Hey seddit.
I honestly dont know what the point of this post is besides me getting stuff off my chest and wanting some feedback. This is a long one and there is no TL;DR at the end. I dont even know if I should actually be posting this here. Apologies if so.
Ive been practicing the art of seduction and building attraction for a few monthes now. It all started with watching SimplePickup and then reading the Neil Strauss AMA. Read The Game. Started approaching. I started.. changing.
Honestly, I can see and feel the changes. Went from a introverted and always constantly looking for a girlfriend 21 year old to a 22 year old confident and foward guy. I honestly wish I learned all this years ago. Ive #closed, K-closed, F-closed more girls that I would have dreamed of. I have been friend zoned constantly my whole life and now Im at the point where I friendzone women. I can go out alone to bars and clubs and just have a good time, and honestly, its alot more fun that way
Change is good. I eat healthier, live a fufilling sex life, and have become more assertive. I have more direction in my life than I ever had. I still have alot to learn though. Like the gauze being removed from my eyes, it opened me to new views and I started questioning the people I was around. I have become more distant with some of my friends, because I feel like they were dragging me down and/or were never real friends. Recently though, a few of my close friends who I am still on good terms with, told me that they like the new me. They like how I take action and try to lead, even though Ive made a few bad calls in the past. But one thing that got me thinking last night. One of my friends told me that "Ive become hard," he misses the old nice guy me. He tells me that Ive become very harsh and very realistic to a point where it scares him. I tell him that I have become a confident person and that I have more direction in my life, like I told you guys.
Following this chat, the couple of the group are argueing and such, and as the girl goes into the bathroom and is being comforted by my other friends, I have a chat with the boyfriend. Long story short, I tell him he should break up with her. I have no end goal with his girlfriend because Ive already been with her before they dated. The old me wouldve comforted him and told him that he should "stick it through," but I instead incepted an idea into his head.
That same night, another one of my female friends tells me, "shes dissapointed with how I am filling a void in my life." AKA she is dissapointed that I was "seducing" one of her friends. I had a moment of guilt, then realized that the girl friend wanted to be hit on just as much.
Also, I have been having a conflict within myself thinking, me changing... thats a good thing right? Is it wrong that I am not looking for a relationship and am just enjoying being single? Have I become emotionally calloused? Do I view girls as goals now instead of actual human interactions?
I tell girls straight up before things get hot and heavy, that Im not looking for anything serious. Some call me assholes and usually leaves, some are hesitant but believe that THEY can change my mind and end up being too emotionally attached, or we are on the same wave length.
Ive become a happier person in general, but.. that small voice in the back of my head, the introverted guy is telling me that something is wrong. I just cant figure it out.
Thanks to those who read till the end, I needed this off my chest. If anyone has any advice, tips, or feedback then please, give it away.
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