get there. We smoke a bowl, drink some wine. She talks a lot. Kind of like she's filling up any silence with conversation. I'm just like "whoah." I hang out for about an hour, mostly listening to her. Was kind of wondering if I should be talking more, but she just talks so much. Near the end, I go for a kiss. I try to pull her on top of me while she is standing and I am on the couch. She says she is going out for a smoke. I relent. We come back in after the smoke and she indicates she is going to leave to go run an errand. I go for a kiss after the hug and get rejected. I then go home.

FR2: Tonight was a rap concert. I put on FB that I was going and wanted someone to go with. HB8 contacts me with her phone number. She meets at my place, hangs out, we drink and smoke and go to the concert. We hang out at the concert, split up when the main act comes out, meet back up after the concert and walk back to the cars (a bit of a walk). I have kino'd her rather consistently through the night. Used appropriate flirty eye contact. Get back to her car and go for a kiss after the hug, and get rejected. Tell her good night and walked off.

What am I doing wrong. I know these girls like me. I can sense it. I'm doing something wrong I think. Maybe going for the kiss at the wrong moment. Help!