So I have have a reoccurring theme. I'll be out with a girl on a date and other random men will try to fuck with me behind my back. They are usually in a group of other male friends, drunk and performing some level of cat-call. Latest incident was last night. I go bowling with a girl I am seeing. Her and I are having a great time. There's a loud drunk party next to us. I pay no attention to it. We are having a beer and bowling for about 30 mins in. She goes and bowls her turn, I get up kiss her, tell her she's getting better, grab my ball. As I am lining up and bowl my turn, guy in the party next to us says, quiet enough so I can't hear, "That's cute", to my girl, she asks him: "What did you say?" (she should have ignored him). He replies "You're cute" and some other rambling shit trying to disrespect me. Girl tells me and I act like I don't really hear her and don't give her too much attention about the situation. Of course this def pisses me off to a degree but I hold frame and act fairly unfazed. What I do is I grab my beer take a sip, I laugh at this guy and say "You're soooo cool, guy!". Let him know that I know what he said. He then leaves with his group to cash out his lane, he's looking at me from about 50 ft away like he wants to do something. I continue making eye contact with him to establish I am not a beta and not looking away at the ground in submission, I then raise my beer in a toast to his faggotry and sip it while not breaking eye contact.

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This is not the first time something like this has happened. Dudes have hit on girls I am with when my back is turned to them and talk some shit about me. I lift and am not a toothpick and i am not fat. I am 34, 5'10 185 and have a very attractive top 90% face and a top 80% physique compared to the average American male. I easily can date attractive women because of this, so I am used to this type of behavior. Guys drooling over the chick I am with and probably never had a girl hotter than a 6.

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Now I am not going to be slugging it out with every guy who hits on a girl I am with, that's childish and would probably happen every time I go out in public. I am certainly not afraid to throw down and have trained MMA for many years. I used to get in a lot of brawls in HS and throughout my mid/late 20's. I am def over it. Broken knuckles for weeks because of some tard is not my thing at this age. I also don't want to get arrested, don't want to seriously hurt someone and don't want to jeopardize my career and future. I have grown up a lot and at the end of the night I am the one plowing this 8.8/10 for an hr and a half when we get back to my place.

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One thing I think I do need to do is to put on about 10-15 more pounds of muscle. This will help gain more respect initially from everyone when I enter a room. My face is attractive and luckily very young looking, I usually have to earn being taken seriously because initially they think I am some young dumb early 20's fuck boy.

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I do take it as a compliment and a stroke to my ego when the girls I date are hit on. It takes the pressure off me since I don't ever compliment them on their looks. But, it gets to a point where they talk shit about me to these girls behind my back, in a secretive way and I don't appreciate the disrespect at all.

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How do you guys handle situations like these without throwing down and getting in trouble? I do draw the line a physical contact. I also am not going to be some unhinged monkey, fighting every loser that hits on a chick that I am with in public. Like I said, she's young and she's probably trying to gauge what kind of a reaction she can get out of me in these situations.