Well bro I understand your situation, fortunatley for me, I now have my cousin, but this is what I have learned. In my opinion you are able to woo a girl by being a fun loving person. Being able to crack jokes, tease them a little make them laugh. I am also judgmental. I tend to think about what people might think about me, but I'm fighting hard to not care what people think. Bro I had it bad the only girls that liked me were the ones that I never wanted anything to do with in terms of sex and a relationship as a couple. Being friends was fine but they just didn't get it. I felt that I could never get the girl I wanted, recently i had still believed that. Today everything changed I had cute girls eyeing me everywhere. Just a quick story I had went out to Dave and Busters with an outfit. There were HB8's and 9's all over, none of them looked my direction, I felt pissed and miserable and cried a little. However, today I went out with the same outfit at school and saw some hot girls looking at me calling to me and I was in shock. At this moment I still feel kind of sad cuz these girls are really beautiful and I really want to make them happy, but our negative thinking is totally destructive.

What I would tell you my friend is to;

1.Start thinking positively( no matter what, shout and scream if you have to, take those negativities out of your head)

  1. Practice proper hygene. ( Dude TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF!!, Get some clothes, try looking sharper, get a nice haircut. Trust me if you dress comfortably and add some style to the way you dress you'll feel more confident. Also BE UNIQUE!! but not excessive! My cousin does this and he pulls up HB8's and 9's on a regular. Try mixing a few styles, do something!

  2. Don't let anything or anyone steal your happiness, you have to be happy to make others happy. Break a bad habit, go searching for the real you, the person who you want to be.

  3. Care less about what people think. ( I am jamaican so when I speak in my accent I sound funny. Today I saw some kids while listening to a dude named Tommy Lee he is a jamaican artist. So I was feeling jamaican singing and going crazy in my accent they were looking and laughing at how I was acting but did I care, well.. only a little because I am trying to get my not care attitude. But when they were laughing at me and I saw them, I looked, smiled and shouted something jamaican which made them laugh more, I also ended up laughing at myself. One thing I know though is that laughter is better than sadness so i cared not for there laughter because I want to see people happy.

  4. FIGHT to the death! There is a war inside you the evil and despicable you is winning right now so is the one in me. Fight hard and let the joy inside you win that is the only way youll be able to feel happy.

Bro I wish you all the best and I will also follow this example. I will say to you that I know we will be able to fight, win and obtain the women we want in life nothing is impossible we WILL get to have these beautiful women to spend the rest of our life with. Take care of yourself and don't give up.

One more thing, I believe they key to getting the girl you want is not to approach them in the sense that.. yes she's going to be my girlfriend from the start but think like. Wow she's cute..I'm gona crack some jokes tease her a bit make her laugh and try to be her friend, THEN I'm gonna get a little bit deeper. Remember try to find a way to do this and not get stuck in the friend zone.