Help with push pull

Canei · 2012-09-26T07:59:45+00:00

You're an extr3mest, which is why it probably feels weird. Push pull is about balance, like dribbling a basketball.

If you just push, there are consequences. You can come off as an abrasive dick/complete fucking asshole, which contrary to what PU can lead one to believe, isn't good. Also, she can like you but think she has no chance with you. You extinguish the flame of her hope. Nobody wants to feel unwanted. Pushing too hard stops her from thinking of you romantically. It's such an uphill battle that it isn't worth her trying.

If you just pull, you are needy. You kill attraction. I think you understand this part, so let me clarify why pulling, in moderation, is good. Firstly, just not being afraid to be forthcoming demonstrates that you're mature and know what you want, and is immensely attractive. Secondly, women love to be wanted and want to be loved. It's true, despite how it can feel in this community. Third, pulling at the perfect time and in an Alpha way is hot on a carnal level.

If you balance these forces well, she will be in the happy middle ground of "hoping that you like her" which is a powerful place. Her hope for you is like a fire. Don't let it die by pushing, but don't feed it too much or it will quickly rage into a forrest fire of hubris, and you'll get burned. Hope is the most dangerous thing that escaped from Pandora's box. Most people miss that though.

TL;DR: Only you can prevent forrest fires.

Dahka · 2012-09-26T06:50:07+00:00

Don't think about it logically, that isn't the point.

You know when you used to sit at home and think to yourself "**** does she like me? Does she not? I can't tell it's killing me"? You are trying to do that, but to her. It didn't make sense, looking back on it, but at the time, the irrationality of the situation was so far from being something you cared about, you couldn't see how dumb you were being.

2012-09-26T07:43:44+00:00

Just make sure you seem very interested some of the time, and not so interested some of the time, and vary between the two

Michael_Cassio · 2012-09-26T08:34:18+00:00

I think push/pull can be summed up as giving a compliment but qualifying it with an insult. Think of it as "Ooops I said too much" or "Don't get the wrong idea"

So lets say you say "Think fast!" and toss something and she actually catches it. In the heat of the moment you'd pull her in with "OH MY GOD YOU'RE THE GREATEST GIRL EVER!..." then almost like you think you said too much, "Well, that I've met in the past 10 minutes anyway" and keep going.

Push/pull works both ways too.

"Ugh you're such a dork... You're lucky you entertain me."

Title	Help with push pull
Author	extr3mest
Upvotes	3
Comments	10
Date	September 26, 2012 6:30 AM UTC (13 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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