Simple tale of how you should always keep your cool, speak through actions and communicate with a girl emotionally rather than logically.

Due to being positioned slightly apart, little-to-no kino done around 9pm after grabbing coffee and some sushi. I'm unconcerned as I'm confident she is into me.

  • Her: I have to get home to finish a work email that was suppose to go out before our date.

I immediately call her out saying that is a horrible excuse and tease her that she is blowing me off (in a cocky "oh aren't you cute trying to blow me off" way). She says no way, that she really does have to send it, and I tease her for being a prude that has to be home at 9pm, and quickly let it go.

This was hugely important, a big reason she wanted to go was I had not given her the physical assurance that I could fill her sexual needs yet... if I had pushed here before giving her that value (via kino / makeout) I would just be digging myself into a hole. So I agreed that she should get her work done and change the subject.

  • 50 feet from her car, I spin her around and boom makeout. Get her interested and then push her away to keep walking, reminding her that she has to get home. Hand holding up until car

Push/pull is important, I was just giving her a taste while setting up later makeout at her car. This showed confidence and didn't even bring up the question of whether we were leaving together.

  • Once we get to her car, push her up against the car and start intensely making out, feeling her up as people walk by. Minor push/pull her until I can tell her heart is racing, then I tell her I'm a bad influence on her work, and that we should go back to her place for just an hour, no sex, and she can work after that.

She agrees but is firm on "just an hour". (I end up staying five)

Once again, if I pushed "hey we should have sex" or "I should spend whole night with you", then I would have had to deal with a bunch of resistance. Instead, I setup a path of small steps to lead us both to a great night together. This avoids her having to say no or setting boundaries by "just letting things happen".

The key is that I saw the whole plan once she said she had to get home, and rather than fighting it out by trying to convince her immediately to decide to take me home, I had patience to setup the physical desire and then let things happen in small steps.

In my AFC days, I'd have given up once she apparently blew me off, or started on trying to convince her right away.