I had a bit of a revelation tonight, and while exhausted I wanted to be sure I posted it before I forget about it. Sure, we all know that oneitis is caused by the scarcity mindset, but I know I've hooked up with women, gotten phone numbers, and still get oneitis... and I think sometimes oneitis may be ego based.

Why Won't She Like/Date/Hook Up/Etc With Me?

Many times in a oneitis type situation, the person feels like there is something wrong with them and their confidence gets hit. If only this one girl would like me. If only I could hook up with her. I know in my case I set the girl as the prize, something to be won. It seemed like other guys had such an easy time with her, why can't I? There must be something wrong with me.

Fucking Ego

Sure, I like the girl and click with her well, but it's got to be something more causing the oneitis... I click with many girls. My ego was hurt by the fact that she rejected me in the past (and now my confidence is so shattered with her I freeze up when I probably could make a move), and now the only thing that will remedy it is some validation from this girl. You need your ego stroked.

Yes, it seems like even in oneitis situations, ego can often be the blame as well.