How Victim Mentality Can Stifle Your Life And Luck With Women

RedPosterboard · 2012-12-06T05:15:38+00:00

Another master piece by Girlschase, and on a topic I've been thinking about a lot lately as it concerns myself.

Favorite quote: "The first step to being successful at anything is killing victim mentality. You've got to demolish it.

How do you know you've got it? Well do you ever:

Complain / think / talk about how hard you have it?
Blame other people for "doing things" to you?
Vent that something is "impossible" or "doesn't make sense" that OTHER people seem to have figured out and are doing well at.
Feel like you have no choice ("I HAVE to do this!" "I CAN'T do the things I want!")?

If you ever do ANY of those things... guess what... that's victim mentality."

2012-12-06T14:42:56+00:00

As someone who has dealt with but finally overcome victim mentality, I can say that everything in this article is gold. Good find, OP.

Balance380 · 2012-12-06T20:13:48+00:00

Thank you op

2012-12-07T00:29:01+00:00

First time in years I've read something in this community and felt the person actually has any idea what he's talking about.

My only problem with his logic is that accepting everything is your fault A) leads right back to victim mentality and B) may not necessarily be true in all cases (ie. someone may not like you or be mean to you because they're a dickbag, not because you didn't give them a reason to be nice to you)

TheSicilianDude · 2012-12-07T05:39:21+00:00

Realizing that your lack of success with women is your own fault is one of the best realizations you can come to. It's when you finally realize that the power to change lies completely within you, not external forces.

This article hit home with me so hard. So good to get a reality check like this when I need it.

quintin3265 · 2012-12-06T15:01:23+00:00

I read this article, and I think it's a good read, and an excellent piece to look at when one is dealing with business. If you are providing a service to people and that service fails, then you need to improve it in order to make more money. That's probably why the hotdog stand example works so well in his article.

But this doesn't jive right in terms of seduction. Men are not providing some sort of "service" to women. Some pickup artists do indeed think that they are God's gift and that their company is making women's lives better, but I don't want to be as arrogant as that.

In the hotdog stand example, the sole goal of the entrepreneur is to earn more money for himself (and if it is not, he shouldn't be in business). It is not to serve good hotdogs. Most companies forego a perfect produce in favor of an acceptable product with just as much spent on advertising or packaging - see prescription drugs or tablet PCs with $10 boxes.

In seduction, there is another person involved. It's not ethical to go out there and try to seduce people solely with your own success in mind. Sometimes, the truth is that the woman might actually be happier with a different man than you. In those cases, it is your moral obligation to recognize that and move on. Women are people, too, and these articles seem to forget that far too often.

I disagree with this whole advice. This is great business, but it is not a human approach to relationships.

Title	How Victim Mentality Can Stifle Your Life And Luck With Women
Author	RedPosterboard
Upvotes	41
Comments	7
Date	December 6, 2012 5:10 AM UTC (13 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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