I've been reading a lot of posts here that talk about how they can't get girls because they are simply too nice, girls hate nice guys, blah blah blah. As someone who used to have this mentality, let me just say BULLSHIT.
The Idea
Self-proclaimed nice guys think that girls love douches. Of course, the nice-guy definition of a douche is anyone who is good with women. You can be a nice guy and be good with women. Yes, you read that correctly, you can be nice, and still be GOOD with women.
Wait, What?
When you think about it, the whole nice guy syndrome is sort of a paradox within itself. You're nice to the girl, but hide your true intentions of trying to get with the girl, usually due to a lack of confidence. Dishonesty isn't very nice. Meanwhile, she assumes you're not interested at all, and friendzones you, then you get pissed when some other guy comes along and sweeps her off her feet by making his intentions clear. Newsflash: You can be nice and make your intentions clear.
OH GOD, THIS SOUNDS LIKE ME!!!!
First off, breathe. It's ok I promise. Now tell yourself out loud "I don't have to be a douche bag to get girls". Let that really sink in. All you really need it some confidence. But before you do that, you need to be ok with the fact that you want to meet girls. There's NOTHING wrong with wanting girls, and you need to be OK with this fact before you move forward.
So What Do I Do?
When you're interacting with a girl that you're interested in, escalate physically. I CANNOT STRESS ENOUGH HOW IMPORTANT THIS IS. Be sure to playfully tease them and flirt, and above all have fun with the interaction! Don't put her on a pedestal and do whatever she wants simply because you're attracted to her, or be her stepping stone. There's plenty of resources on inner game here, start looking it up. Go listen to David Wygant.
My Experience
From what I see and my own nice guy experience, it seems like the majority of nice guys do OK with the interaction and talking, but don't escalate physically enough. Another nice guy situation is that they don't know how to next a girl. Stop getting so caught up on that one girl, there are millions of single gals out there all waiting to meet you.
I Got Shit To Do, Wrap This Up Already
Girls aren't attracted to douches, but they are attracted to confidence which is something that sort of goes hand in hand with being a douche. But guess what? You can be nice AND be confident as well. I never will be mean to a girl, but I will playfully tease a girl where they know I'm harmlessly joking. Now, I'm no master with women, but I've made strides without changing who I really am and you don't have to become someone you hate simply for girls.
TL;DR: Nice guys don't finish last. Nice guys without confidence do.
*Edit: There seems to be a lot of discussion talking about negging and teasing in the comments, and I look at them as separate things. Maybe neg was the wrong word to use, what i mean is you don't need to go up to girls and insult them if that's not your style. You could playfully tease, but I've seen guys be straight up vicious towards women, and a lot of new people think you need to go attacking their self-esteem in order for them to like you. *
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