Do you visit certain venues on a regular basis (bars, clubs, day game)? Or do you just sarge as opportunities come up (concerts, parties)? Asking especially for the post-college crowd here.

EricDisco · 2012-09-20T16:29:13+00:00

I teach guys how to get past approach anxiety and the very first step in this is getting out regularly and consistently to practice. I recommend guys simply go out to day game places like supermarkets, malls, parks, public transportation, and practice for 45 minutes every day. If you prefer bars or live in a low-population area, you can also go to happy hour venues and bars.

Particularly when starting out, it is imperative that you take initiative to go out regularly and make this happen rather than just taking initiative with women whenever you see them. Yes, in the long run, you want to just live your life and meet women whenever you go out through your exciting lifestyle. But if try to just do it when the opportunity arises, chances are that you won't do it. At the beginning it is not a fun process and takes a lot of work. It's like going to the gym. But once you start to do it regularly, it starts to become easier and more fun.

I still go out regularly to practice my game. I go out every single day for about 45 minutes. This is my foundation. I still do other stuff with my wing sometimes, but the most important thing when improving with women is consistency. It's like becoming a better runner. You won't get too far doing it once a week. It's a start to go out once a week, but I would gradually up that once you feel more comfortable.

UnapologeticalyAlive · 2012-09-20T18:01:17+00:00

I've been done college for 10+ years. I go out to the same bar every Sunday night. It's the same crowd every week. It's easy to spot the new girls, and I have no trouble approaching them. I think it's a good idea to have a regular spot like this where you can feel comfortable. It lessens AA a lot.

budguy68 · 2012-09-20T20:13:19+00:00

Don't think about it. Just go out and do it and adjust accordingly. Always check out new places and look for target rich areas. Look for day events IE music/art festival/events.

Here's what my going out times look like

Mon - Mall A 1 hr
Tues - Singles Chuch meet up (every other week) or mall 2 hrs
Weds - Swing dance (every other week) 2 hrs
Thurs - Mall B, Bar Distric A (rocker, more laid back) 3-6 hrs
Fri - Art Fest Event(or whatever event there is..), Bar Distric B (college crowd, more snobby, hotter chicks) 3-6 hrs
Sat - Art Festival Event (or whatever event there is...) Clubbing 3-6 hours
Sun - Local bar (1-2 hr)

Notice that I don't go to the same place all the time. For places where I see the same people all the time I don't hit on girls too hard or get too crazy. I also work harder at remembering their name.

Also I've gone to gay friendly clubs and for some reason I've gotten more make outs with Girls ofcourse. So dont be afraid to try shit thats not normally your style.

It also helps to have a wing who's as motivated as you are. That or you can go with friend A on days 1 3 and 5 and go with friend B on days in 2 4 and 6 or something.

You might also think that such a schedule might burn you out but it doesn't. In fact I look forward to everyweek where I go out the hardest. I also drink 3 beers max on heavy nights. I am also very use to it that I already consider this normal.

j_arbuckle2012 · 2012-09-20T15:01:25+00:00

Happy hour at your local younger people bar. Not too loud, people are your age and interested in meeting others. No one's drunk or sloppy, drinks are cheap. And you can go several nights out of the week if you have 10 bucks to spare that day.

Local events like art festivals, renaissance fairs, small venue concerts on the weekends.

Just because you're out of college doesn't mean you can't have a social life, you just have to try harder.

Just_Like_You · 2012-09-20T20:18:47+00:00

Grocery Stores/Supermarkets. Get on it.

Title	Do you visit certain venues on a regular basis (bars, clubs, day game)? Or do you just sarge as opportunities come up (concerts, parties)? Asking especially for the post-college crowd here.
Author	squarehouse
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Date	September 20, 2012 2:36 PM UTC (13 years ago)
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