I remember reading up on this once, so I do not take credit for anything I suggest. It is something that has helped me greatly, and something I want to share. This is for those who are just starting out, or still a beginner, or just working on improving your inner game.

It is hard to succeed with women if you do not believe you are an attractive man. In fact, that is something that works for everything in life. If you do not believe in your own capability to do something, if you do not believe in yourself, you are setting yourself up for failure. If you believe you are attractive to women, where this belief is genuine (no fake-till-you-make-it here) women will sense this. And you learn to not care if that attractive blonde you opened near the bar isn't attracted to you, because you can find many other blondes that are just like her/even better that are attractive to you.

So how do you find proof you are attractive to women? Make an IOI Journal (Indicator of Interest). Its simple, whenever a woman does something that shows she is interested in you, you write it down. For instance, you catch her looking at you a few times over at the bar and she holds the eye contact, she holds your hand when you high-five her, she gives you her number and puts her first and last name on your phone. These are simple ones. Obviously, include kiss closes, lays, and obvious statements of interest.

Here are some of the ones I have in my journal:

  • Feb 28/12: Girl at lineup for food asks me what I am having while she waits beside me.
  • July 13/12: Girl I ask to dance with my friend says no and says she wants to dance with me instead
  • July 29/12: Girl drives down from neighbouring city to see me

In my journal I have some obvious IOI points like kiss closes and such but I tried to include examples where some new guys might not understand that that is an IOI. For instance, if she agrees to drive to see you (in my case, at the moment I don't have a licence yet) she likes you. If she opens conversation with you out of nowhere, its because she thinks you look interesting and she is curious. If she asks you about your tattoo and what it means to you, she likes you!

Some of these might be really obvious to the experienced guys, but I remember until I started paying more attention, IOI's happen often and they aren't always obvious.

In essence, find reasons you are attractive to women. At first, it took a while for my journal to get going, but at the moment I have two pages of IOI's (only documented ones) that remind me how much girls like me. Imagine how strong you inner game will be, when you look back on your journal 2 years from now, and spend an hour reading dozens and dozens of IOI's girls have shown you in the past.