Never Say "No" To A Girl - Do This Instead

will_at_work · 2011-12-08T16:47:30+00:00

"Much as I'd love to, I find that having other people's things in my hands really impedes my ability to enjoy myself." LOL

RedPosterboard · 2011-12-08T14:34:57+00:00

One more of those great-to-be-aware-of-and-simple-to-use tactics in socializing. I never did think about the power and effects of the word 'no' in that light before.

Favorite quotation:

"We have such deeply in-built, hard-wired resistance to the word "no" from so many negative experiences with it over the course of our lives, that simply hearing it causes us to back off and shut down."

BeanerBoyBrandon · 2011-12-08T20:45:13+00:00

I remember reading an interview about Steven Colbert he said he has a hard time saying no because when he would do a lot of improv and you're not suppose to say no because it brings down the energy.

Box-Monkey · 2011-12-08T18:58:08+00:00

This is a terribly written article, though I see what they're saying.

I disagree, however. To me, saying no sparingly can increase attraction hugely, namely with 8-10s. People who are accustomed to getting what they want don't like to be told no. This seems like a bad thing, but it can actually spice things up! Girls who usually get what they want are used to dealing with wimps and chumps who don't have the courage or balls to tell her flat-out "No". The average person will be told "no" on occasion, but they deal with it and get used to it. Everyone should know how to handle a mild rejection from time to time.

The thing about rejection, one will note, is that it actually increases your desire for the object you can't have, at least in the short term when there's still a possibility of obtaining it.

Her: Can we go to the movies tonight? You: No, not tonight. Maybe tomorrow. Tonight we've got plans!

I'm not saying to simply say "No, fuck you" without any saving grace to your comment, but throw it in, spice it up, and have alternatives. Be fluid, but playful!

testmypatience · 2011-12-08T18:08:45+00:00

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b3anz129 · 2011-12-08T20:53:02+00:00

Definitely. I live by a similar philosophy. One should try never to use words with negative connotations. Can't, won't, shouldn't, no, not, the whole works. I tell myself not to be a debbie-downer because, no matter how miniscule, those are the kind of vibes being transmitted. As the article pointed out, the alternatives are much more conducive to fun conversation.

thesorrow312 · 2011-12-09T03:37:03+00:00

If a girl said to me "are you a libra?" My response is usually "you know astrology is nonsense right?"

nanan00 · 2011-12-08T20:20:54+00:00

Positive deflection is one of the first conversation tools I learned, in that it gives you an opening to continue the conversation where "no" is usually the end.

phallic_audio · 2011-12-08T20:10:41+00:00

Thank you. I needed that reminder/reinforcement.

2011-12-09T00:55:43+00:00

This article is more a "another tool in the toolbox" when talking to a girl instead of a mantra to live by. When you first start talking to a girl you need to get her excited about you fast. Going from no to something else is a tough transition. The article basically explains how to transition well from a question with a negative answer.

Polemicist82 · 2011-12-09T06:56:50+00:00

I think this can go hand in hand with David D's advice of "Never give a direct answer unless it's no." I say goes hand in hand because he first states not to answer directly (as this article demonstrates,) but then articulates the difference between a business model and a hitting on women model. Not all brain hacks that work in business work when it comes to hitting on women. I wish I could give some citations for you, but I suggest you study the benefits of being able to say and saying with some frequency (but with a sly smile, of course,) "No" to a girl.

2011-12-11T18:17:00+00:00

uhuh. so getting a girl is kinda like training a dog

2011-12-09T00:48:34+00:00

That website needs a TL;DR on their articles

westsan · 2011-12-09T06:44:25+00:00

"Make me a sandwich" works great for me.

Title	Never Say "No" To A Girl - Do This Instead
Author	RedPosterboard
Upvotes	315
Comments	33
Date	December 8, 2011 2:30 PM UTC (14 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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