Surely this stems from insecurity and power-play? Nothing just happens naturally. Even the idea of spontaneity is never truly spontaneous since one would do randomness given positive outcomes it is likely to generate.

Oddly enough, escalated sexually with a girl over the text I met a few days ago. A day after that, she admitted that she had her inhibitions lowered due to a sex scene she watched (very self-aware girl mind you). So she wants to fuck but is hesitant, right? Even today she says she is still sexually frustrated. So, what the hell do they mean by natural? Even my ex kept on using that word after she fucked this other guy, 'natural' (although, not as responsible as this girl. My ex said "my body needs it"). Even musicians aren't natural.

Yes, the girl i met has had thoughts about sleeping with me so it's strange that she wants sex to happen naturally. I better understand if she means to take things slowly. ofc we have different schedules and lives, so to me "naturally" i wanted to schedule it. I am not pushy about it. So by naturally, does she mean follow her tempo and lead at the same time or she wants to spend more time face-to-face and escalate it from there?

thank you =)