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| 1 | Thoughts on Narcissism/Gaming InnocentsJust curious, Recycle... whereabout in East Asia are you located? | /r/seduction | 01/09/13 02:07 PM |
| 2 | Does anyone have issues/solutions with sexual performance anxiety?This: http://www.increase-testosterone.info/testosterone-report.pdf In short; garlic extract pills are some of the best natural extracts for boosting your levels of testosterone. You wouldn't happen to take cholesterol medicine, would you? Also, how old are you? | /r/seduction | 13/08/13 08:00 AM |
| 1 | How does one fake a relationship?Not sure I understand the question; You want to date someone and make them fall in love with you, while yourself remaining in emotionally uncommitted whatsoever... Why would you want that? | /r/seduction | 12/08/13 01:33 PM |
| 1 | An honest issue I have with this subredditIf people don't get results such as numbers, dates, and lays out of what they are doing, that would strongly suggest that their experience is inadequate for dealing out advice to others. | /r/seduction | 21/07/13 11:10 AM |
| 1 | An honest issue I have with this subredditMost international coaches you do training with have closed fora for their students, but that requires that you do training with them. www.girlschase.com/boards is free and high-quality, but I'm not sure they take in more people. | /r/seduction | 20/07/13 04:00 PM |
| 15 | An honest issue I have with this subredditSeriously Throwaway... I agree wholeheartedly with OP's opinions. I've been writing here for more than two years, you and I have been in touch on the odd occassion via PMs, but I have made the decision to not give more advice to people here. It's a complete waste of my time to hand out advice that I have learned the hardest way possible through literally thousands and thousands of approaches in all environments and through training and hanging out with some of the world's best PUAs, and then onl… | /r/seduction | 19/07/13 04:21 PM |
| 0 | [FR] Brutal night. Writing this so I just get it out...Definitely.... so she is not only ugly, but also evil. | /r/seduction | 25/06/13 05:37 PM |
| 3 | [FR] Brutal night. Writing this so I just get it out...Upvoted for a long, soild and detailed reply. Much of his discomfort stems from not having a direction or really knowing what his doing in set. "Where to go from here, how to respond now, what to say now / how to handle their friends" all serve to increase the pressure and the tension. In that case it's scary as fuck. This is what I do to hook 70% of my sets recently: 1) Make sure to have fun. Nothing matters during night game. Having fun kills approach anxiety. This is SO key, especially for be… | /r/seduction | 25/06/13 02:19 PM |
| 16 | [FR] Brutal night. Writing this so I just get it out...Lols... bro, you're so reactive, needy, and outcome-dependent that reading it hurts. EVERYBODY gets rejected ALL the time, even the best, so learn to deal with it. Instead of wasting your time with an ugly 5.5 (why did you even bother opening her?), you should focus on learning to transition way better with the girls that you open and who give you positive responses. You completely lack a sense of direction with your approaches and eject after opening, thereby wasting good opportunity after good… | /r/seduction | 25/06/13 12:00 PM |
| 1 | What's the proper answer when someone asks you if you've slept with someone?Yeah! I'm curious too! ... Dude? | /r/seduction | 04/06/13 10:48 PM |
| 1 | What's the proper answer when someone asks you if you've slept with someone?Why wouldn't you want to tell the truth? | /r/seduction | 04/06/13 10:47 PM |
| 2 | Met Mystery tonight!Yeah, Mystery is awesome. The dude changed my life. If it wasn't for him, Style wouldn't have been Style, and Style wouldn't have written 'The Game', and I wouldn't have been introduced to this amazing, new world. | /r/seduction | 31/05/13 10:54 PM |
| 1 | Met Mystery tonight!Long time no see, Frogma :D | /r/seduction | 31/05/13 10:52 PM |
| 1 | Do you have a personal pattern on how you approach women and talk with women? Share it!nice. upvoted. | /r/seduction | 31/05/13 06:36 PM |
| 5 | Met Mystery tonight!So true. | /r/seduction | 27/05/13 10:11 PM |
| 1 | [FR] Approached a HB10 at a house partyAnd from what it sounds like, you're giving out the same lame one-liner "pretty faces / boring personalities" to all on seddit irregardless of context, implications, and what's really needed in the current situation. | /r/seduction | 23/05/13 11:38 AM |
| 1 | Does anyone else have game without having to talk a girls head off?Having done it once does not make it a habit. | /r/seduction | 12/05/13 10:13 PM |
| 1 | Your greatest moment of triumph so far in seduction?Finally a sedditor who adds real value to Seddit. Much appreciated. | /r/seduction | 03/05/13 09:37 PM |
| 1 | [FR] F-Closed 2 set (cold approach)Ah, glad that you could see the value in it then :) That means there is STILL hope for Seddit :P | /r/seduction | 03/05/13 09:19 PM |
| 1 | Is a bootcamp necessary to really jump your game to the next level?Well, it's all good for you if you have a savvy wingman... but most guys on the local lairs (and Seddit) are NOT! These people lack the experience to break down whatever is going on in the set. I'd rather take the bill and then save years of hard work. | /r/seduction | 03/05/13 05:36 AM |
| 1 | Is a bootcamp necessary to really jump your game to the next level?I've had the pleasure to see a few masters in the field myself, and it's awesome. Any particular reason you rolled with the Mystery team? Matador and Herbal are both some of Mystery's henchmen. | /r/seduction | 02/05/13 11:07 AM |
| 1 | Your greatest moment of triumph so far in seduction?Ah, yes... but the darkness that lurks in the hearts of some people that you trusted. I've been stabbed in the back by three people who I considered my best of friends, and years later it still hurts. I'm still amazed and looking for answers. | /r/seduction | 02/05/13 10:25 AM |
| 1 | Is a bootcamp necessary to really jump your game to the next level?Check my reply to Sirinon's thread. It sumsup my stance on and experience with coaching. | /r/seduction | 02/05/13 08:47 AM |
| 3 | Is a bootcamp necessary to really jump your game to the next level?The reason I'm commenting on your initial reply is because I've done coaching four times with four different coaches and I can't recommend it strongly enough. Coaches will point out the mistakes that you're not even aware that you make and will provide solid answers to all your questions. Most guys from the local lairs, and especially Seddit, just don't have the womanizing skills or infield experience to pinpoint mistakes in a person's game because they only have little clue on how to pull off i… | /r/seduction | 02/05/13 08:46 AM |
| 1 | Is a bootcamp necessary to really jump your game to the next level?I'm curious... did you ever do any coaching yourself? | /r/seduction | 02/05/13 07:01 AM |
| 0 | Is a bootcamp necessary to really jump your game to the next level?I'm curious... did you ever do any coaching yourself? | /r/seduction | 02/05/13 07:01 AM |
| 1 | A new thought on kinoI can't imagine a lot of trust hormones being generated from getting a sporadic knee in the ass ;) | /r/seduction | 01/05/13 10:02 PM |
| 1 | Your greatest moment of triumph so far in seduction?Fuck it, I'M proud of you! | /r/seduction | 01/05/13 09:54 PM |
| 1 | Your greatest moment of triumph so far in seduction?Getting my first same-day lay from a street approach, getting picked up by a HB 8.5 and banging her that same night, approaching a girl in a mall and getting head from her later that day after a two hour date, banging a girl who was 36 while I was 24, instant-dating a Miss Hong Kong 2012 contestant... | /r/seduction | 01/05/13 09:52 PM |
| 1 | Is a bootcamp necessary to really jump your game to the next level?Interesting. I've been trained by four guys myself... How was the coaching with Mystery? Is he as good as they say? | /r/seduction | 01/05/13 09:45 PM |
| 2 | [FR] F-Closed 2 set (cold approach)Just giving you some pointers to improve the process and your results, bro. It may sound cynical to people who are not deep into studying game (which I presume is most people on seddit), but game, from open to close, IS a process. You get best results in terms of happiness, satisfaction, and lays with quality women by optimizing each step along the way. That's why I am taking the liberty of pointing out some points that could be improved in your wing game. Don't hate. | /r/seduction | 30/04/13 09:55 PM |
| 2 | [FR] F-Closed 2 set (cold approach)So true. I'm getting more and more disillusioned with Seddit. It offers no value to guys with game above beginner-intermediate level, instead more advanced guys who deliver detailed breakdowns of what's REALLY happening in set and how to optimize ones chances get downvoted by the people who would most benefit from the advice given. Instead useless, generic advice like: "just be yourself / just be alpha / don't think, just do it" get upvoted everytime. | /r/seduction | 29/04/13 07:55 AM |
| -1 | [FR] F-Closed 2 set (cold approach)Good job, a few comments. 1) You need better wing game: your wing should ideally keep the target from recommunicating with your target. That's what isolation is all about. If the obstacle insists on seeing the target, your wing should follow her there to address any attempts at cockblocking you and your target, and give you time for getting the target's number, if you hadn't gotten it before. 2) Your wing walked away, and wasn't there for you to call in. This can be critical. Don't rely on luck … | /r/seduction | 28/04/13 09:33 PM |
| -1 | Guys with good game.... you definitely won't find them on Seddit! :P | /r/seduction | 26/04/13 10:56 PM |
| 1 | I've given up, it's time to force myself to date in my own race.... and I might add, I used to live in China and went on dates with more than 100 Chinese girls when I was there. And guess what, most of them blew me out when I tried to escalate on them. I'm white, and probably somewhat above average in looks (or so people tell me). Didn't help me much when it came to closing my dates. It's a cultural thing and a game thing. You have to game - at least Chinese girls - in a special way because they are, in general, not as sexually liberated as girls in some oth… | /r/seduction | 21/04/13 09:18 AM |
| 2 | I've given up, it's time to force myself to date in my own race.Dude, stop complaining and up your game instead. Your limiting beliefs are silly, bro. Seek out a dating coach if need be. | /r/seduction | 21/04/13 07:59 AM |
| 2 | I need your advice on my next move..First of all... you're already losing momentum by waiting so long to see her. She met you while drunk and probably can't remember much about you in the first place. To play solid game, get her on the phone for a 10 minutes chit chat and build some comfort / a connection first, then ping her every second day by text. Also consider calling her while you're out doing something awesome to DHV. If she is not enthusiastic about coming to the party in the first place, make sure to let her know that she… | /r/seduction | 18/04/13 09:25 PM |
| 1 | How do you get/keep a girl invested in you?Humor is the easiest way to spice it up emotionally. | /r/seduction | 14/04/13 02:15 PM |
| 1 | How do you get/keep a girl invested in you?Dude, Pussygetter is a troll. Read his record. | /r/seduction | 13/04/13 06:49 PM |
| 2 | How do you get/keep a girl invested in you?Exactly. You're trying to impress her all the time with how much you know which screams neediness. Also, your conversations are too rational. They lack emotions and steam. You got the wrong idea of how to talk to women when you talk that way about IOIs. You SHOULD communicate that you like them and that you're a sexual, strong man while you still present a challenge to them. It's no wonder they lose interest in you. You're on a clock when you meet a girl because you ARE on a clock, and you lose … | /r/seduction | 13/04/13 06:48 PM |
| 0 | [UPDATE/Field Report] The date didn't go so welllols EDIT: your comment on the good formatting made me smile, because I agree ; ) | /r/seduction | 13/04/13 06:37 PM |
| 1 | [UPDATE/Field Report] The date didn't go so wellExactly. This bro knows what he is talking about. She was expecting you to move in and kiss her right there. The fact that you write THIS part in your short FR means that it left an impression because you were feeling awkward in the moment and did not know what to do although you knew full well what you WANTED to do. Next time hug goodbye, and push for the kiss, or even better, when you walk a girl to her place at the end of the night, you ask her to use her bathroom, and when you enter her apar… | /r/seduction | 13/04/13 06:33 PM |
| 2 | Past two girls I went on dates with didn't want to continue because of my inexperienceHow good of you, sir, to offer absolutely no value and to shoot that nice young man down so you can feel good about yourself. Who is the real pussy? | /r/seduction | 12/04/13 10:10 PM |
| 5 | Past two girls I went on dates with didn't want to continue because of my inexperienceIndeed. No need to let the girls know that he's inexperienced and a virgin, besides. That's a major DLV and doesn't show any preselection. So he should deflect when the topic comes up or not make the topic come up in the first place. | /r/seduction | 12/04/13 09:09 AM |
| 3 | Past two girls I went on dates with didn't want to continue because of my inexperienceI'm guessing you're too nice and too cautious and too "boring" on your dates and that you don't lead strongly enough, sexualize enough or kino at all due to your lack of experience. When you escalate on them you hit LMR and the girls use your own words of being "inexperienced" to rationalize their LMR. LMR is usually caused by a lack of comfort and qualification. Start hanging out with some experienced guys or get coaching from somebody to cut the learning curve and save time. | /r/seduction | 12/04/13 08:15 AM |
| 2 | I have 1-2min with a woman, how to maximize attraction?Strong eye contact and a closed-lipped smile as a bare minimum. | /r/seduction | 11/04/13 09:17 PM |
| 1 | first time on a date!Make a game plan and date plan in advance. | /r/seduction | 11/04/13 09:14 PM |
| 0 | Stop reading theory and go out NOWRidiculous to downvote you, sir, when you are absolutely right. The downvoters are the people who believe that following the generic advise that seddit offers will change things for the better. | /r/seduction | 11/04/13 09:11 PM |
| 2 | AMA with JULIEN from REAL SOCIAL DYNAMICS!You're a good-looking guy, so they enjoy the attention and the validation from talking to someone like you. But you're just pushing too hard instead of just trying to really get to know them, and they realize that you only want to fuck them for their appearance, not for who they really are. You don't make them feel special or listen to them. The other guys "get them ready for more" by communicating less neediness and more genuine interest in them. You sir, on the other hand, only want to fuck th… | /r/seduction | 06/04/13 03:27 PM |
| 1 | AMA with JULIEN from REAL SOCIAL DYNAMICS!You need some better game, that's all. I'm guessing you're simply failing to establish a connection with the girls. | /r/seduction | 05/04/13 09:20 PM |
| 2 | AMA with JULIEN from REAL SOCIAL DYNAMICS!Excellent question. I hope Julien will get the time to answer this tomorrow. | /r/seduction | 05/04/13 09:06 PM |
| 2 | Tips for initiating kino when you're the one who has been approached?Game them and kino them like you usually do...? | /r/seduction | 29/03/13 09:51 PM |
| 1 | Why do girls flake? the age old question. I had 2 girls who I interacted with really well that thought I built attraction with flake on me in the last two weeks...advice pleaseIf girls flake it's usually comfort game missing, along with lack of a connection, even if they are willing to exchange texts with you. | /r/seduction | 26/03/13 06:34 PM |
| 2 | Reposted because I didn't get any responses about a recurring theme I keep experiencing. Not building enough attraction with girls before asking them out.I would agree and disagree. By talking about her ex-BFs you get an idea about what kind of girl you're dealing with - how many partners she's had, how she met them, what she's looking for, what went wrong. You get an idea about her sexual history, and you can use all this information to progress the sarge. But you're right that you should beware of becoming the shoulder they cry on. If that happens, pull away your kino, change the subject as soon as you can, and put them in a light, happy mood i… | /r/seduction | 26/03/13 04:30 PM |
| 1 | Reposted because I didn't get any responses about a recurring theme I keep experiencing. Not building enough attraction with girls before asking them out.Enlighten me here, please... mofo date? | /r/seduction | 26/03/13 04:24 PM |
| 2 | Daygame- I need some high energy openers that work on groups, 2-3.These days I ask for directions in the daytime, then when I can tell the girl is friendly and relaxed, and after I've thrown a few jokes at her, I give her a direct SOI and tell her that I have to admit that the real reason I'm talking to her is because I saw her and thought she looked really cute and just HAD to meet her. Also, consider changing your tag name; labelling yourself uberafc doesn't do much for your inner game. | /r/seduction | 26/03/13 10:49 AM |
| 1 | Daygame- I need some high energy openers that work on groups, 2-3.Yeah, cleared up. Cheers. | /r/seduction | 25/03/13 11:03 PM |
| 1 | Gaming girls you find boring?Dude, those books also tell you that you should relate to people. If you don't know jack shit about horses and if you find horses as boring as I do (and I think that horses fucking suck), THEN you ask the girl in a genuinely interested way, what she likes the most about horses, if horses were a childhood fascination, what experiences she has had with horses, etc, etc., instead of blowing her off like you did in the conversation. It's no wonder she left. Be interested in finding out how people wo… | /r/seduction | 25/03/13 10:49 PM |
| 1 | Daygame- I need some high energy openers that work on groups, 2-3.So, just to clarify... when you talk about picking up two girls at the same time, you're going for a threesome? Or you're going to get a number from each of the two girls, who, since they are together, must be assumed to be friends.... and then try to get it on with each of them? Sorry man, I'm just very confused. In each situation, you must come off as sincere, not just in a group situation of three. Furthermore, I would be offended if I were a girl, if a guy comes up to me and my friends and h… | /r/seduction | 25/03/13 10:30 PM |
| 1 | Daygame- I need some high energy openers that work on groups, 2-3.Sorry man, I don't want to sound like a dick, but if you have no or little experience cold-approaching girls, why do you give out advise on how to do it? :) | /r/seduction | 25/03/13 10:04 PM |
| 3 | Daygame- I need some high energy openers that work on groups, 2-3.Seriously dude... how many girls have you really tried to open in the day time? You'll find that in all cases, if your target in the group is comfortable talking to you, her friends will either 1) help you progress the sarge, or 2) move aside to let you and your target talk in peace, or 3) one or a few of the girls will attempt to cockblock you, in which case your wing man will speed-talk them, while you get the number of your target. If it's a two-set, you can play the obstacle by talking to he… | /r/seduction | 25/03/13 10:02 PM |
| -2 | Daygame- I need some high energy openers that work on groups, 2-3.lols | /r/seduction | 25/03/13 03:23 PM |
| 9 | Daygame- I need some high energy openers that work on groups, 2-3.I have most of my lays from daytime approaches and the best advice I can give is... be fucking normal. | /r/seduction | 25/03/13 03:19 PM |
| 1 | Seddit, Help is neededYou can look up affirmations on the net. | /r/seduction | 24/03/13 05:50 PM |
| 1 | Things took a turn for the worse (FR)You should have gotten her in a sex location way sooner. Sexting can be either good and/or bad, but the danger remains that you can easily fuck up and miss out on your chance. In your situation she was caught up in the moment of texting you back and forth. When you met her the next day her emotions had changed and she felt some buyer's remorse for having sent you naked pictures. Now she feels like you expect something from her. In order to get this girl now, you'll have to turn down some of the … | /r/seduction | 24/03/13 09:19 AM |
| 1 | What is going on with this chick?Anytime... a RedPosterboard who is all geeky for PUA always pays his debts ;) | /r/seduction | 24/03/13 12:30 AM |
| 1 | Reposted because I didn't get any responses about a recurring theme I keep experiencing. Not building enough attraction with girls before asking them out.You're not giving us any information about the sarge itself, so it's impossible to pinpoint your mistakes. I'm guessing, however, it's either 1) related to your perceived social status at whereever you're studying, 2) you being too nice/you being too cautious to sexualize even the slightest bit because you're asking out girls who are in your class. I agree with rmbarnes that you should practice your cold approaches more in order to learn how to build the right vibe and attitude. | /r/seduction | 24/03/13 12:27 AM |
| 1 | Reposted because I didn't get any responses about a recurring theme I keep experiencing. Not building enough attraction with girls before asking them out.Seriously, dude, but cinema dates are totally outdated, for the simple reason that they don't allow you to game the girl and build the sort of connection that is usually needed to lay the girls. How many times have you pulled this off in practise? | /r/seduction | 24/03/13 12:22 AM |
| 2 | What is going on with this chick?Addressing it directly NEVER works with girls unless you have already slept with them. Girls are super subtle in this regard and will deny anything that could potentially cause awkwardness. So, calling her out on her behavior is sure to create awkwardness for the simple reason that it puts her in a bad light - "hey, she's in a relationship AND is flirting with another guy" -> that would make her a ... "slut"... right? :O = Instant crash and burn by triggering her anti-slut defense. If you've pla… | /r/seduction | 24/03/13 12:15 AM |
| 2 | Seddit, Help is neededThanks for your honesty and directness. If you're serious about dating, do coaching with guys with real-life experience in the game, and beware of the advice you get on Seddit. Most guys here are not very experienced, and worse, they are judgemental. Great that you're moving to a big city. What I would do if I were you, and I had four months in a small town before moving to the big city: 1) The most important: save up money for a number of coaching sessions with a guy with reputation, 2) start g… | /r/seduction | 24/03/13 12:02 AM |
| 2 | What is going on with this chick?If the friendship is more important to you, then you should not even attempt to return the interest. Make no mistake, but you're on pretty deep water here with this girl, since she is getting emotionally invested in you and would cheat on her BF with you, given the right circumstances. It's always a bitch mixing emotions and sexuality into friendships with women. It's unstable ground for the friendship. It's fair enough that you don't wanna engage in sexy times with a "committed" girl. But reali… | /r/seduction | 23/03/13 11:18 PM |
| 3 | Good lines to isolate a girl?You'd first get the acceptance of your target and usually by giving her a reason - "it's too loud to talk here, let's go to the corner for a bit and talk / let's go for a drink / let's go dancing / come, I'll show you something outside" and when she complies, you address the group. | /r/seduction | 23/03/13 10:52 PM |
| 1 | What is going on with this chick?There you go... black and white. | /r/seduction | 23/03/13 10:32 PM |
| 2 | Good lines to isolate a girl?If you want to isolate a girl in a group and bounce within the venue, the best way is to tell her friends that you'll just borrow their friend for two minutes and then bring her back afterwards. Acknowledging the friends is not only tactful, but also shows social awareness, and it preemptively addresses any cockblocking attempts from the friends through the added time constraint. | /r/seduction | 23/03/13 10:29 PM |
| 1 | What is going on with this chick?The world is not black and white. | /r/seduction | 23/03/13 10:17 PM |
| 12 | I'm 16 and trying to learn, where can I practice?Yep, don't try out new social techniques on your class mates since you'll probably end up weirding them out and in doing so cause yourself harm. If you can afford it... ... do coaching once or twice. It will give you a basic understanding and teach you a system that you can refine over the years. What I wouldn't have given to learn about game at such an early age as you. You're fucking blessed, my man. | /r/seduction | 23/03/13 10:16 PM |
| 3 | A girl went thermonuclear AFC on MEHe did NOT lead her on by just being friendly. Seriously, how many girls don't do this actively, BUT knowingly? Girls fucking do this ALL the time to guys to get validation, and guys just have to eat it up and accept it. It was her own imagination that lead her on, not him. I have a friend who gamed a girl one night, then they went back to his place, and he started escalating, she got semi-naked, while he got fully naked... ... ... and then she started laughing and put her clothes back on while … | /r/seduction | 23/03/13 10:07 PM |
| 1 | A girl went thermonuclear AFC on MEI laughed my ass off. Thank you so much the write-up. Yep, just proves that you should stay away from crazies. Haha, I imagine how she would have reacted if you had still stayed after she came back in... or better yet, you should have banged her friend in that half an hour she gave the two of you alone :P | /r/seduction | 23/03/13 09:55 PM |
| 3 | How to deal with a co-worker that comes up with 'names' for me?Yep, of course. No need to shoot him down in front of everyone. | /r/seduction | 23/03/13 09:37 PM |
| 6 | What is going on with this chick?It's typical mixed signals behaviour from a girl who is taken but is attracted to another guy. Completely normal in this situation. She wants you to meet her boyfriend to put you in the friend zone and thereby make it more difficult to herself to get physical with you, from her moral and rational perspective, while emotionally she is burning for you. Also completely typical in this situation. If you wanna get intimate with her, all you gotta do is get her alone and a little drunk for things to h… | /r/seduction | 23/03/13 09:32 PM |
| 1 | Extremely valuable lessons I learned tonight.Just curious... what's your level of experience with game? | /r/seduction | 21/03/13 05:39 PM |
| 1 | Extremely valuable lessons I learned tonight.The problem here is lack of qualification and comfort. She was attracted enough to you during the initial meet-up to give you her phone number, but she is not willing to commit further because she doesn't know you well enough, because you guys don't have a connnection, and because you're just "that guy from the library". You should have gotten her on the phone soon after you left her to chat for a bit and increase her investment in you and her compliance. You may still have a shot at her; figure… | /r/seduction | 18/03/13 11:48 AM |
| 2 | Seddit, how many of you have taken boot camps? Care to share your experiences?I can relate to the AFC-mode thing that you experience after a bootcamp. Although your AA is greatly diminished on a bootcamp because you're so much on - and because you don't want to let down your coaches who tend to be highly charismatic people - bootcamps are never magic pills, and most people will revert to having approach anxiety and excuses to approach afterwards. That is completely natural and happens to most people I've talked to who did coaching, including myself, which is the AFC-mode … | /r/seduction | 17/03/13 06:18 PM |
| 1 | An open letter to all emotional over thinkers; aka too smart for our own good.Dude, this is all in your head. The fit dudes had to start somewhere too, right? | /r/seduction | 17/03/13 10:39 AM |
| 4 | Coaching Review: Day Game With PUA Coach ArtisanThanks. Glad you found it useful :) | /r/seduction | 17/03/13 10:24 AM |
| 9 | Seddit, how many of you have taken boot camps? Care to share your experiences?I've been trained by four coaches and each time has been a life-changing experience. I've done coaching with Chase Amante twice, a full weekend on a bootcamp with RedpoleQ, then later with Kane Vast, and finally with Artisan. To me, each time it was worth every penny; it developed my arsenal of tools for socializing and pick-up, in addition to heightening my awareness of social situations and my my own sticking points. Moreover, each coaching session cut years off my learning curve. Time is fuck… | /r/seduction | 17/03/13 02:11 AM |
| 2 | I'm a funny guy, but I find myself getting stuck in, "funny mode" when talking to girls. Anyone else have this problem, or advice?This reply of yours just made my day :) | /r/seduction | 10/03/13 10:49 AM |
| 2 | I'm a funny guy, but I find myself getting stuck in, "funny mode" when talking to girls. Anyone else have this problem, or advice?I used to be where you are. You got to let go of maybe 80% of what you perceive as your game, and just have a normal conversation for the rest. You're being the funny dude because you like the emotional responses of the girls you're gaming, but the problem is that they see you as nothing more than a fun dude. You should seek instead to build an emotional connection by having a REAL conversation. Realize that it's completely OK to ask "chodey" questions like: "where are you from", "what do you do… | /r/seduction | 09/03/13 09:25 PM |
| 1 | I'm addicted to seduction.... and what's the point of your post? What question do you want an answer to? | /r/seduction | 09/03/13 09:19 PM |
| -1 | Does Confidence Equal Success? Actually, No.Of course people picked up girls before there was a 'process'. But the point of the article is exactly that confidence is merely a feeling, and that feelings are fleeting, at most. What WILL get you furthest is by implementing a process to get you from A to B instead of relying on your emotions to get you there. Also, the article never mentions that there is ONE correct process. Many roads will lead you to Rome. But by getting to Rome (= whatever goal) you just might have grown more confident in… | /r/seduction | 19/01/13 04:03 PM |
| -1 | Does Confidence Equal Success? Actually, No.Yet another deeply original masterpiece by Girlschase. The best thing about this article is that it can be applied to much more than pick-up. Favorite quotation: "What aggravates ME is the veneration of confidence as some sort of success magic pill. It isn't. Process is. A well-executed, well-rehearsed process that builds on experience and acquired skills. With process, you can succeed in spite of your feelings." Get inspired, and enjoy :) | /r/seduction | 19/01/13 01:29 PM |
| 2 | Going on a Cruise... any special advice or stories, more of a day or night game mindset?Lol, unless the ship goes down. | /r/seduction | 08/01/13 02:56 PM |
| 2 | So you got her back in your place, you are talking, you tell her she is special, she asks how? You fuck up. How do i not fuck up next time?When complimenting her you're setting yourself up as the validator and the qualifier, which is right where you want to be, and exactly what you should be doing. You don't give her power by merely complimenting her, and drawing out the good things about her, and the things you like about her. If you don't know why you think she's special, you shouldn't tell her she's special in the first place. You gotta learn to notice all the things about her that are even moderately cool and expand them. That'… | /r/seduction | 03/01/13 09:40 PM |
| 1 | Story of an f-close in Denmark with a 7.2Because people don't follow the logic of you first sarging girls with your male wingman, then when you get blown out, you go home and full-close your male wingman instead... I'm confused as hell. | /r/seduction | 25/12/12 09:26 AM |
| 1 | Story of an f-close in Denmark with a 7.2Sorry, but it's a weird field report. That's why it gets downvoted. | /r/seduction | 24/12/12 10:56 PM |
| 3 | Story of an f-close in Denmark with a 7.2WTF... you and your wing should be supporting each other in the field instead of competing in front of a girl. You need to have way better communication with him about this and NOT have had to put him down in front of the girl. That makes both of you look lame. Your friend just fucked up your chances of getting with that girl. Completely unnecessary. Sorry if I sound like a dick, but that's because it's Christmas ;) Also, you should have taken the phone number waaay earlier, while seeding stuff … | /r/seduction | 24/12/12 12:09 PM |
| 2 | Coaching Review: Day Game With PUA Coach ArtisanWell... there's an awesome community of highly talented guys in Shanghai now. Would be fun for you to check out if you get back some day. | /r/seduction | 12/12/12 08:13 AM |
| 17 | Coaching Review: Day Game With PUA Coach ArtisanBasically, you can sit down and write out a list of don't-wants in a girl, and then a list of do-wants. This serves the purpose of making you aware of what kind of woman you're really looking for. As for me personally, I don't want a girl who's not slim and does not have a sense of humor and doesn't tell jokes by herself. I do want girls with a humorous, colourful and spunky personality. This consitutes one part of screening/qualification; heightening your awareness of what kind of girl you real… | /r/seduction | 12/12/12 04:37 AM |
| 2 | Coaching Review: Day Game With PUA Coach ArtisanInteresting observation... I find that closing from dates in China is difficult too. I find that pulling from clubs is not necessarily that easy either, since you typically have to deal with cock-blocking, drunk Chinese guys, and the girlfriends of your target. Hence, when I night game I typically collect numbers and then meet them later. I'm from Denmark, been living in BJ for the last 2,5 years. What's your China experience? | /r/seduction | 12/12/12 04:27 AM |
| 6 | How Victim Mentality Can Stifle Your Life And Luck With WomenAnother master piece by Girlschase, and on a topic I've been thinking about a lot lately as it concerns myself. Favorite quote: "The first step to being successful at anything is killing victim mentality. You've got to demolish it. How do you know you've got it? Well do you ever: Complain / think / talk about how hard you have it? Blame other people for "doing things" to you? Vent that something is "impossible" or "doesn't make sense" that OTHER people seem to have figured out and are doing well… | /r/seduction | 06/12/12 05:15 AM |
| 21 | How to deal with rejected when asking for a number gracefully?Don't react at all (even though it can be difficult). Just be friendly and say: "Ok, well, I had to try. Good meeting you. Have a great day!", and walk off with a smile. | /r/seduction | 22/11/12 03:14 PM |
| 14 | How would an alpha confront the guy your girl cheated on you with? Advice from Seddit?Don't confront him in the first place. Ignore him and leave. It's been unpleasant enough for you already, hasn't it? No need to swim around in the mud any more than you must. He's a guy like any other... If a girl wants to cheat on her BF, she WILL cheat on him, and if it hadn't been him, it would have been another guy. I hate to sound heartless, since I understand your pain completely (I'm dealing with something similar at the moment), but that's how the world works, for better or for worse. I … | /r/seduction | 22/11/12 03:10 PM |
| 9 | RANT: A brief history of PUAWell spoken. I agree whole-heartedly on the quality of most FRs posted on Seddit. There are rarely breakdowns in the FRs of what happened on dates in terms of Attraction, Qualification, Comfort, Leading, Sexualizing, Kino, Compliance, Logistics, etc. Instead people who DO take a systematic approach and analyze their sarges in terms of some of these elements get downvoted and called creepy. That does not leave much room for systematic learning, and people end of shooting themselves in their foot.… | /r/seduction | 20/11/12 02:23 AM |
| 1 | None of my approaches materialize to anything significant, I'm putting lots of effort and losing.thanks... I have my moments ;) | /r/seduction | 08/11/12 12:23 AM |
| 1 | Text/phone game: Airplane mode is your friendIt has its uses, definitely so, yet it's a pretty reactive approach. As noted by others here, the best time to text a girl back is shortly after she has texted you, because that typically indicates that she has a free moment to text with you which you can utilize to your advantage. | /r/seduction | 07/11/12 04:06 PM |
| 5 | None of my approaches materialize to anything significant, I'm putting lots of effort and losing.Seriously dude, I feel like slapping you. No, just kidding. But GET REALISTIC!!! I don't mean to sound like a dick, but that's because I'm drunk :P "The last 4 girls I've approached have been fairly attractive and I've failed with all of them...". How many girls do you approach? Approaching four girls is close to NOTHING. Approaching four girls and beating yourself up over lack of success doesn't serve a purpose at all. It's just silly. And why do you beat yourself up over having 'failed' when i… | /r/seduction | 07/11/12 03:44 PM |
| 0 | How and what are the steps to improve my life?If what you're doing again and again ain't getting you results, change whatever it is that you do. | /r/seduction | 07/11/12 03:09 PM |
| 1 | Above The Game: Intro & My Story (Preview of My Upcoming Seduction Guide)Tofu, did you hear about or hang out with BlueMystery and RedpoleQ? The latter is a guy who started at zero but eventually became one of Asia's best coaches, and he started in Japan too. | /r/seduction | 04/11/12 06:03 AM |
| 1 | I asked a coworker out and was rejected. How do I deal with this at work????Good advice, don't know why people are downvoting you? | /r/seduction | 04/11/12 12:06 AM |
| 1 | Waiting for a date in a bar, how to stay in frame?Or learn to become AWARE of your awareness of being uncomfortable. Just by becoming more aware and self-observant you automatically shift your focus away from what is causing you distress. | /r/seduction | 03/11/12 12:11 PM |
| 19 | I asked a coworker out and was rejected. How do I deal with this at work????You learn from this experience, carry on as normal with the girl, and don't shit where you eat in the future... | /r/seduction | 03/11/12 11:59 AM |
| 5 | To ask or not to ask? verbally asking consent for ALL forms of physical contact, good idea or no?In fact, kino, if done properly, helps create comfort and makes the interaction warm up much faster than if you hadn't applied kino in the first place. How did it feel the last time a girl held you in her arms? I'm guessing it felt pretty good, and the same for her. The reason is that trust-hormones are generated/released through touch. And THAT's why kino is so powerful in a pick-up. | /r/seduction | 29/10/12 12:17 PM |
| 1 | To ask or not to ask? verbally asking consent for ALL forms of physical contact, good idea or no?You're not hiding your intentions when you're applying kino, in fact you're communicating them strongly. BUT, there is a difference between verbalising it or not, and as a precaution you should not mention it verbally, since it will force the girl to make a rational decision rather than following her emotions. How many times would I have fucked up a sarge by asking: "can I put my hand on your leg?", instead of just doing it and gauging her non-verbal response? | /r/seduction | 29/10/12 12:12 PM |
| 2 | To ask or not to ask? verbally asking consent for ALL forms of physical contact, good idea or no?No, you should not ask. It might even be dangerous to your sarge to ask since it will put out your intentions in the open, AND how do you progress when the girl is aware of your intentions, potentially defensive about them, AND you're putting her in the driver's seat and giving up your leadership of the interaction? Seduction is the art of subtlety. Pay attention to her actions and the amount of compliance she is giving you, rather than listen to what she verbalizes. If you get to a point where … | /r/seduction | 29/10/12 09:12 AM |
| -4 | Useful Article: How To SextGuys, this article contains some great advice to both men and women on how to sexualize your text convos. I thought it might be of interest to some people out there... if you can stand the steaming hot sext examples that are contained within, that is ;) | /r/seduction | 16/10/12 10:39 AM |
| 1 | Movie dates?There's no easy way to figure this out for you. You gotta try it out the hard way so you can eventually learn to calibrate properly. Just remember that kino done correctly makes people feel pretty damn good and safe, which is why, when you do it correctly, girls will warm up to you way faster than if you didn't do kino at all. You kino escalate succesully by putting your hand on her shoulder/ upper or lower arms when you're talking to her. You throw in hand-playing games to test her compliance a… | /r/seduction | 14/10/12 03:26 PM |
| 2 | Movie dates?Yep, movie dates are a complete waste of time if you want to progress a sarge. Kino her first while you talk to her, then retract as you stop talking. This, I find, is the best way to make them comfortable to your touch early on. I base this on field-testing from more than a hundred dates and boot camp experience. The key to this is that she will focus on what you're saying rather than the fact that you're actually touching her. As she warms up to your touch and trust-hormones are generated, you… | /r/seduction | 14/10/12 12:02 PM |
| 1 | How soon is too soon to ask a girl out?Lead Moderator now?? Congrats, I didn't check in in a while :) | /r/seduction | 09/10/12 04:41 PM |
| 3 | How soon is too soon to ask a girl out?Next time, just say hi to talk to her. | /r/seduction | 09/10/12 11:02 AM |
| 2 | Girl stops replying when I suggest hanging out?This is about learning a new skill, not necessarily about getting this one particular girl. | /r/seduction | 24/09/12 08:05 AM |
| 1 | Girl stops replying when I suggest hanging out?She does this because: 1) she does not see nearly enough value in you to want to meet up (lack of attraction), and 2) she is not comfortable enough to meet you alone. How you work around this is to keep increasing her buying temperature by sending her low-key fun texts and sending her some fun/interesting pictures from your life over your smartphone. You demonstrate that you have an interesting life with plenty of friends and things going on. When you want to get her out, there are two ways for … | /r/seduction | 24/09/12 03:39 AM |
| 1 | When the conversation starts to die down...When things die down and you're losing the momentum, the best thing to do is to move the girls to another venue. | /r/seduction | 13/09/12 03:50 PM |
| 1 | Is it too late for me?Why is it exactly I get downvoted for agreeing with Potatohh? | /r/seduction | 31/08/12 01:48 PM |
| 1 | How to get to second base?Sounds like a lack of qualification and an emotional connection to me. You're running your head against a wall of LMR, which is usually caused by the girls not feeling you actually care about them and that you only want to use them for sex. Also, you're too eager. You must escalate non-linearly when dealing with girls with potential LMR shields, moving two steps forward and one step backwards, thereby turning her on in increments then going backwards one step before she can verbalize a 'no'. I'v… | /r/seduction | 29/08/12 04:56 PM |
| 2 | Is smiling too much a bad thing?I agree with ThrowawaySweden. Smiling too much, and all the time, can not only be unsettling but also communicates extreme rapport-seeking, and hence, insecurity. Smiles can communicate neediness, if done wrong and at the wrong time. "Why IS that guy smiling at me all the time? Is he being genuine? What does he want from me?" But then again, smiling comes in different shapes and forms. I smile when I walk down the street so girls notice me, and it's easier for me to open them or for them to open… | /r/seduction | 29/08/12 04:45 PM |
| 1 | I'm as down low as you can go. Bottom of the barrel. Nowhere to go but up. I need help"I'm a rapist" got it right. Join a local lair and hang out with the dudes there for support and friendship. You need somebody to give you a big kick in the ass, bro. Consider doing a bootcamp when the time comes to make up for all that time lost. | /r/seduction | 29/08/12 04:40 PM |
| 1 | During daygame, what are your go to questions/statements/games when you run out of things to say?First of all, figure out why you're making her feel nervous to begin with and fix it. I don't know you, but I'm guessing you're creeping her out, maybe by being nervous yourself or try-hard. I was there a thousand times. If you're running out of things to say, it's because you're not transitioning well enough away from the opener. I'm guessing you're still running way too much attraction game, instead of actually getting to know her by having a normal LOW-KEY conversation with her to figure out … | /r/seduction | 29/08/12 04:33 PM |
| 10 | Awkward silences 30 minutes inInstead of small-talking you should be trying to genuinely get to know her. That way you'll never run out of things to say. My feeling is that you spent most of your time building attraction, but did little qualification and comfort-building. Focus on building an emotional connection. Also, when you feel the interaction is losing momentum and energy, the best way to deal with it is to move them - shift to another venue, or just another position within the same venue. | /r/seduction | 28/08/12 06:21 AM |
| -3 | Is it too late for me?Ooouh yeah.... | /r/seduction | 28/08/12 06:07 AM |
| 8 | Is it too late for me?Dude... just fucking chill. You're still just a teenager. You're still only in-between childhood and manhood. What I wouldn't have paid to know about self-improvement and PU when I was 19. Would have saved me a decade of needless pain. You're fucking blessed, brother. Now, CHOOSE to become the person you want to be and start the hard work to improve yourself. Good luck on this amazing journey that awaits you. | /r/seduction | 28/08/12 06:06 AM |
| 1 | Any suggestions and/or material on how to pickup girls when you don't speak their language?Non-verbal game. | /r/seduction | 24/08/12 03:00 PM |
| 2 | I am 24. She is 19. Have a date. Thoughts?Dude... that's overthinking. If you're both cool with it, you're both cool with it. | /r/seduction | 21/08/12 12:23 AM |
| 1 | Made my first ever approached today. Scared shirtless, proud, but also kind of disappointed.dude, you should do it and get the upvotes, not me. | /r/seduction | 14/08/12 12:26 AM |
| 1 | Made my first ever approached today. Scared shirtless, proud, but also kind of disappointed.Dude, awesome. Consider posting your reply here in a separate thread on the front page of seddit to get it out to more people :) | /r/seduction | 13/08/12 03:15 PM |
| 1 | [FR] - A K close, the value of a good wingman, and realizing I still have a lot to learn.open, make them laugh, check for their logistics as in how many people they are out, how long they are out for, etc. Ideally seed hanging out on a day2 later and number close before attempting flesh closing. | /r/seduction | 12/08/12 04:32 PM |
| 2 | Made my first ever approached today. Scared shirtless, proud, but also kind of disappointed.Ah, we all remember our first approach in the game :P | /r/seduction | 12/08/12 04:21 PM |
| 1 | If I don't have a place to bring girls back to,what do I do?Do like my wing, Orion: pull from a club to get a blow-job in her car. Pull from the club after ten minutes and shag in a doorway. Full close girl three in public bathroom. | /r/seduction | 12/08/12 04:20 PM |
| 1 | Why every Sedditor needs a "PUA vacation" in SE Asia.lol... that happens at times to some of the western people in the China PUA community. Many Chinese dudes are aggressive AMOGS because most of them don't know how to get girls: "Here, let me pay for your dinner tonight, let me carry your bag, let me buy you flowers, see I'm SO nice to you. So you MUST like me!" | /r/seduction | 09/08/12 11:28 AM |
| 1 | Why every Sedditor needs a "PUA vacation" in SE Asia.I live in Beijing, am an active member of the seduction community here, regularly hang out with some big international names in PUA, and the terminology is used fully here. How many times have I had to struggle with LMR, bitch-shields, framing, shit-tests, even AA, and the fact that girls here seem to have to be micro-managed to keep the relationship moving in the right direction... sigh. | /r/seduction | 09/08/12 02:19 AM |
| 2 | Long Story: I fucked a cheerleader from my university last night (solid 9 or 10) Here's my advice to Seddit, looking for some follow-up advice myself tooLOL, dude. Hillarious and well-written LR. What you're experiencing with getting your soldier to stand on the volley line is something many of us experience from time to time. I had a similar problem last year and in the beginning of this year; then I realized it may have had somethinng to do with me stuffing myself full on dinner and rice before taking the girls back to my place. Your soldier just doesn't fight as well on a full and heavy stomach as someone who's had just enough. Look to exampl… | /r/seduction | 09/08/12 02:13 AM |
| 2 | I have no Idea what I'm doing, but I tried and would appreciate feedback.This is a good example of playful bantering. Light and fun. This is how you want to keep most of your texting with girls. Now, continue and ask her out next time you're bantering. | /r/seduction | 02/08/12 03:50 PM |
| 1 | Thoughts on my first mini-seminar in Seoul. Also does anyone know anything about this PUA: RedBullQ?Well... you're not getting a workshop for the 1.5k. You'll be getting a full weekend of constantly approaching in all situations in night game and day game and great feedback, plus a pretty solid introduction to the different phases of the pick-up. You'll learn to analyse your sarges and you'll learn the tools to pinpoint the mistakes you made. I didn't meet a single guy who did a bootcamp with him who regretted it. Thanks to the BC I've laid more girls in the first seven months of this year tha… | /r/seduction | 28/07/12 09:56 AM |
| 3 | Thoughts on my first mini-seminar in Seoul. Also does anyone know anything about this PUA: RedBullQ?RedBullQ..??? Lol, you're funny, dude. His name is RedpoleQ and he runs PickupAsia. I'm one of his boyz in Beijing. I even had dinner with him last Tuesday, just before he flew off to Seoul the next day. I took a bootcamp with him in October, 2011, and have been banging seriously hot girls since. I do phone coaching with him once in a while and regularly hang out with him and his crew when they are in Beijing. The guy is rock-solid, he is very intelligent, has an amazing understanding of how to … | /r/seduction | 28/07/12 07:58 AM |
| 15 | Okay seddit, I've browsed you for months and now I'm asking for advice when I need it the most.Your first step is to STOP the negative self-talk, brother. You will from now on no longer call yourself 'unattractive' or consider your life a slump. From now on, you are to no longer tell yourself that you are miserable. Whenever you're feeling miserable, tell yourself that you're awesome. | /r/seduction | 25/07/12 07:14 AM |
| 2 | First date in a long time! Advice?Good reply, and upvoted. I'd add gradually increasing kino by putting your hand around her waist for increasingly longer periods of time in between pulling back once in a while, all the while gauging her response. If she stiffens, pull back immediately. In all regards, a solid answer. | /r/seduction | 04/07/12 03:36 PM |
| 2 | I think I realized why I'm so shit at this.agreed | /r/seduction | 30/06/12 04:08 AM |
| 2 | Those of you who open directly during the day, what is the most common reaction when you say "I thought you were adorable and had to come meet you"?As astrobiology pointed out, the direct opener IS a dead end, and my main sticking point when I did direct game was getting into some good and natural conversation instead of ending up in questions mode, which I would from time to time. I think a good transition is either; "So, what are you out doing today?", then tell her what you are out doing.... have a story ready of how you're looking to buy a present for a friend who is a girl, then ask her opinion on what she likes to read, movies she lik… | /r/seduction | 30/06/12 02:17 AM |
| 1 | [FR] - Second DateSome girls need some plausible deniability even if they are DTF. That's why closing logistics are so important because you can say that there's something in your apartment you just have to show her. The problem is that you can't rely on her place to be the place for closing. Her place could be messy / room mates there / etc. which she will readily use as excuses for why she can't take you there. I had that happen to me as late as tonight, with a girl I full-closed at my place on Wednesday... she… | /r/seduction | 29/06/12 06:33 PM |
| 8 | I think I realized why I'm so shit at this.Join a local PUA community. It's way more than meeting girls, it's more like a brotherhood. They will understand you and take care of you and open up to you. One of the best things I've done for myself ever. Also, I don't mean to sound like a dick, but get a life. Get a real life with activities you like to do such as hitting a gym, dancing, etc., things that will actually help you get outside of your own headspace. When things are easier for you, strongly consider date coaching or a bootcamp. I… | /r/seduction | 29/06/12 06:23 PM |
| 1 | House Party - bringing a date.. not used to having other handsome guys around.. what do?Avoid any party dates in the first place because you're running the very real risk of experiencing all the stuff you write about. What are the pros in this for you? How does bringing her to a party with a bunch of other hot and confident and socially skilled guys ever going to improve your chances of laying this girl? The fix - Say something along the lines of: "listen, I know we talked about going to that party tomorrow, but actually I know this really great bar where they serve the best Strawb… | /r/seduction | 29/06/12 06:09 PM |
| 1 | [FR] - Second DateDude... Have you ever heard the expression 'DTF'..? it stands for 'Down To Fuck'. That's exactly what your girl was. With girls chasing you that hard and putting in so much work to show you that they're aching for you to push them up against the wall, they likewise have a tendency to become pissed off and bitchy when they feel that they're not getting what they want, and that they are investing way more into it than you, in addition to reacting that way to dudes who fail to read the signals that… | /r/seduction | 29/06/12 05:54 PM |
| 1 | Those of you who open directly during the day, what is the most common reaction when you say "I thought you were adorable and had to come meet you"?Indeed, I second the other dudes who've replied to this question. But the girls who like to be stopped vastly outnumber the ones who don't. | /r/seduction | 29/06/12 05:29 PM |
| 1 | Those of you who open directly during the day, what is the most common reaction when you say "I thought you were adorable and had to come meet you"?LOL... you ever heard about the dude Yad, who's one of London's best direct gamers? He's probably the stereotype of the internet troll in terms of looks, yet he lays like a demon. | /r/seduction | 29/06/12 05:26 PM |
| 1 | Those of you who open directly during the day, what is the most common reaction when you say "I thought you were adorable and had to come meet you"?Truly so, and spot on about the not mentioning the boyfriend part. It's something I noticed myself, and was wondering how the hell that could be (not sure if I like to know the reason, haha). | /r/seduction | 29/06/12 05:23 PM |
| 17 | Those of you who open directly during the day, what is the most common reaction when you say "I thought you were adorable and had to come meet you"?I've done between 300-400 direct daytime approaches, telling them off the bat that I had to come and meet them because I thought they were cute/adorable; typical reactions I get are 1) girls loving it, melting, and IOI'ing like crazy, and 2) girls who say thanks and then hurry away when they realize I'm only hitting on them. On maybe 20-25 occassions I've had direct antagonism or outright fear (me coming in wrong) or them branding me as a complete weirdo/creep. Hate when that happens, haha :) In… | /r/seduction | 29/06/12 10:23 AM |
| 2 | One-Night-Stand Advice from a Guy who has banged more women than Casanova (seriously)Awesome article. Thanks for linking. | /r/seduction | 13/06/12 08:24 AM |
| 1 | 20 Things I Should Have Known at 20Thanks for linking to this one. The in-text links are the ones I find most useful. | /r/seduction | 03/06/12 02:19 AM |
| 1 | How To Pick Up Girls: The Success FactorI'm using two from the Apple store. One is called 'HabiTimer' (the one that rings every 15 mins), the other is called 'Timer+'. I also use an app called the 'Habit Factor' to track my habits. | /r/seduction | 24/05/12 12:34 AM |
| 1 | How To Pick Up Girls: The Success Factorread on and you may be surprised, yet. | /r/seduction | 23/05/12 05:27 PM |
| 4 | How To Pick Up Girls: The Success FactorGents. Without doubt one of the VERY BEST articles on inner game that I have ever read in my four years of gaming. My mind was blown away by the quality of this article, and as a result of reading it I have started to implement new habits in my life. Heck, I even have a timer application on my iPhone that now rings every 15 minutes to remind me of the habits that I wish to implement, and keep me at them. The article is extraordinarily long. The real magic starts to unfold in Parts II, III, IV an… | /r/seduction | 23/05/12 03:32 AM |
| 4 | Solid Text GameYo, I found this article with a great example of text game. Personally, I normally tend to keep texting to a minimum by laying down solid time-bridges when I first meet the girls and then only use texting for logistics and handling the meet-up, but this article demonstrates a lot of good techniques if you're in a situation where you must escalate to the meet-up over text. Furthermore, the article contains a great breakdown of what's going on. Hope you find it useful :) | /r/seduction | 13/05/12 06:07 AM |
| 1 | What the hell is wrong with us? Why do we need all this stuff?... and wouldn't you say that the reason you work hard to achieve something is because you've deserved the best that you can possibly give yourself? That's how I perceive the meaning of entitlement. | /r/seduction | 31/03/12 07:39 PM |
| 0 | What the hell is wrong with us? Why do we need all this stuff?Sorry, I had to downvote you there, bro :). You should FEEL entitled to everything, instead of holding back. That's a much more healty attitude when it comes to striving towards success in life, wouldn't you agree? | /r/seduction | 31/03/12 09:27 AM |
| 2 | Sticking Point: Getting DatesYeah, don't show off your tailfeathers, never try to impress girls, because then you'll come across as the regular Joe who hits on her all the time. Demonstrate value more subtly. If you're trying to impress her, that's YOU qualifying yourself to HER, which is BAD because it gives HER the power! Regarding qualification; if a girl likes you, you can bet that she realizes that other girls like you too. So qualification is all about letting her know why SHE is special out of the whole bunch, and th… | /r/seduction | 29/03/12 05:56 AM |
| 1 | Sticking Point: Getting DatesIf you're getting flake after flake it's because of one or two things, or both; attraction and qualification. Since you're getting K-closes consistently you'd do well to do something about your qualification skills, so she knows you just don't see her as another 'cock-pocket' or 'cum-bucket' ;), but that she's actually special compared to all the other girls she bets like you. So it's not your texting skills that's the problem, but it's more likely your qualification skills. You get buyer's remo… | /r/seduction | 28/03/12 09:35 AM |
| 1 | Sticking Point: Getting DatesGet them on the phone soon after your n-close to solidify the connection. | /r/seduction | 24/03/12 05:53 AM |
| 2 | What is a good time to set out for a date?In that case, you should have her travelling to you. That's making her invest in YOU, not the other way around. When you make her invest in you more than you in her that implies that she's chasing you, and that YOU're the prize, which means that ultimately she'll be more likely to fool around with you. | /r/seduction | 18/02/12 04:08 PM |
| 1 | God damnit, I don't know what to do when a girl grinds her body against mine.Good, dominant game there. | /r/seduction | 12/02/12 02:14 PM |
| 1 | God damnit, I don't know what to do when a girl grinds her body against mine.Dude...! You just gotta go with the flow. That guy got her because he acted on it. What did HE do? Model how other guys do it, model how the girls themselves do it when they grind on you, and then step up from there and lead. Also, if you're not advancing enough to kiss her on the dance floor, in order to keep up the momentum of the interaction, you got to bounce her with you in the venue to a more quiet place for a little qualification, a little comfort, and then a BIG makeout. | /r/seduction | 12/02/12 02:13 PM |
| 1 | LR: HB Dressed-To-KillCheck reply below. | /r/seduction | 02/02/12 03:21 PM |
| 0 | LR: HB Dressed-To-KillWell... basically BT-spikes are anything that will make her feel a flash or spike of positive emotions ('make her have fun'). If you're dancing, dip her. If you're in light conversation, grab her hand and shake it out of nowhere. If you're sitting close and laughing, suddenly tickle her. You should always aim to throw in BT spikes until she starts to open up. I've had many dates in 2011 where I disregarded classic attraction game and I both failed in getting the girls relaxed around me... and la… | /r/seduction | 02/02/12 03:21 PM |
| 1 | LR: HB Dressed-To-KillCheers! :) | /r/seduction | 01/02/12 04:08 PM |
| 2 | LR: HB Dressed-To-KillThanks for that!... oh... and she just left again ;) | /r/seduction | 01/02/12 04:07 PM |
| 1 | Apparently some 4chan user came to the exact same conclusions as Neil Strauss.I've read it a few places on the internet through time. Do you know who the guy is? | /r/seduction | 12/01/12 03:21 PM |
| 7 | Signs She Wants To Be Kissed And Signs She Doesn'tIn my pre-gaming days, if I had been aware of some of the stuff that's written in this article... yes, then I could have spared myself a lot of VERY awkward moments. | /r/seduction | 10/01/12 02:45 PM |
| 0 | Pulling Women Home: The Secret To Watertight Pick UpsJust came across this article on an otherwise lazy, semi-boring Sunday. Favorite quotation: "You can boil pulling women successfully down to just two core components: The Ask, and The Logistics without either of which you probably don't get the girl." Enjoy, good sirs. | /r/seduction | 08/01/12 09:18 AM |
| 2 | Emotional Control: Sexual Projection And LeadingWeird... I never detected any problems with his site, else I wouldn't link to it on reddit. Can you be more specific as to the nature of the threat? Cheers. | /r/seduction | 02/01/12 07:48 AM |
| 2 | Tell Someone Lying From Someone Who's NotWhile not exactly related to pick-up, this article contains some very interesting stuff related to socializing; the breakdown of how to spot a liar! | /r/seduction | 29/12/11 10:08 AM |
| 1 | Ladies, how should I approach you if you are listening to music at the bus stop (or wherever)?Oh yeah, sorry for leaving that part out... | /r/seduction | 27/12/11 06:50 AM |
| 2 | Ladies, how should I approach you if you are listening to music at the bus stop (or wherever)?Yes, listen to Frogma, he knows his shit. Also look into the concept of BT-spiking, which is key when opening, transitioning, and throughout the entire pick-up. As you know, opening is not the difficult part, getting off the opener is more difficult. Sit on your ass with a cup of coffee snug at home and think up some fun BT-spikes which you'll use in-field (I did just that) - they are basically small one-liners that are playful and fun and sometimes very silly. Is she wearing something with fur?… | /r/seduction | 26/12/11 08:59 AM |
| 7 | Being The PrizeGreat stuff in there on being the prize and on how to make girls chase you. In my extensive dating experience I've only closed when I had the girl chasing me. Favorite quotation from this article: "Sex is absolute surrender for a woman, they MUST only surrender to a guy who’s worthy of being surrendered to. So by acting high-value you demonstrate to a girl your sexual worth. Little things like direct eye contact that’s not searching for a reaction in her eyes, playing a little hard to get, or te… | /r/seduction | 14/12/11 11:14 AM |
| 1 | Havent had any luck dating in 5 years. need helpIs there a PUA community where you live? If so, join it. Remember that the problem is all in your head and that you got the ressources you need to succeed; only gotta dig 'em out. I was much like you when I started out sarging; get the community guys to help you approach, use routines if necessary to make you stay in set longer to begin with, and consider working with a coach. I did all that, and while I haven't achieved PU Artistry (yet), my dating life has bloomed. | /r/seduction | 14/12/11 11:04 AM |
| 2 | Never Say "No" To A Girl - Do This InsteadI second that, good Monkey! :) | /r/seduction | 10/12/11 03:34 PM |
| 0 | IAMA mPUA with Aaron Sleazy. Ask me anything you want!Hey man, what's your take on handling situations where your mind goes blank soon into an approach because you either sense she's not that into you or she's uncomfortable with the situatuation, and so you start to panick? ... Also related to the same situation; how do you avoid ending up in questions mode? I've gotten most success from direct day game and have done hundreds of direct day time approaches - I commonly end up in situations where I feel that I'm loosing her, so I start to grab for an… | /r/seduction | 09/12/11 01:28 PM |
| 1 | The Importance of Reference ExperiencesThis article is the bomb. Spot on advice; how funny that I constantly (choose to?) forget all the IOIs I always get and the success from those hundreds and hundreds of direct and indirect approaches in terms of IOIs, hundreds of numbers, and nearly 80 dates in the course of the last two years, if only just a comparatively few lays from all that work. RedPosterboard, fucking man up and realize you're almost there and that you got what it takes! Thanks for linking to this one, Jaden! | /r/seduction | 08/12/11 03:48 PM |
| 12 | Never Say "No" To A Girl - Do This InsteadOne more of those great-to-be-aware-of-and-simple-to-use tactics in socializing. I never did think about the power and effects of the word 'no' in that light before. Favorite quotation: "We have such deeply in-built, hard-wired resistance to the word "no" from so many negative experiences with it over the course of our lives, that simply hearing it causes us to back off and shut down." | /r/seduction | 08/12/11 02:34 PM |
| 1 | How Does A Girl Like “That” Date A Guy Like Me?This article may be more aimed at the beginners out there, but still worth a read. My favorite quotation is this time not directly related to the main point of the article: "Happiness comes from striving for what you want while being happy with what you have got. ... And, to realize that “the moment” you are experiencing right now, is good enough just as it is." I hope you guys can use some of it. | /r/seduction | 05/12/11 03:54 PM |
| -1 | Nonverbals, Communication, And CavemanningThis is one long article by the Manwhore, but it remains some of the best stuff I've read recently. The Force is strong with that Manwhore... copy and print this, I will. | /r/seduction | 29/11/11 03:38 PM |
| 2 | [FR] What went wrong this time?Yeap, I sensed that you had some agenda behind it, because it didn't sound like you. | /r/seduction | 24/11/11 11:38 PM |
| 2 | [FR] What went wrong this time?Knowing you, or rather your game, Frogma, this FR leaves me baffled. What are you up to, man? :) Sounds like you were for once just out to get hammered that night and nothing else ;) | /r/seduction | 24/11/11 10:42 AM |
| 3 | How To Talk To Girls And Make Them Want YouJust came across this one and wanted to share with the community. More great stuff from GC. | /r/seduction | 23/11/11 02:20 PM |
| 1 | Paths Of ProgressInteresting article where I recognized elements of my own development from since I started studying this shit back in 2008. | /r/seduction | 19/11/11 09:15 AM |
| 1 | The "I Have Standards" ExcuseJust came across this one and wanted to share. In my experience Roosh tends to be on the cynical side which this article also demonstrates; however, his points tend to be worth taking into consideration... which this article also demonstrates. Enjoy. | /r/seduction | 16/11/11 03:32 PM |
| 2 | Making The First Phone Call To A GirlWhat I like about this article is that it actually uses as phone game tactics some of the stuff I discovered myself; that I find it way easier to call a girl when I'm moving around - I've had some of the best phone game when I was out going for a walk. Neat article for beginners and intermediate guys :) | /r/seduction | 12/11/11 07:06 AM |
| 2 | Overproviding Good FeelingsThis is one of those things that I bet most of us are not even aware of - that providing too many good feelings to a girl may actually inhibit your chances of getting intimate with her. One to remember. Favorite quotation: "Provide enough good feelings one way, and a woman will be satisfied and not need them another way." | /r/seduction | 04/10/11 03:45 PM |
| 1 | Direct Game Vs. Indirect GameAgreed... but then you start to run attraction game on them and play kino games - and that combined with a "where's the nearest McDonald's?" opener just doesn't add up. | /r/seduction | 03/10/11 03:02 PM |
| 1 | Direct Game Vs. Indirect GameIMHO I'd agree with you that direct is way best for day game, for the simple reason that you're giving her a legitimate reason for stopping her on the street. I was out with a wing on Saturday who swears by indirect game.... whereas he's really, really good at that after doing a bootcamp with Pickup Asia, the girls remained mystified throughout much of the interaction as to why he'd stopped them. | /r/seduction | 03/10/11 02:25 AM |
| 1 | Direct Game Vs. Indirect GameGreat article and great comments on direct vs. indirect game. I personally prefer direct game, but the main problem with direct game is that it's just... inflexible. Hence, I've decided to do a bootcamp with the guys from Pickup Asia who mainly do indirect game. Look forward to learning tons of new shit that will eventually help me improve so many social skills... and will help make my direct game even better. | /r/seduction | 02/10/11 06:21 AM |
| 1 | My theory on text game... not bad, good sir. | /r/seduction | 01/10/11 03:54 AM |
| -1 | Why Women Flake On YouSpot-on article by our very own Jeremy Soul. Simple but solid, and to the point. And god, how I hate when girls flake on me! | /r/seduction | 28/09/11 02:15 PM |
| 16 | Just Be Yourself: The Worst Dating Advice Known To Man... Indeed. If I'd just been myself and continued like that I'd still have been playing good old Sid Meier's "Gettysburg" from 1997 like I used to do for several hours every Saturday and Sunday in my early and middle twenties. Whereas I became really skilled at playing that game and learned to kick proper butt at Robert E. Lee level I was angry and frustrated at the world, felt socially awkward especially around hot girls and the 'cool' guys, and had maybe one or two dates a year, if I was lucky… | /r/seduction | 26/09/11 03:15 PM |
| 1 | Common Day Game MistakesI was checking out Jeremy Soul's blog on day game and came across this one, which is written by one pf his junior instructors, Nick Hoss. There's a lot of goo stuiff in there that even I was not aware of. It's basically a how-to article with things to avoid on direct day game. Recommended! | /r/seduction | 25/09/11 04:46 AM |
| 4 | Your Complete Guide To HIV"Now, Jim.... I want you to be very careful... when you're putting on... the corsage". Unquote, Jim's Dad from 'American Pie'. ... Just came across this one. Jesse Charger seems quite scientific in his approach to game (hence the name of his blog, I guess), which I like, being a scientist myself. Bothers me somewhat that he omitted references to this one, though, given the subject of HIV and STDs. Also, if you're interested in this subject you'll be likely to find up-to-date information on http:… | /r/seduction | 21/09/11 03:26 PM |
| 5 | A little variation to the Neil Strauss street approachI second that. Nothing like direct game in the day time. | /r/seduction | 21/09/11 03:20 PM |
| 7 | Shut Up And Dress WellI used to be the guy who'd wear baggy North Face zip-off pants, a loose washed-out polo and gym shoes whenever I went anywhere in the daytime. I thought it signalled that I was casual and down-to-earth, and I thought that chicks would like me for it. LOL. I was three years younger than now and one hell of a lot more inexperienced. Now I'm slightly overdressed at work... I wear rocker-style outfit when I go anywhere else... and now I get approached by girls from time to time. Choice of clothing a… | /r/seduction | 20/09/11 03:13 PM |
| 1 | Why avoid her seeing you as a BF initially?... but how do you usually pull the disqualifying yourself part off on dates, Worthwhile? I asked PuaCurveBall the same; would be interesting to know how YOU do it :) Thanks, bro. | /r/seduction | 20/09/11 02:42 PM |
| 1 | Why avoid her seeing you as a BF initially?PuaCurveball, seriously, thanks for those great write-ups on how you rebuilt yourself and that article on guys' worldview. Knowing the quality of the stuff you write, I've saved them both and will read them when my time is better. I've come a lot closer to addressing my sticking points on why I just can't seem to get laid from all my dates after I put a post up on a lair in China last week; one of my sticking points is disqualifying myself as a boyfriend. It can be done by avoiding being too 'ni… | /r/seduction | 20/09/11 02:40 PM |
| 1 | Value Is Relative And How To Do Challenge ScreeningIf you have the patience to read through this lengthy one, you'll be rewarded handsomely! I especially like the Rake's concept of challenge screening since I commonly come across models, artists, flight attendants, musicians when I do direct day game. A few favorite quotations here: On Social Value: "YOU are the one and only judge of her social value. This is the strongest position to take... In your reality, YOU are the only person whose opinion really matters. You can take everyone else’s opin… | /r/seduction | 19/09/11 03:08 PM |
| 4 | Get To Know A Girl: Connection-Building TacticsFavorite quotation: "When most men meet a girl they like, they make a valiant effort to get to know her – and usually end up doing it all wrong. Common things guys do include: Talking about themselves a lot Trying to be impressive Trying to carry much of the weight of the conversation Actively seeking to keep things moving smoothly constantly Being clumsy or obvious in things like screening and qualifying Acting overly interested in uninteresting topics Venturing onto uninteresting topics themse… | /r/seduction | 18/09/11 03:21 PM |
| 1 | A Friendly Handshake That Makes Women Feel Instant AttractionFavorite quotation here: "Use the excuse of exchanging names to grab her hand, shake with your right hand and cup with your left hand so that it’s like your hands sandwich around hers. And then say to her, “My name’s Joe,” as you look into her eyes, with a big smile. Hold her hand in yours for 5 seconds longer than you would normally. Then, later, when you have to go, take her hand again and with the same strong eye contact and a warm, resonant voice tonality clasp her hand with both of yours fo… | /r/seduction | 14/09/11 04:14 PM |
| 9 | Making it sexualExtended, strong eye contact, when she looks away, you'll look away too in order to avoid coming across as staring at her. When she looks back at you, you look back again. Tilt your head over so sligthly down so you show more of the whites in your eyes. Think Enrique / Spanish seducer here. Triangular gazing. Look into her eyes, but also look down on her lips. Sexy, aren't they? She'll know what that means. Kino. Sit close to her. Make sure your legs rest against each other's. Gently touch her l… | /r/seduction | 14/09/11 04:10 PM |
| 1 | The Three LovesLust, Passion, and Commitment... God, I want it all! | /r/seduction | 13/09/11 03:03 PM |
| 1 | FR[9]: Elated with life.Ah, great write-up, bro, on a great evening! Just reading that made my great day a greater day :) | /r/seduction | 12/09/11 12:35 PM |
| 1 | [FR1] - Please Help Redposterboard get laidGreat advice on the line and on how to not be pushy. I think that might just work :) | /r/seduction | 12/09/11 12:29 PM |
| 1 | [FR1] - Please Help Redposterboard get laidThanks for your reply. I agree, I'm definitely outcome dependent. I've read some of your other posts through the months, and you seem to know what you're doing. What would you suggest I do to change my outcome dependent mentality? Also, yeah, I may be too pushy. As the man I'm expected to drive the interaction forward and take charge. I find on many dates, that if I don't do that, the girls lose their interest. Where is the line between being too pushy and being appropriately aggressive? | /r/seduction | 12/09/11 10:49 AM |
| 1 | Why avoid her seeing you as a BF initially?Yeah, I couldn't have put it better myself. Upvoted! | /r/seduction | 12/09/11 05:54 AM |
| 2 | Locking InGreat article that explores why locking in is so essential for success in the game. Highly recommended! :) Favorite quotation in this one: "He [the guy who's locked in] comes across as desired and desirable; that rare man that a woman -- so much more attuned to social power dynamics than most men are -- is willing to stand there and invest time and attention into and potentially look lower status because of, just to have the chance to perhaps be with him." | /r/seduction | 12/09/11 05:24 AM |
| 1 | [FR1] - Please Help Redposterboard get laidReading this story I'm picturing you as a kind of robot with no human emotion or empathy whatsoever, perceiving women as objects, programmed to relentlessly pursue sex at all costs, using a selection of routines from books and instruction manuals. Seriously, you're jumping to conclusions here, my friend. Do you think I would not prefer just being naturally good with women and have a good social skill set right from the start instead of having to have to study social interactions including how to… | /r/seduction | 12/09/11 04:08 AM |
| 1 | [FR1] - Please Help Redposterboard get laidHi there, thanks for your reply. I know what you mean about some Asian girls being conservative ;) The girl referred to here lives alone and is independent. She approached me in a party area where a lot of Westerners (like me) go. I just seem to run into the same problem all the time, that they seem attracted but for some reason keep dropping the ball. | /r/seduction | 12/09/11 03:59 AM |
| 1 | [FR1] - Please Help Redposterboard get laidIf I get dates it's only because I've been spending the last three years trying to crack the code once and for all of how to get girls, starting with skills that were way below average. | /r/seduction | 12/09/11 03:52 AM |
| 1 | [FR1] - Please Help Redposterboard get laidHey Redpua, thanks for your feedback. You're absolutely right. I don't do anything else these days off work apart from going to the gym twice a week, reading dating advice on the net, day gaming, and then going on dates. I'm turning 31 on Tuesday and stilll haven't cracked this one. Yeah, I'm stressed over it, and you're right that I invest so much effort into getting laid these days. But I can't help thinking that if I don't date and do it this way, I'll never crack this one, and things will fo… | /r/seduction | 11/09/11 08:37 PM |
| 2 | On ValidationFavorite quotation in this one: "...basing your life and behavior around the validation of having sex with women… well, that will lead you to a dark and lonely place." | /r/seduction | 04/09/11 09:54 AM |
| 1 | What Makes A Bad First Date... and C: if you take her for a walk near your place (which you will, of course), you can suggest you go to your place for a cup of something afterwards. | /r/seduction | 30/08/11 03:27 PM |
| 2 | What Makes A Bad First DateOriginally I'd aim at taking them in my bed and then up against the wall. Where I take them now hasn't changed either. With that razzle-dazzle display of humour I can't understand I ain't getting laid as I should be ;) Seriously. Now I do exactly as Dr. Chase has prescribed. I try to bring them to a cafe where logistics are convenient for bringing them back to my place. I've cut away those nasty dinner dates completely. Previously I'd sometimes also go places where it was just really difficult t… | /r/seduction | 30/08/11 02:15 PM |
| 2 | What Makes A Bad First DateLOL, I know what you mean about the negatives. I posted it yesterday evening, thought about them and was frankly too lazy to think them through, haha ;) But yeah, you got it right :) | /r/seduction | 29/08/11 11:36 PM |
| 1 | How do I not care about whether I fail or not?I walk around in the weekends and approach girls in the daytime with direct game; when you walk straight up to random (attractive) girls and tell them you think they're adorable / cute. Some don't return texts, some I lay, but many I take on dates but get rejected. | /r/seduction | 29/08/11 03:16 PM |
| 1 | Kino-Escalation Gambits, Tactics and GuidelinesTell us, tell us!!! Is it the hand 'happy slapping' game? | /r/seduction | 29/08/11 03:10 PM |
| 4 | What Makes A Bad First DateWith all the blowouts I'm getting on dates these days it seems like they are all bad first dates. However, one thing that has helped me tremendously is applying structure to my numerous dates. Until just about ten months ago I never thought along those lines and took girls all sorts of weird places... only, I never did manage to take that many of them... ;) This great article gives some solid guidelines on how you should NOT run your dates. Favorite quotation: "A bad first date is a first date t… | /r/seduction | 29/08/11 03:02 PM |
| 1 | How do I not care about whether I fail or not?Thanks, will look them through when I get the time :) | /r/seduction | 28/08/11 11:31 PM |
| 3 | How do I not care about whether I fail or not?As someone who's gotten possibly more than 200 phone numbers the last two years, been on more than 70 dates, and still manage to close only between 1:4 or 1:5 of those girls, and continually struggle with the downs that always follow when rejection laughs in my face once more and my girl pulls away when I go for the kiss, I've come to realize that there's only one truly good way of dealing with those ensuing, bitter emotions: You have to put things into their proper perspective. How was your lif… | /r/seduction | 28/08/11 03:13 PM |
| 3 | DisciplineGreat article on discipline. The Roman legionaries all had that thing right! Favorite quotation in this one: "If you’ve read about the concepts of masculinity, self-discipline is the epitome of it. What can be more attractive to a woman than a man who immediately acts on his decisions and is completely bound to his word, his goals and his path? It implies he’s dependable, that he’s strong-willed, and that he’ll inevitably become successful at whatever he does." Just a pity I never had any. | /r/seduction | 28/08/11 02:44 PM |
| 2 | Breaking CircleFavorite quotation: "...never be the first to break circle, because when you break circle, you give the impression to the girl you were speaking with that you really weren't that interested." | /r/seduction | 27/08/11 05:22 AM |
| 1 | Killer Phone Sex (field tested and perfected very successfully) Phase Two: Escalation and Release.Thanks for writing this one up! Must have taken a long time. I'm at a point where I still get rejected on most of my numerous dates; sometimes it's because they are not always relaxed and a as a result I become less relaxed too. What are your experiences with using this on 1) actual dates, and 2) when you get them to your place afterwards and she's sitting on your bed, but still feeling uncomfortable? Any things to be aware of when she's right next to you and you're doing this to make her relax?… | /r/seduction | 27/08/11 04:31 AM |
| 1 | Demystifying The KissI saw him once in Cph when I was out with a wing who pointed out Neil to me. Neil was Christmas shopping ;) But otherwise haven't met him. It was an article by Neil that inspired me to get started with direct day game, though. | /r/seduction | 27/08/11 04:09 AM |
| 1 | Demystifying The KissLOL, I spend my Friday night sitting at home and writing up a post on my upcoming workshop on direct day game in Copenhagen. My first one, so looking forward to that! It's getting very late where I am, just wanted to share this article on demystifying the kiss. I like Aaron Sleazy's idea about the 'mutual hand caressing' as it leads up to the kiss and will try it out on my next dates. | /r/seduction | 26/08/11 06:13 PM |
| 3 | Ethics Of Being A PlayerFavorite quotation in this one: "DON’T ever outright lie or mislead a girl about you, your history, your intentions, or just about anything. Lying is unnecessary and unethical in just about every situation." | /r/seduction | 25/08/11 03:36 PM |
| 3 | Advice for an over-analytical mind? I feel like this has impeded my progress in becoming comfortable in my own skinDude... you're way too hard on yourself. I used to be EXACTLY the same way before I entered the PU community to work on myself. Next time you make a mistake, and when you start thinking about the mistake, tell yourself that you love yourself or break the negative thinking my reminding yourself of something cool you achieved recently. Make THAT a habit, and in just a few weeks you'll worry much less and feel much better about yourself. It worked for me :) Weeks, man, only weeks! | /r/seduction | 24/08/11 11:27 PM |
| 4 | Get A Girlfriend In 3 StepsFavorite quotation in this one: "The majority of dating is inside your head. If you walk up to a woman thinking that she can fix some part of your life, well that is destined for failure. Girls want to be an ADDITION to your life, not a solution." | /r/seduction | 24/08/11 03:46 PM |
| 3 | Advice for an over-analytical mind? I feel like this has impeded my progress in becoming comfortable in my own skin... so you're concerned with creating a logical and consistent framework for your personality... but that hasn't made you reach the level of confidence you want to exude; and if you turn off your brain you will dissolve your confidence. Within that consistent framework of thought (failure and failure), becoming a happy, more confident person is impossible. Could the problem be that you suffer from low self-esteem rather than lack of confidence? Could the problem be that nothing you ever do is ev… | /r/seduction | 24/08/11 03:39 PM |
| 1 | REMINDER: The IAMA mPUA Interview Series continues tomorrow with ABCs of Attractions - Get your questions in now if you can't make it! (7PM PST tomorrow)Cool guys from ABCs of Attraction, I've done several hundred direct day time approaches; a common sticking point is that if I don't manage to hook and vibe immediately, I easily end up in questions mode due to the increasing pressure of the situation. It's further complicated by the fact that I have to approach most girls in Chinese since I live in China and am not a native Chinese-speaker. Hence, I should like to hear your thoughts on avoiding questions mode without relying on canned material, … | /r/seduction | 23/08/11 04:09 PM |
| 1 | A fun little AMOG trick I've figured outLOL, that's one to remember... especially because I'm typically the peacocked guy when I go out ;) You're right about your edit; for this to work it's absolutely critical that you remain friendly throughout and not come across as provocative at all. I had my own first such experience a few years ago dealing with a guy who was clearly an AMOG smart-ass who attempted to put me down whenever I said something in a set. At one point I told him plain out in a friendly and sincere way that I thought he… | /r/seduction | 23/08/11 03:51 PM |
| 3 | What Women WantLest we forget... what women want. Favorite quotation: "Men are responsible for their women's happiness. Men are responsible for keeping their women satisfied and content. And when men lose women, whether to boredom, anger, apathy, or other men, they usually have no one to blame but themselves. Somewhere along the line, a woman's man has failed to meet her needs, and because of that, she left." | /r/seduction | 21/08/11 03:25 PM |
| 2 | Near F-Close with an HB7 black lady [short FR + questions, thoughts included]Yeah, what happened to the near f-close? Why did you choose NOT to progress it from there? Logistics where to your advantage, did you at least N-close and time-bridge another meet-up with that fine dame? If she wanted to shag, and you were attracted to her, and logistics were to your advantage, there's no excuse for not taking action, brother :) Great to hear about your progress though, man! | /r/seduction | 21/08/11 02:30 PM |
| 0 | Hunting AloneA short, neat article on the benefits of hunting alone. Favorite quotation: "There is a reason that we all think snipers are so cool. They hunt alone. It’s all or nothing and it’s on there shoulders." | /r/seduction | 19/08/11 06:04 PM |
| 1 | [FR] Direct on 3 set.If you sensed that she originally liked you, you gotta show a little persistence in your texting, even though she doesn't text you back. Keep up the humour in the texts, she already likes you enough to 1) follow you into the bar, 2) give you her phone number. Especially no. 1 is of importance here. You lead, and she complied. That spells 'attraction'. Keep it up, but don't be needy, and eventually she just might get back to you. | /r/seduction | 19/08/11 05:42 PM |
| 1 | sarging in ChinaCome to Beijing, bro, and we'll do some day game here. I just full-closed my Chinese date for tonight, and yeah, that doesn't add anything constructive to this thread at all, just saying... ;) | /r/seduction | 19/08/11 05:35 PM |
| 1 | Tips To Playfully Tease Pretty GirlsFirst of all, gotta love that cover picture. Second of all, my favorite quotation (...and your moment of Zen?): "Treat her like one of the fellas, and you’ll avoid that whole creepy pick-up feel. You won’t activate her defenses, and you’ll foster comfort." | /r/seduction | 18/08/11 02:58 PM |
| 2 | Hotness MotivationI second that. | /r/seduction | 17/08/11 03:31 PM |
| 1 | Hotness MotivationFavorite quotation: "What I noticed a long time ago was that the hotter the girl, the more excited, passionate and energized I’d become while hitting on her." This is so true; when I approached Her Hotness Jessica with direct game in the daytime two weeks ago I was beaming to have found such a pretty little one as her. Then SHE started beaming by having been approached by such a... big hairy one as me. It was all very sweet. | /r/seduction | 17/08/11 03:29 PM |
| 3 | Manwhore: One FocusRight, so I'm busy these days off work experimenting with night game again, and preparing a workshop in Copenhagen on direct daygame. Should be lots of fun, and a great opportunity for everybody to learn from! This time here linking to a short article from the Manwhore himself! Favorite quotation: "... check your environment for external cues; because you’re internally directed". What this boils down to is bascially the go-first principle; if you're feeling unconfortable around people, they will… | /r/seduction | 14/08/11 03:49 PM |
| 1 | [FR] Apocalypse opener to kill some approach anxiety and experimentThumbs up, gamelearner, for the balls you're displaying! Just an interesting anecdote; I'm strong on the direct approach in the daytime, but tried out direct night game for the first time yesterday night. The reaction was nothing like what I'm used to during the daytime. Wanna try it out some more... and then eventually progress to trying out the AO, when I got more experience with night game again. Again, thumbs up, man. Balls lead the way! | /r/seduction | 14/08/11 03:42 PM |
| 1 | Pursuading Women: 7 Tips That Will Change How You Do Things... it means I didn't get laid yesterday or the day before yesterday, my man ;) | /r/seduction | 13/08/11 06:15 AM |
| 1 | Pursuading Women: 7 Tips That Will Change How You Do ThingsThanks, bro! :D | /r/seduction | 13/08/11 04:10 AM |
| 2 | Pursuading Women: 7 Tips That Will Change How You Do ThingsThanks for that, Sed5. You always manage to cheer me up! :) | /r/seduction | 12/08/11 05:05 PM |
| 10 | Pursuading Women: 7 Tips That Will Change How You Do ThingsMy date for yesterday night flaked, and the one I had tonight also flaked. Double :(, so now yours truly is sitting at home on a Friday night. Now THAT's choding... However, I did come across this interesting article. Favorite quotation: "To be effective at persuading women to go along with what it is you want, you need to be able to address them at the same level of energy they're at." | /r/seduction | 12/08/11 12:48 PM |
| 2 | I did your damn homework last night.. before you even assigned itCome to Beijing sometime, man, and we'll hang out and do daygame together. | /r/seduction | 11/08/11 03:50 PM |
| 1 | Im trying daygame for the first time today. Any tips before I head out?Well... if you DID buy the panda... then you DID buy it. Doesn't have to be right before you met her, right? It's not dishonesty. Just bending the truth a little. And in my experience girls aren't exactly harbingers of morality :(. I was stood up this week by the same girl twice. Be honest about the things that matter; if she asks you if you've chatted up girls that way before, you say "I won't lie to you. This is not the first time I've met a girl this way". If you can see that she's about to f… | /r/seduction | 11/08/11 03:31 PM |
| 2 | How To Project A Sexual VibeFavorite quotation: "...to go into sexual state, you imagine yourself doing that girl you’re talking to. Yes, indulge your fantasy right there and then while looking deeply into her eyes. You can triangular gaze too. This is all very powerful." Yep, done that a few times. It works ;) | /r/seduction | 10/08/11 02:48 PM |
| 1 | The 100 set challengeAh, well in that case... | /r/seduction | 10/08/11 11:06 AM |
| 2 | The 100 set challengeWhy would anyone downvote a guy who makes many good points simply because he's disagreeing with the idea of the 100 Set Challenge? Come on, guys! Thumbs up from me, man. | /r/seduction | 09/08/11 01:22 PM |
| 1 | Awesome Sexy Voice Tips To Attract The LadiesSome... great advice... on voice control.... that includes.... speaking slowly.... in this here... article... as well as a few techniques I hadn't come across previously. Highly recommended! :) | /r/seduction | 08/08/11 02:42 PM |
| 1 | Im trying daygame for the first time today. Any tips before I head out?BTW... this one works for me; when I do daygame I often dress like a rockstar; in addition to that, I bring a soft toy panda that I have dangling from my shoulder bag in a transparent plastic bag for all to see. Nothing like panda cocking for meeting chicks. The panda works great for peacocking by creating a contrast to my style in clothes. People notice me, heads turn, girls start to giggle (in which case I open them indirect: "what are you laughing at?"), and sometimes girls approach ME. Not b… | /r/seduction | 08/08/11 01:56 PM |
| 2 | My soul is dead. Give me challenges.Next time try to phrase it as a question instead, just to be polite ;) But good to hear that you're out instead of sitting at home feeling down. | /r/seduction | 08/08/11 11:00 AM |
| 1 | When To Use Direct Openers Versus Indirect OpenersAs some people on Seddit know I'm mainly into direct daygame. If you got the nerve to approach that way it's fucking simple and probably the most structured and easy type of game (why make things hard?). I came across this short article that gives a neat breakdown of when to go direct versus indirect. It's solid fundamental advice. However, what I like to do if I'm close to a girl in fx a store, is to wait for her to leave, rather than open her indirect in the store, and then run after her and o… | /r/seduction | 07/08/11 03:48 AM |
| 1 | [FR] SNL #1 from OKCupid (my OKC strategy within)Ok, so this is not going to sound romantic, but how do you kick her out quickly after you F-close without hurting her so you can attend your other stuff that night ? | /r/seduction | 07/08/11 03:27 AM |
| 2 | Manwhore: You Must Continue To Lead Her... yes, Manwhore, and I totally agree. This article may be a little too explicit in the choice of wording for some to digest, but it contains some solid advice on leading and being a man. Favorite quotation: "I cannot count on her to make me feel better. I cannot expect a girl to lead me to a better place, or be lazy and let her run the show and set the emotional mood. I must always be leading myself, so I can lead her." | /r/seduction | 04/08/11 03:54 PM |
| 1 | Im trying daygame for the first time today. Any tips before I head out?Bro, a strong and confident man who has the balls to chat up a girl on the street and usually gets what he wants will approach her that way. Not saying I'm that guy yet, but I will be eventually. It's not rude... it's just aggressive, assertive, gutsy... what women respect and are attracted by. I'll PM you with a webpage you may find useful one of these days. Scouts' honour.... TIC, you know ;) | /r/seduction | 04/08/11 01:53 PM |
| 2 | Im trying daygame for the first time today. Any tips before I head out?You should get in touch with RedPoleQ who's in Shanghai and some of the guys around him, such as Kane. They ran a bootcamp in BJ 6 weeks ago where they trained one of my wings. I met RedPoleQ too, he's a cool guy and he doesn't speak Chinese, yet he's specialized in meeting Asian girls. In Shanghai there is bound to be areas where a greater percentage of the hot girls go who speak English. Start there. Difficult to say with learning Chinese. Depends on how much effort you put into it. I was able… | /r/seduction | 03/08/11 01:05 PM |
| 5 | My soul is dead. Give me challenges.Brother... let me ask you something. How old are you? What is your general level of skill with women? I'm asking these things because when last I fell in love I was just 17... I never ended up with her, and it took me 6 years to get over her, because I always sucked with women. The strong emotions have faded away, but 13,5 years later not a day goes by without me thinking about her. However, it DID change! At a highschool prom I met another girl who became my first gf. We were together for 2.5 y… | /r/seduction | 03/08/11 11:55 AM |
| 2 | My soul is dead. Give me challenges."Me tarzan, you jane, let's fuck."... that one sounds vaguely familiar ;) | /r/seduction | 03/08/11 11:21 AM |
| 0 | Got a date tomorrow, how would YOU approach it? (long history)This. | /r/seduction | 03/08/11 11:10 AM |
| 1 | Im trying daygame for the first time today. Any tips before I head out?I speak enough Mandarin to approach, date, and lay girls here; although most of the time the language barrier IS the greatest problem. How do you vibe, how do you build attraction through words when you don't master the language? It's very difficult, it can easily get awkward, and that's without a doubt the main reason I fail to get girls to text me back after I've met them. I'm in Beijing. Where're you at? | /r/seduction | 03/08/11 11:03 AM |
| 1 | Im trying daygame for the first time today. Any tips before I head out?Time-bridging is basically just a fancy PUA term for arranging a next meeting with a girl. She may say yes during the first interaction, if she doesn't make sure you talk her into it - you get her to comply. Attempting a time-bridge is also a measure for gauging her levels of interest in you. | /r/seduction | 03/08/11 10:57 AM |
| 2 | Im trying daygame for the first time today. Any tips before I head out?Thanks for that, bro :) | /r/seduction | 03/08/11 10:53 AM |
| 1 | Im trying daygame for the first time today. Any tips before I head out?where in asia? I'm in China... | /r/seduction | 02/08/11 11:14 PM |
| 62 | Im trying daygame for the first time today. Any tips before I head out?If you're new, do some easy warm-up sets first to get you into the social state. I've done hundreds of direct day-time approaches; even for me the first approach on a girl I genuinely fancy that day is typically shaky. Then you get over it and start approaching for real. Consider going direct. Asking for the time and expecting to get numbers just ain't gonna do it for ya when you're starting out. So: 1) Opener. - Anything (preferably direct). 2) Statement of interest. If you open indirect give h… | /r/seduction | 02/08/11 02:53 PM |
| 2 | Manwhore: She Doesn't Like You (article on follow-up game)My favorite quotation in this one: "You set a precedent in an interaction with a girl; expect it to remain that way the duration of the relationship. Humans are creatures of habit. If you jocked her, got her number, gamed her over text or phone, got her to come out, escalated her using bad ass tactics, then laid her.. you wouldn’t expect her to start making moves on you all of a sudden. See the precedent? Leading is many times a one-way street." | /r/seduction | 02/08/11 02:28 PM |
| 1 | So I'm reading The Game, and I'm confused about one key PUA concept...Sinn has got a direct opener where he opens the girl, then they exchange names, and then immediately afterwards he makes a hoop for her to jump through by asking her "... and what makes [insert name] special..? :)" | /r/seduction | 02/08/11 01:59 PM |
| 1 | Using Cocky Funny RightFor sure; it was even her who suggested I come along on her walk around the neighbourhood (and that's usually my line!). You're right. I should have persisted. One of the few mistakes I made last night. Let's see how this turns out :P | /r/seduction | 31/07/11 01:37 PM |
| 0 | Using Cocky Funny RightAgreed. | /r/seduction | 31/07/11 03:17 AM |
| 1 | Using Cocky Funny RightActually, normally I would be more persistent, but tonight I asked only once. Not actually sure why. I guess maybe I was afraid of losing her by pushing too hard (you should have seen her body, mate)... | /r/seduction | 31/07/11 03:17 AM |
| 1 | So I'm reading The Game, and I'm confused about one key PUA concept...What you do is you have to be subtle. Pay attention to body language more so than verbals. Are you facing her with your entire body when you open (that shows a lot of interest) or are you just looking at her across the shoulder but using the same opener? Girls notice that. So it's cool to open indirect without chasing if you open across the shoulder and get her to chase you by incorporating small baits in each sentence that will make her hook (personally I'm not subtle enough to do that consiste… | /r/seduction | 30/07/11 07:01 PM |
| 4 | So I'm reading The Game, and I'm confused about one key PUA concept...Great breakdown. However, do not underestimate the power of direct game. Mystery is all about being indirect, but (and I hate to say it) Mystery is considered old-school nowadays, even though he is one of the hardest-hitting pioneers in PU and probably the greatest PUA of all time. | /r/seduction | 30/07/11 06:57 PM |
| 3 | Using Cocky Funny RightSo here's what happened to me tonight; since my wings were all engaged in other 'physical activities' with their FBs and couldn't go out with me I decided to stay at home, chill, and whack some of the weak-minded Stormtroopers who live inside my laptop. 11.30 pm I went down to the 7-11 store to buy some beer so I could blast the Imperials to smithereens while properly hammered. Damn. In 7-11 Redposterboard was dumbstruck by a girl with the hottest body he'd seen in probably the last few months. … | /r/seduction | 30/07/11 06:39 PM |
| 1 | Where am I messing up? Frustrated..Dude... don't hang out with them. Lay them. Develop a tight structured plan of action that you will pull off every time you meet up with a new girl from the net. Your objective should be to lay them as soon as possible. Don't meet them to "hang out with them"! You got game enough that they'll meet you from the net. Now work on your closing game.... or it's... game... over...! :( | /r/seduction | 30/07/11 06:10 PM |
| 1 | Airport game?Obviously, if you approach at an airport you may very well encounter some nasty logistical problems... I saw a cute girl at Beijing airport before Christmas last year, and as it turned out she was also on my plane to Copenhagen. Just HAD to come and meet her. So when she was waiting at the luggage pickup at CPH I just approached her with a direct opener and shagged her on our first date when we were back in Beijing. Flying back there again on the 1st of September... wanna push for a tandem ;) In… | /r/seduction | 30/07/11 01:35 PM |
| 1 | The Apocalypse Owner, based on "Shock and Awe". Anybody tried this yet? :-)What the author means by "hold it"? Think Braveheart at Stirling!!! | /r/seduction | 30/07/11 03:30 AM |
| 1 | The Apocalypse Owner, based on "Shock and Awe". Anybody tried this yet? :-)YOU wish! :D | /r/seduction | 30/07/11 03:15 AM |
| 2 | The Apocalypse Owner, based on "Shock and Awe". Anybody tried this yet? :-)No... but I guess I should... ;) | /r/seduction | 30/07/11 03:12 AM |
| 3 | The Apocalypse Owner, based on "Shock and Awe". Anybody tried this yet? :-)... but then again... why would I use the Apocalypse on her if I could just use an ordinary direct opener ("just saw you from over and had to come and tell you, you're incredible cute, etc, etc...")? Any pros/cons in your experience? | /r/seduction | 29/07/11 06:19 PM |
| 2 | The Apocalypse Owner, based on "Shock and Awe". Anybody tried this yet? :-):) As I said; "Me Tarzan, You Jane!" | /r/seduction | 29/07/11 04:31 PM |
| 5 | The Apocalypse Owner, based on "Shock and Awe". Anybody tried this yet? :-)Thanks! Gotta try that one in field. The Apocalypse Opener reminds me of this beggar I saw in San Fransisco on my trip around the world a few years ago. He carried a big sign that said: "Why lie? It's for beer". Gotta respect a man for his honesty. | /r/seduction | 29/07/11 04:29 PM |
| 3 | The Apocalypse Owner, based on "Shock and Awe". Anybody tried this yet? :-)You use this exact one line? What do you say? How does she react? What's the following sequence of events typically? | /r/seduction | 29/07/11 03:31 PM |
| 1 | Is Qualifying Women Really That Important?This is probably one of the best articles on qualifying that I've come across. In addition it contains a great example on deep diving - I'm taking the liberty here to think that the example on deep diving is a little too heavy on asking questions (from my own experience) - but it serves as a solid example of how deep diving works. And hell, what do I know. I'm only Redposterboard. | /r/seduction | 29/07/11 03:25 PM |
| 0 | Rock Climbing as a date idea... can't help thinking it's a little over the top. Why not spend the time at a cafe close to where you live, and get to know her and talk? Build that emotional connection? Run that tight attraction game?... Take her back to your place and let her climb another kind of.. ahem... rock? Ok, that one was cheesy...! ;) But still. | /r/seduction | 29/07/11 03:17 PM |
| 4 | The Apocalypse Owner, based on "Shock and Awe". Anybody tried this yet? :-)Seriously brother, thanks for linking to this one. This solid breakdown will work wonders. I always used to think that if getting laid could be as easy as pointing at a girl, saying: "Me Tarzan, You Jane!", that'd be my preferred style. Call it 'Gorilla Game', if you like. I have a wing here in Beijing with pretty tight game. He told me he used that opener on a girl on the street... and within five minutes he got her to his place. They didn't shag, but it demonstrates very well the potency of th… | /r/seduction | 29/07/11 02:55 PM |
| 0 | AMA With Neil StraussDude..! Haha! :) | /r/seduction | 29/07/11 02:35 PM |
| 1 | From Meet To Date To Bedroom In Two HoursThis is a client report from the given website, so bear with me. I dislike advertisements on seddit as much as you do, and my posting this article should not be seen as that. However, as some of you know I'm still struggling mightily with the close on my numerous dates. I hate doing all that work and getting so little in return. Hence, I recommend that others read this article too because it's packed with great stuff that our protagonist pulls off during the date which ultimately aids him in get… | /r/seduction | 28/07/11 03:09 PM |
| 2 | How To Seduce WomenThe best thing is it's easy to pull off. There's an incredible power in eye contact if you use it right. | /r/seduction | 27/07/11 02:54 PM |
| 1 | How To Seduce WomenGreat article by 60 Years of Challenge on how to get girls mainly through non-verbal communication! | /r/seduction | 27/07/11 02:24 PM |
| 1 | Learning from naturals... and yet again, you've got to observe someone who's doing it right, so you can pinpoint where it is you're doing it wrong. I've been on up to 70 dates within the last two years and only gotten a flesh close of one in five simply because I can't identify exactly what it is I'm doing wrong. By watching and being watched by some of my wings who are highly skilled with women within the last half year I've come a lot closer to figuring out how it's done. | /r/seduction | 24/07/11 01:57 PM |
| 1 | How to proceed after you say HiCan anyone tell me why I'm getting downvoted? Moving her is solid advice - you take hand of the interaction by leading, which will make her comply if you do it right, which will generate more attraction. | /r/seduction | 24/07/11 10:14 AM |
| 1 | Organic Seduction: BoyfriendI don't think that acknowledging that that girl is super hot is necessarily putting her on a pedestal. It's just a fact that most guys will be naturally attracted to her because of the way she looks. If a girl tells me early on that she has a bf, I'll usually not pursue her romantically. Still, I'd rather learn something about her and him and how he got her than walk away empty-handed. | /r/seduction | 24/07/11 10:10 AM |
| 1 | Organic Seduction: BoyfriendWell... as he says, you can ask stuff like how they met, and learn how he got her. If a girl early on says that she has a bf, in my experience, getting her is more difficult (although sometimes they won't tell you and will go out with you anyway). Hot girls tend to have hot friends. Also in my experience, if a girl likes you but has a bf, it is not uncommon if she wants to introduce you to her friends. | /r/seduction | 24/07/11 10:02 AM |
| 2 | Organic Seduction: BoyfriendJust came across this great, short article and video interview, that I wanted to share. Favorite quotation: "If she has a boyfriend just ask what his name is. If she doesn’t really have one, this will short circuit her normal shield and get you into real conversation. If she does have a boyfriend you can find out how he got her." | /r/seduction | 24/07/11 04:50 AM |
| 1 | Alright, THATS IT.Yeah... I know what you mean. I used to laugh at self-help books too. It works. | /r/seduction | 24/07/11 04:12 AM |
| 3 | I can never get a girl to go out with me.... So you get colder and hate them more, and so they get colder and hate you even more. See where this is going? It's a vicious circle, a situation that you can never win. The problem is your low self-esteem. I used to have the same problem and would put people into either the cool guy-ass hole box or the nice-guy-never-gets-laid box. I belonged to the latter for the first 28 years of my life. I would hate the guys I slotted into the cool guys-ass hole box, because of what similar guys had unfa… | /r/seduction | 24/07/11 04:09 AM |
| 1 | Learning from naturalsJust tell him what you just told us and invite him for dinner so he can tell you how he does it. | /r/seduction | 24/07/11 03:51 AM |
| 2 | How to proceed after you say HiWhen you start to feel that the interaction is losing momentum, you must move her somewhere else. When you're talking deep dive her. Get to know her on an intimate, personal level. Look up the article of the same name on the webpage that 1950s_Space_Alien linked to. | /r/seduction | 24/07/11 03:49 AM |
| 2 | Alright, THATS IT.If I may add to what other good men have written here; I come from a background similar to what you're describing. I've been making steady progress with girls and with myself the last three years through consistent gaming and active self-improvement. Heck, I literally had the shits before my first sessions of night game. Talking to strangers, and even women at that... gulp! One of the most important things that has changed my life and the entire way I think about life and which is fortunately ve… | /r/seduction | 23/07/11 04:53 AM |
| 5 | Power In VulnerabilityFavorite quotation: "...vulnerability represents a form of power, a deep and subtle form of power. A man who’s able to make himself vulnerable is saying to the world, 'I don’t care what you think of me; this is who I am, and I refuse to be anyone else.'" | /r/seduction | 23/07/11 04:21 AM |
| 2 | When does one consider themself a PUA?I was thinking about that one myself recently. Some of my wings have 70-100 notches in their belts and still don't consider themselves PUAs. I guess what it comes down to is seeing a target that you value, shoot, and hit with consistency, including the ability to break down the process into steps that can be taught to others. It's open for interpretation. What do you think yourself? | /r/seduction | 20/07/11 03:55 PM |
| 4 | How To Be An Alpha Male Without Becoming A StereotypePretty alpha article on being an alpha. | /r/seduction | 20/07/11 03:48 PM |
| 1 | PSA: Guys, Girls....Never, ever stand someone up. Ever.But how would you call her out on it? How would you handle it the way you suggest the OP should have done? | /r/seduction | 20/07/11 11:28 AM |
| 1 | PSA: Guys, Girls....Never, ever stand someone up. Ever.Oh, maan! That's like pouring salt into an open wound. What a shitty night :( | /r/seduction | 20/07/11 11:24 AM |
| 1 | Is the giggling when walking by girls ever focused towards a guy or is it just something all its own?It happens to me too... Just wondering what's so damn funny about it. | /r/seduction | 20/07/11 11:18 AM |
| 1 | Believability: The Key To Elite GameI was out direct day gaming again today. Got blown to smithereens today for some reason. But fuck that, because this article is gold so I want to share it with ya all. For me at least, it's one to print and study a few times. | /r/seduction | 17/07/11 03:06 PM |
| 0 | girl at my work, help!You should not back the hell off but you should also find a different girl. Yeah, so she flaked on ya once. So, what's the big deal. Girls flake all the time. Just gotta ramp it up a little. Look at it this way; If you start acting like a hurt little kid, you'll lose whatever attraction she has for you. Get back into whatever you were doing before that seemed to work with her, and just ask her out again another time. If you don't try to ask her out again, you'll get nothing anyway. | /r/seduction | 16/07/11 05:39 PM |
| 3 | [FR] Learn from my mistake, how I could have gotten a lay.You should come along on my dates too, bro ;) | /r/seduction | 16/07/11 05:29 PM |
| 11 | Help! Got a number last night...have no idea what her name is.Dude, take it easy. It happened to me once too. Forgot her name so I typed her number in on my cell as "Red Head"... she was Chinese with hair dyed red. Kind of sexy. 1) call her "oboe" for now as noted by other gentlemen here. Meet her for a date and have her show you what's in her wallet. Always exciting. Read her name off an ID / credit card. 2) Sit with her at the place for the date. Then start talking about how you met and introduce yourself to her again - shake hands, exchange names, and a… | /r/seduction | 16/07/11 05:24 PM |
| 1 | Night Game Blueprint: A Plan For Night GameI don't do much night game these days but I especially like Mark's concept and breakdown of 'Garbage Time'. | /r/seduction | 16/07/11 08:17 AM |
| 1 | What's Best - Monogamy, One-Night Stands, Or A Multi-Girl Harem?Yeah, so I'll most likely get downvoted for linking to this one; There are many ways to live your life, including your dating life. Just be honest about it, so you don't end up hurting anybody. | /r/seduction | 16/07/11 08:05 AM |
| 1 | Going on a date tomorrow with a very attractive girl, need some quick coaching pointers.Cut the goofy, perverted humour out, bro. It's gonna cripple your chances. You wanna be sexy instead of goofy, right? Since you already know what your sticking points are, work on changing them now, and see this girl as practice to overcoming those issues. Date to train a skill and find what works for you, and eventually you'll get to close more consistently. | /r/seduction | 15/07/11 03:30 PM |
| 2 | After a number close, is it better to call or text about a meet up?There are different schools of thought regarding texting/calling. If it's a set you value highly and didn't play too well to make it a solid number close, you may want to consider calling her to increase her investment in you and try to build some more rapport. Nowadays I'm too busy to call and will text once in awhile, merely to set up the date. Comes with abundance and a steady inflow of phone numbers. Over are the days where I'd call and be half an hour on the phone with a girl I just met. Ju… | /r/seduction | 14/07/11 03:20 PM |
| 1 | [FR] Opened first mix setWhat is your take on approaching a girl in a mixed set with direct game in the daytime? The few times I've done so have been when I did not realize she was with guys, or if the target had first given me a clear approach invitation. In the first case the guys were glaring at me with annoyed expressions from the sideline; in the second case the guy was helping me along. What are your thoughts, Throwaway, other than I should just act and think less? There is a great chance that the guy is an orbite… | /r/seduction | 14/07/11 02:55 PM |
| 1 | How do I bring up the topic of getting tested with a girl?I agree with the other gents who've commented in this thread. Just bring it up like the natural thing it is to talk about after you've known her for a while. | /r/seduction | 14/07/11 02:42 PM |
| 3 | The Milkman: Turning That Number Into A Date.This is not my usual straight-forward, no-nonsense and direct style of low-key text game, but the article contains a lot of good stuff to consider. | /r/seduction | 12/07/11 03:12 PM |
| 1 | Sex In The WorkplaceI just came across this one while choding at home. Had to cancel tonight's date because of a nasty cold. Poor RedPosterboard :( Romances at work... yeah. When I started my fist corporate job a year ago there were 4 girls who almost threw themselves at me. Too much for a man to take, and I... ... I was too weak to resist. My favorite quotation of the article is "don’t shit where you eat" because that neatly sums up my experience with dating at work. | /r/seduction | 11/07/11 03:24 PM |
| 1 | Sex In The WorkplaceI just came across this one while choding at home. Had to cancel tonight's date because of a nasty cold. Poor RedPosterboard :( Romances at work... yeah. When I started my fist corporate job a year ago there were 4 girls who almost threw themselves at me. Too much for a man to take, and I... ... I was too weak to resist. My favorite quotation of the article is "don’t shit where you eat" because that neatly sums up my experience with dating at work. | /r/seduction | 11/07/11 03:18 PM |
| 1 | How To Get Girls: The Last Post You'll Ever Need!haha! :) | /r/seduction | 10/07/11 11:34 PM |
| 0 | How To Get Girls: The Last Post You'll Ever Need!Thanks for your advice, guys. We kiss, yes, but don't make out. I was planning on giving her one more chance to come by and "watch a movie at my place". Only problem is that of the girls I'm seeing ATM she's the cutest, and definitely most interesting. She's trying to LTR me, so in the words of Jar Jar Binx: "Mesa getting very scared..." ;) | /r/seduction | 10/07/11 03:04 PM |
| 3 | How To Get Girls: The Last Post You'll Ever Need!Is it wrong that I link to articles that I get something out of reading, and which I believe could benefit others too, my friend? | /r/seduction | 10/07/11 11:12 AM |
| 1 | How To Get Girls: The Last Post You'll Ever Need!Exactly... just like the really cute girl I had out tonight on our 3rd date. She insists on dealing in teddy bear kisses, not making out, and not going to my place three times in a row (and guess who pays every time). Driving me crazy. | /r/seduction | 09/07/11 05:38 PM |
| 1 | Why Ladies Like Chivalrous BehaviorWe all have our sticking points :(... but that's the challenge... and I, guess, what makes it fun. To succeed the hard way, although I wish it could be easy. | /r/seduction | 08/07/11 05:10 PM |
| 1 | [FR] What is wrong with this daygame routine?I totally agree with daygamer. If you're out day gaming go direct. It will save you time, and get you many more numbers. And if you don't have anything to say at some point in the direct approach, just tell her you got no idea what to say... and ask her the first thing that pops into your head. In the direct approach you'll learn to recognize the structural elements of conversation and eventually learn to use them to your advantage while you're free-styling. Direct day game is probably the most … | /r/seduction | 07/07/11 03:32 PM |
| 1 | The Importance Of Field TestingFavorite quotation: "99% of guys in pickup never succeed. They spend their lives on forums and reading what other guys have tried. They then regurgitate this same information to new guys who don't know any better." So, don't read the article I just linked to but get in-field instead!!! :) | /r/seduction | 07/07/11 03:19 PM |
| 1 | Why Ladies Like Chivalrous BehaviorThis sums his article up quite well: "Surprise her by showing how much a gentlemen you can be at moments, and how much a gentleman you are to ALL women – including your friends, relatives, and even total strangers. You may hit her by surprise in the back of the head with a pillow or call her a “dork” in a teasing kind of way, but you also help old ladies across the street." | /r/seduction | 06/07/11 02:07 PM |
| 1 | What do you do after you kiss the girl?What does your body tell you to do after you kiss her the first time? | /r/seduction | 06/07/11 02:01 PM |
| 2 | What are your best closing lines / excuses to bring her home?I typically invite them back to watch 'Friends', and then actually watch 'Friends' (while I escalate). The DVD player is my computer which is in my bedroom. Cheesy, I know ;-) | /r/seduction | 06/07/11 01:58 PM |
| 1 | Need advice regarding this French Asian-looking HBI think you get downvoted for using the word 'bitch'. But you're right in your observations and the advice you give - value, here, obviously not being money. | /r/seduction | 06/07/11 01:50 PM |
| 2 | Need advice regarding this French Asian-looking HBHi there, my internet went down last night so I couldn't reply then. To answer you: 1) Meetings should be on your terms because you're a busy guy... right? And you "got some stuff to do"... right? Of greater importance, by only meeting her on your terms YOU are leading. SHE has to come to you. You make HER invest more in you than you in her that way. You make HER comply. YOU're in control. Because YOU're in control as the man, you must think out every logistical step to get her to the bedroom. Y… | /r/seduction | 06/07/11 01:46 PM |
| 4 | Need advice regarding this French Asian-looking HBYou give her some space. Don't hang on her all the time, brother, you'd hate if a girl did the same to you. In fact, you'd be creeped out. Never come across as too eager. Sounds like you're making that mistake already by meeting her already the next day.... with her girlfriends. Why would you want to meet with her girlfriends so soon? Understand that meeting a girl's girlfriends is potentially very, very dangerous early on since they will be evaluating you, and your girl, caring about what her f… | /r/seduction | 05/07/11 02:30 PM |
| 1 | What Women WantLest we forget... What Women Want. Great things to be aware of. | /r/seduction | 04/07/11 03:17 PM |
| 1 | How Being An Authority Figure Relates To Attracting Attractive WomenOne I'm still struggling with, but getting handled... | /r/seduction | 03/07/11 09:46 AM |
| 2 | # close, how to go about organising date??!?! advice?In my experience (and from coaching by a world-famous mPUA), you want to keep it as simple as possible. Use humour and you may waste half an hour by coming up with the wittiest text... that may actually miss the mark and push her away. Again, keep it simple and to the point; "Me Tarzan, You Jane!" ;) But that'll work! | /r/seduction | 03/07/11 04:14 AM |
| 1 | How do you handle a female player?If you're only in Sweden for another 4 weeks why would you risk losing this one girl you're actually connected with by telling her what she should do? It's a tough one, but to me it seems that the best thing would be to just accept it and stay in touch afterwards; you can meet up in different countries together for a hot weekend later - now, wouldn't that be great. | /r/seduction | 03/07/11 04:08 AM |
| 2 | # close, how to go about organising date??!?! advice?Just text her after two days or so, and write 2-3 texts back and forth that day. Then wait another day or two and do the same; alternatively you can even try to set up the date now - and then follow the same pattern of texting 2-3 times every 2nd or 3rd day. That should do the trick. No need to flood her with texts - that's just annoying and a waste of your own good time. | /r/seduction | 03/07/11 02:54 AM |
| 1 | How To Get Perfect '10' Girls... another fact is that in many cases you can fake it until you make it :) | /r/seduction | 02/07/11 04:10 PM |
| 1 | How To Handle 1-Word ResponsesGreat article on how to handle those annoying one-word responses from chicks you open! | /r/seduction | 02/07/11 04:08 PM |
| 1 | IAMA Mark Manson of Practical Pick Up Q&A!Hey Mark, great to have you with us here! I regularly drop by your blog, and gotta say you're doing a great job of helping guys out! I'm your regular intermediate-level guy when it comes to PU. In one of your articles you write that not sexualizing the interactions with women is the key sticking point for most guys at my level. In my case that's spot on. I tried to search your webpage a few times for techniques on how YOU would do it, but didn't find any related stuff. So my questions are: 1) ca… | /r/seduction | 29/06/11 03:58 PM |
| 19 | How To Get Perfect '10' GirlsFavorite quotation: "First, if you rate girls according to looks, stop. No more “perfect tens”. When you rate anything on a scale, you naturally tell yourself that some are better than others, and you place yourself on that scale too. If a ten is “perfect”, you’ve just placed an unreasonable amount of pressure on yourself to succeed with this perfect girl." | /r/seduction | 29/06/11 03:30 PM |
| 1 | Thoughts on body language?Do yourself a favour and look up a guy called Chase Amante on the internet; he wrote an article called the 'Law of Least Effort' that describes exactly what you've discovered yourself :-) | /r/seduction | 27/06/11 11:35 PM |
| 5 | Thoughts on body language?Body language and non-verbal communication are nearly everything in pick-up. Their importance cannot be over-emphasized. Study those well, and you'll project and radiate confidence and power which can make girls go nuts with desire. Have you ever noticed how some people's presence just... draws the eyes and commands attention? That's good body language in progress. Who to study? President Obama is a good example; so is Clint Eastwood and George Clooney. As you notice yourself regarding facial ex… | /r/seduction | 27/06/11 02:35 PM |
| 1 | Pick Up Techniques Don't MatterJust came along this great article; my favorite quotation that in short summarizes the article is: "Ready, Fire, Aim"! | /r/seduction | 27/06/11 02:25 PM |
| 1 | Influencing A Girl's EmotionsSo much good stuff in there that I have to print it to read through a couple of times! | /r/seduction | 26/06/11 03:21 AM |
| 2 | Who are your favorite Seddit posters?Frogma, of course :P | /r/seduction | 26/06/11 03:18 AM |
| 1 | Nonverbal Attraction And Getting Girls Without WordsSome powerful stuff in there on why nonverbal attraction game is so important and how to pull it off. | /r/seduction | 22/06/11 03:03 PM |
| 1 | Sexualizing The Interaction - An Easy Technique.Nice pep-talk, though, brother :). One point from me, although I disagree with the "stupid, awful, unbelievable" stuff. | /r/seduction | 21/06/11 02:13 PM |
| 1 | Sexualizing The Interaction - An Easy Technique.Here's at least one way of sexualizing the interaction... | /r/seduction | 20/06/11 12:47 PM |
| 1 | Inner-Game ExerciseNice one, reggieband. I did an exercise the other day where, whenever I would pass a stranger on the street, I'd tell myself that I love myself. "Redposterboard... I love me!". Living in one of the world's biggest cities you can imagine how many times I said that to myself and what that did for my mood. The sentence "I'd fight for you" is beautiful :) | /r/seduction | 20/06/11 12:23 PM |
| 1 | Just Friends: A Man's Nightmare.Great article on avoiding that dreaded sentence: "I like you! :) ... as a friend!" | /r/seduction | 19/06/11 01:54 PM |
| 5 | Is the game destroying anyone else?That sounds like a luxury problem to me, good sir! :D | /r/seduction | 19/06/11 01:38 PM |
| 1 | How long did it take you, before you got true success?Exactly. I was thinking about VampireSlayer's problem the other day while in the shower and I think what it basically comes down to, as you point out, Frogma, is a problem of properly calibrating to each girl. The date sit-in I had with my wing listening in, was worth gold; I come from a background of much negativity myself and low self-esteem - and VampireSlayer, guess what, my wing pointed out that I was being pretty negative throughout most of the date, which is something I just wouldn't have… | /r/seduction | 19/06/11 05:32 AM |
| 1 | How long did it take you, before you got true success?Exactly. Just like me. So close and yet so far. Sometimes I can't help thinking that it's like bloody rocket science when it should just be nature at work. | /r/seduction | 19/06/11 01:10 AM |
| 6 | How long did it take you, before you got true success?Bro... I hear you. It's a fucking struggle. Don't know if you read my post the other day on sexualizing dates; I've been getting phone numbers and dates regularly in the last 20 months but I only close one in five. It's absolutely maddening. My compliments to you for keeping up the pressure and pushing on. But you know, your life is not going to change unless you continue the fight. The best advice I can give you, which has already been given by others here, is to get some coaching from a guy wh… | /r/seduction | 18/06/11 06:02 AM |
| 1 | Girls get suspicious of me and I come off as a mistrustful character from time to time. How do I avoid this?In my experience holding eye contact 9 secs is getting close to the creepy line, but it depends on the situation; if it's flirting with a girl and you can tell she likes you, then it's ok. If it's a guy / colleague then 9 secs is too long. When she breaks eye contact, you will look away also. Nothing more creepy than her turning her eyes back to you to find that you've been 'staring' at her. When that's said, I find that I can get to relax more around some of the girls I date, if I hold strong e… | /r/seduction | 18/06/11 05:25 AM |
| 2 | Girls get suspicious of me and I come off as a mistrustful character from time to time. How do I avoid this?Sup, bro. It would help if you told us in a little more details in what situations this happens. I'm guessing your problem is basically that you don't relax around some people in some situations. What you want to do is to verbalize what you think that people are thinking and joke around with it. So if you feel that she gets suspicious of you, you could consider saying something along the lines of "you're right. I'm such a scoundril. In fact, I'm a t e r r i b l e man" (said with a smile). That w… | /r/seduction | 18/06/11 05:19 AM |
| 1 | Need advice on how to prevent being intimidatedFuck it, you guys are cool, so I'll upvote you both! | /r/seduction | 17/06/11 03:04 PM |
| 1 | The hell am I doing wrong? Does this happen to anyone else?More or less. The time-bridge is just another compliance demand to gauge her level of interest and investment. | /r/seduction | 16/06/11 11:44 PM |
| 2 | The hell am I doing wrong? Does this happen to anyone else?As puaCurveBall says: what's the context? Do you direct approach them? Do you get IOIs? How long do you stay in-set for after you get the number? How long do the interactions last? Do you move the set? Do you lock in? Do you get compliance from them? Direct game IS the most effective way to meet girls in the day time. | /r/seduction | 16/06/11 11:42 PM |
| 2 | Need advice on how to prevent being intimidatedMake sure to do so; I get intimidated by dates too once in a while. We can share experiences. | /r/seduction | 16/06/11 04:05 PM |
| 1 | Need advice on how to prevent being intimidatedWow. I never thought about thinking about lack of confidence that way. That's a powerful Jedi Mindtrick. One point from me. | /r/seduction | 16/06/11 04:04 PM |
| 1 | Need advice on how to prevent being intimidatedOne thing that is easy to do is to try to do some state-building before meeting her. Listen to some music that gets your pulse up in a good way, dance around on your own, tell yourself how "you da man", etc. Smile while doing this, even if it's only a fake smile to begin with. Isn't it just awesome that you're going to meet her alone... don't you think? Whenever you start to fear that you'll be intimidated again, cut the crap, do some positive reframing, smile, and tell yourself how awesome it i… | /r/seduction | 16/06/11 03:37 PM |
| 1 | (FR) Posted up on the friend zone fence?In this case I'd play a little less cool; she likes your coolness and that you're a challenge. But if you're too cool, you lose her. Play cool, but give her a few more SOIs. You can play cool but should be warm. | /r/seduction | 15/06/11 11:35 PM |
| 1 | How to sexualize your datesWell... on the iPhone it jumps up as a name. Could get nasty when after all that hard work you lose because she can't take that there are other women in your life. Many girls in China, where I am, have somewhat other notions on dating than in the West, where people tend to be more open-minded. | /r/seduction | 15/06/11 03:27 PM |
| 2 | Really good at getting women to come home with me... but they never want to sleep with me. How to avoid this situation?Great break-down of countering LMR and what's going on in her head at that moment. It's two steps forward and one step back. | /r/seduction | 15/06/11 03:12 PM |
| 1 | Really good at getting women to come home with me... but they never want to sleep with me. How to avoid this situation?Haha, I understand you completely, bro. The frustrations of not knowing what goes wrong... Don't worry, you're doing great, you get to the K-close, you even get them back to your place. Heck, what I wouldn't give to be at your level right now. You got the attraction from them and handle the logistics smoothly. You want to move as fast as possible with them. I'm still struggling mightily with the close, but I've learned the hard way, that it truly IS the comfort game that wins the girl in the lon… | /r/seduction | 15/06/11 03:10 PM |
| 8 | (FR) Posted up on the friend zone fence?Debut_Album... Why did you not take action? You had her in your palm, you liked her, she liked you to the point of chasing you, and you let her slip between your fingers! Everything she was doing, she was doing to get together with you. Quick break-down: she chases you aggressively: "I'd really like to see you!", she gets drunk with you alone in her room, 'getting to know each other + funny stories + plans about the future' = classic comfort building. In this situation and after all her chasing,… | /r/seduction | 15/06/11 02:47 PM |
| 2 | How to sexualize your dateslol! right! | /r/seduction | 15/06/11 01:53 PM |
| 1 | How to sexualize your datesThank you again, good sir. I will have to try it out. I got plenty of phone numbers to work with, and plenty of girls to meet up with. I'll let you know how it works out :) | /r/seduction | 15/06/11 01:52 PM |
| 2 | How to sexualize your datesYeap, not bad. I used to use a Mystery-style photo routine on some dates. I guess I should start doing that using my iPhone. Just a little dangerous if suddenly one of my other girls texts me; then there'll be another story to tell ;) I guess I can turn that SMS alert off somehow. | /r/seduction | 15/06/11 11:57 AM |
| 1 | How to sexualize your datesAh Frogma, bro, you're as solid as ever! Thanks for your reply. I also suspect that part of the problem is that I'm going on dates in the first place; just not sure how to do it differently since my preferred style of game is direct day game which typically requires another meet-up. A typical date starts with a short walk around the area where I live. Nothing too interesting to see there, so I take her to a cafe nearby. I build comfort and apply kino through a number of kino games; admittedly I'… | /r/seduction | 15/06/11 11:44 AM |
| 1 | How to sexualize your datesLOL, seems like you got it figured out! :) Wanna come along next time? | /r/seduction | 14/06/11 03:54 PM |
| 2 | How to sexualize your datesHe said that my closing game sucked ;) | /r/seduction | 14/06/11 03:53 PM |
| 4 | How to sexualize your datesYes! A mission from the Lord! :P | /r/seduction | 14/06/11 03:53 PM |
| 1 | How to sexualize your dates:) | /r/seduction | 14/06/11 03:53 PM |
| 2 | How to sexualize your datesI'm quite happy about getting so many dates, but the close is a struggle. No car, but I use a date template of going to a cafe near where I live and try to pull from there. | /r/seduction | 14/06/11 03:52 PM |
| 1 | How to sexualize your datesThanks for your reply. It's funny because I do most of that already, and even have quite a few posts up on it myself... yet it's not leading where I want to take it. I'll remember your last point though, about the sly looks. That could be a killer. | /r/seduction | 14/06/11 03:50 PM |
| 1 | How to sexualize your datesYou got that right. And no, just to clarify, I didn't record anything on file. | /r/seduction | 14/06/11 03:47 PM |
| 3 | How to sexualize your datesExactly. I got most of the other stuff figured out. I'll become a winner soon enough. And then I'll laugh and point fingers at bigskymind, like he's pointing fingers at me. I guess things were always easy for him! Well, good for him. | /r/seduction | 14/06/11 03:46 PM |
| 1 | How to sexualize your datesExactly. I can't seem to figure this one out without some objective feed-back. Oh well. I'll get there eventually. Have a good one heckz, and I'll comment on your future posts later :P | /r/seduction | 14/06/11 03:43 PM |
| 1 | How to sexualize your datesWill do so next time! ;) | /r/seduction | 14/06/11 03:41 PM |
| 5 | How to sexualize your datesHaha, thanks brother. Here's another one for the arsenal: "You got a little bug on your face. No? Well, after I tried to brush it away, it's all OVER your face. Ha, no, kidding. Just wanted to touch your cheek. It looks so soft. It's not too hairy." | /r/seduction | 14/06/11 03:41 PM |
| 1 | How to sexualize your datesThanks. I guess then, that we're the dumb guys in the MENSA club. But that's not too bad :D | /r/seduction | 14/06/11 03:37 PM |
| 2 | How to sexualize your datesThanks brother, I think that's one of the best pieces of advice I've received. Thank you, truly, and I'll start to apply that immediately :) When would you suggest I apply it? When she's already on? - I can't imagine myself saying that stuff to some of my recent dates, where there just wasn't any spark or connection between us. | /r/seduction | 14/06/11 03:36 PM |
| 2 | How to sexualize your datesThanks for your reply, and happy to hear you close like a beast :P You defintely got a point about not filtering the girls; I've been thinking the same myself. I approach all of the girls I date with direct game in the day time and that typically sets the frame. Generally, if a girl wears sexy clothes I'd assume her to more open-minded to fast sex. Those are the girls I typically approach. Yet somehow I fumble and drop the ball. How would you suggest I filter verbally? | /r/seduction | 14/06/11 03:32 PM |
| 2 | How to sexualize your datesThanks awesomeone, you ARE awesome! :) You may be right, that I'm thinking in my head, "now would be a good time to apply kino". Anyway, I did a good write-up above, which was especially with you in mind. I try to move as fast as possible with my girls and bring them to a cafe close to where I live, and then, if I sense that they're on, I'll try to bring them to my place. It doesn't always work, even with girls who are clearly on. That's when I know I've been put in the BF zone. Many of my dates… | /r/seduction | 14/06/11 03:28 PM |
| 1 | How to sexualize your datesHey ubernoob, thanks for your reply! To help you out, I can't imagine going on 60 dates and only closing 12 of them either, haha! ;) | /r/seduction | 14/06/11 03:24 PM |
| 3 | How to sexualize your datesThanks for the multiple useful advices many people have given. That will definitely be useful in the field. Some people requested a little more detailed info; I'm 30 years old and always sucked with women. It was always THE biggest problem in my life. Change did not come about until I discovered The Game three years ago and I started doing direct day game those twenty months ago, and since then I've direct approached up to 300 girls and gotten up to 150 phone numbers and those maybe 70 dates. I'… | /r/seduction | 14/06/11 03:23 PM |
| 2 | How to master the road game?Go direct!! Just tell them that the reason you're stopping them is because you think they are cute and that you just had to come over and say hi! :) | /r/seduction | 13/06/11 11:47 PM |
| 0 | Your night with the HB10 through the eyes of your wingman. Never forget what we do for you.Lol, I had a friend back in highschool who kept being chased by this girl who actually looked like Darth Vader.... | /r/seduction | 13/06/11 02:13 PM |
| 1 | [FR] First direct openerThanks for the compliment :). Yeah, it's driving me crazy. Sometimes I get blown out even though the girl is IOI'ing heavily. That's friend-zoning. Heck, I even bought a microphone so my wings can sit in on my dates. Was actually the first time yesterday I had a wing do that. Very, very educational. Lol, apparently I kept DLV'ing. When I think about it what a poor girl, haha! Lack of sexualizing is probably my greatest sticking point (which I suspected), but which my wing also pointed out for me… | /r/seduction | 13/06/11 02:05 PM |
| 1 | [FR] First direct openerHe, they think I'm asking for directions when I stop them ;) | /r/seduction | 13/06/11 01:56 PM |
| 1 | Should You Apologize to Women?Great article on when and how to apologize to women (and men). I wish I had read that a little earlier. Highly recommended! | /r/seduction | 13/06/11 01:50 PM |
| 1 | language barrier cramping my styleCome to Beijing sometime and hang out with me! | /r/seduction | 13/06/11 01:10 PM |
| 1 | [FR] Extremely Direct Opener on 2-set - # closeBtw, I love your writing style :D | /r/seduction | 13/06/11 01:08 PM |
| 1 | [FR] Extremely Direct Opener on 2-set - # closeLOL! :) | /r/seduction | 13/06/11 01:07 PM |
| 1 | [FR] First direct openerThanks for the suggestions. I had a wingman sit in on a day2 I had tonight. I was wired up with a microphone and I had him using the headset. He could listen in on the entire interaction. He pointed out that many of the things you mentioned in your reply, was completely lacking in my dating game. I was a little intimated by this girl, she was very good-looking and very confident. My wing told me that my biggest issues were being too rational and not sexualising the conversation enough. New input… | /r/seduction | 12/06/11 03:32 PM |
| 1 | [FR] First direct openerIf you're stalking her and she notices, you'll tell her: "hey, I know it's kind of weird that I'm checking you out this way - I'm just working up my courage to go and talk to you... I think you're absolutely adorable :). I'm Tom!" (shake hands). | /r/seduction | 12/06/11 10:49 AM |
| 6 | [FR] First direct openerIt IS low, agreed, and I'm definitely NOT satisfied. That's why I keep hacking away at it, until I can full-close consistently. | /r/seduction | 12/06/11 09:15 AM |
| 7 | [FR] First direct openerYeah... you're right. It IS a numbers game a long way down the road. I would not want it to be this way - I'm 30 years old and always sucked with girls. It's only since I started doing direct day game within the last two years that change has truly come about in this area of my life and in other related areas. It's with some ambivalence that I meet girls this way. I would rather spend much of the time doing other things; yet meeting girls this way IS tremendously fun and giving, as well as devel… | /r/seduction | 12/06/11 09:13 AM |
| 1 | [FR] First direct openerMalls and streets are my preferred venues, especially streets, because you can 'hit and run' if you manage to creep her out. Other places that I can recommend are cafes, train stations, clothing stores. One of the most fun full-closes I got from doing a direct approach on a girl at the luggage pick-up at an airport once. I should be flying more often. | /r/seduction | 12/06/11 06:25 AM |
| 6 | [FR] First direct openerA valid question indeed. I get on average a number close from 50-60% of the girls I approach. So I've gotten maybe 130-150 numbers since I started direct day gaming some 20 months ago. Many numbers will flake. I've been on maybe 60-70 dates within that period from those phone numbers. Now you're probably thinking I'm 'the man'. But my closing game is terrible (but improving!). Of all those approaches I've gotten only 10 lays, and some additional make-outs. My love life has turned into statistics… | /r/seduction | 12/06/11 06:21 AM |
| 1 | [FR] First direct openerNot necessarily. In my experience the 3 sec rule IS great for keeping AA to a minimum; yet there are situations where you may want to wait and get a feel for the situation. Is she with someone? Are there too many people around and thus too much social pressure on her/you when you open? | /r/seduction | 12/06/11 06:10 AM |
| 3 | [FR] First direct openerLook at it with humour. Tell the BF that you were just hitting on his girlfriend, and then tell him that he's a very lucky guy, because his GF is very lovely. Obviously, if the guy looks too amoggy and like he could resort to violence, get the fuck away from there, haha! :) | /r/seduction | 12/06/11 06:07 AM |
| 5 | [FR] First direct openerYeap... good job. Believe me, after a while you'll get used to direct openers and it'll be way more fun. It's with sex as with direct openers; you'll never forget the first time! Fortunately, or curiously, there seems to be a structure to solid interactions when direct gaming in the day time. I've done anywhere between 250-300 direct approaches in the day time and the conversational sequence that seems most natural is: Open. What you're both out doing today. Talk about your jobs / what you study… | /r/seduction | 12/06/11 02:35 AM |
| 1 | Listening to WomenGreat article on comfort-building. | /r/seduction | 11/06/11 06:28 AM |
| 1 | [FR] The Perfect Game: Multiple K-Closing, F-Close. No Kino.Respect. | /r/seduction | 11/06/11 06:17 AM |
| 1 | One to remember: The Flow Chart for Picking up Chicks.oh... Still learning about the reddit ways here... if it's a repost, do I delete it? :) | /r/seduction | 10/06/11 03:01 PM |
| 1 | One to remember: The Flow Chart for Picking up Chicks.I'm not sure who to credit for making this one, just know it looks useful! | /r/seduction | 10/06/11 02:20 PM |
| 1 | [FR] First daygame kiss closeLOL! Nice answer! | /r/seduction | 10/06/11 02:03 PM |
| 1 | [FR] First daygame kiss closeSo what exactly ARE the two of you doing in Chicago? :) Although... If she's going back to Beijing you'd be wise to warn her that I'm here and only do daygame. Don't send the gentle lamb into the jaws of the hungry wolf ;) Congrats with the K-close, brother. That's an impressive display of game. I couldn't have done better myself. In fact, I've never done so myself! :( | /r/seduction | 10/06/11 02:03 PM |
| 1 | It's so fucking simple.Congrats with getting the NC! That's the first step of the way. But I have to agree with Spurnout. After having being in the Game for three years getting the number is the easiest part. It's all the stuff afterwards I struggle with :( | /r/seduction | 10/06/11 01:44 PM |
| 1 | Seddit 25kYeap, 25K indeed, but how may are actually active sedditers? | /r/seduction | 10/06/11 01:31 PM |
| 2 | Practice Target? [Mini FR included]Dude! What's with the details of how short/fat she is! :P If you genuinely like her as a person and if you're just a little attracted to her, liking her personality and whatever connection you're building with her is going to help you a lot towards finding her more attractive. Damn, I'm actually sounding like a grown-up here ;) | /r/seduction | 10/06/11 01:19 PM |
| 1 | Okay Seddit, What is my next plan of attack?Yeap. I agree with Mr heckz. You're riding an escalation wave here, from OkCupid to Facebook. Continue what you're doing and escalate as fast as you can to the N-close and meet-up. | /r/seduction | 10/06/11 01:07 PM |
| 2 | Secrets to Getting Girls: Addressing Women's Objections!Great article on how to use girls' objections to make them want you more, and make them certain that you’re the man for them! | /r/seduction | 09/06/11 03:40 PM |
| 2 | Wonderful article: Guide to improving with women!A must read. I recognized myself as being intermediate, and he's probably right about my major sticking point at this stage too; sexual escalation. Highly recommend. | /r/seduction | 07/06/11 11:15 AM |
| 1 | So who here has actually read "The Game"?I read it. Twice. | /r/seduction | 07/06/11 11:12 AM |
| 1 | How I Developed Awesome Self Confidence... or if and when you fuck up, instead of talking down on yourself, tell yourself how fucking awesome it is to be you! "Haha, I'm great, man!" :P | /r/seduction | 07/06/11 11:11 AM |
| 1 | I hear the words "crisis" and "opportunity" are the same in Chinese, so I have whatever that is.LOL, I live in China and speak Chinese. And you're absolutely right, the words are not the same ;) | /r/seduction | 06/06/11 04:12 AM |
| 3 | I hear the words "crisis" and "opportunity" are the same in Chinese, so I have whatever that is.Believe me, you'll push her away if you verbalise that you're attracted to her, when she's already got a boyfriend and she uses that as an excuse to not get together with you. I know this from a few very bitter experiences myself where the girl had a boyfriend / husband, yet kept flirting with me. I put all my cards on the table, because "Hey! The IOIs are there!"... and all you'll get is rejection, because now you've told her straight out, and she does not wonder anymore about your intentions. … | /r/seduction | 06/06/11 04:08 AM |
| 1 | Beliefs and mindsets - some pretty good stuff in there!Favorite quotation: "We each get one ticket to this amusement park called life, are you putting your ticket to good use? Are you riding the best rides, seeing the best shows, and feeling the biggest thrills? Or are you splashing around in the kiddie pool because that’s where the signs told you to go?" | /r/seduction | 06/06/11 03:49 AM |
| 1 | [FR] I learned to open, but no idea what to do after.I'd strongly agree with honest_politician. Think crash and burn. Most times you crash and burn you'll learn something. Might as welll tell her that the reason you came over was because you thought she was cute / looked interesting. So you deliver an SOI, see how it goes, take her hand (compliance testing), and take her for a walk in the venue away from her friends. Basically, to keep a comfort conversation running, confront her with logical questions on the choices in her life, which will challe… | /r/seduction | 05/06/11 04:38 PM |
| 1 | How do I make myself more approachable?Indeed... In the PU community it's a capital sin to not approach, when an invitation comes :) I myself am decent at opening direct during day game - yet yesterday my wing had to push me into a 3-set, even though the target had already given me very strong IOIs. Even though you say that you're good at opening, I wonder if there's still not a part of AA that's holding you back, or AA's cousin, which is the anti-social state people may enter, when they are not 'in the zone'. Happens to me all the t… | /r/seduction | 05/06/11 04:25 PM |
| 2 | Had the first date, went well. Now what?Thank you, good sirs, but I'm neither. I just had an opinion on the subject :) | /r/seduction | 05/06/11 10:57 AM |
| 1 | Warning signs a girl isn't worth a relationshipI agree with you regarding him being a little on the dickish side, but it's the overall sentiment that's very useful, with stuff that's great to be aware of. | /r/seduction | 04/06/11 05:37 AM |
| 1 | Stepping up your texting game.[Article] - This has helped me so much in the last few weeks.Hi there, it's funny, I kept telling him how much I loved the layout of his web site compared to so many other pick-up blogs and sites out there, because his is much easier to navigate and get a quick overview from. But, reading your comments, I can see that you have a point about everything being cramped and the fonts that don't "flow correctly". He, I guess it's because he's got so much great stuff up that he wants to show it all at once! Anyway, Chase'll definitely appreciate your advice, and… | /r/seduction | 04/06/11 05:25 AM |
| 1 | Warning signs a girl isn't worth a relationshipJust came across this great accept-no-bullshit-from-chicks article. | /r/seduction | 04/06/11 05:16 AM |
| 12 | Had the first date, went well. Now what?Brother, the best advice I can give you is to keep things simple. I've been hacking away at learning dating and seduction for the last three years; in my experience, you've already done a lot of rookie mistakes. You're taking her for dinner at an upscale restaurant, then minigolfing, and you're paying. You're willing to drive half an hour to go see her, instead of having her come to you. You're such a nice guy, so you don't try to kiss her on the first night. Judging from your post and from how … | /r/seduction | 04/06/11 04:37 AM |
| 1 | How to deal with women and drama. I could have used this so many times [link]Lol :p | /r/seduction | 04/06/11 03:44 AM |
| 2 | Stepping up your texting game.[Article] - This has helped me so much in the last few weeks.That other guy would probably be me, my friend. I've been coached by Chase on a few occasions and know that he's solid and writes a wealth of quality articles. Why call it spam if I link to some of his best articles once in a while and it helps to improve other people's game? It seems that other people find it so useful too. | /r/seduction | 01/06/11 11:49 PM |
| 1 | Has anyone had any luck with "palm reading"? BONUS: Drivers license trickWell... I've been palm-reading a lot but merely for the kino. When I started out three years ago and all I'd heard about was the Mystery Method I even bought a stupid book on palm-reading. I never got around to reading it, because I think it's bullshit. What I do nowadays, if I get myself winded up in palm reading, is just to improvise a quick cold read from her hands, and if she says I don't know anything about palm reading I just say with a smile: "yep, you're absolutely right - was just looki… | /r/seduction | 01/06/11 03:29 PM |
| 3 | Stepping up your texting game.[Article] - This has helped me so much in the last few weeks.His texting is actually awesome. Yes, little if no playfulness, just directness, confidence and solidity. Heck, I can't remember how many times I've pushed girls away by trying to be playful and come across as another dancing monkey or crossed the line in addition to spending maybe half an hour writing the 'perfect' text. Seems like those days are finally over! :D | /r/seduction | 01/06/11 03:14 PM |
| 2 | Stepping up your texting game.[Article] - This has helped me so much in the last few weeks.Bro, check out his article on 'deep diving' as well as his article 'Conversation Example' with practical examples of deep diving. They may yet change your game, like they changed mine :) | /r/seduction | 01/06/11 02:53 PM |
| 1 | Conversation Example - a solid breakdown of succesfully conversing with girls. Recommended!This article contains a lot of goodies from everything on deep diving to frame battles and rewarding properly. A lot of great stuff to be aware of in conversation! | /r/seduction | 30/05/11 03:43 PM |
| 2 | Guys that work long hours - how do you do it?Indeed brother, your twenties. Nurse them like you would nurse an infant and don't throw them away on work or (for me) depression. Long live the fucking game! | /r/seduction | 29/05/11 11:46 PM |
| 2 | Sigh... Why can't I close?Judging from that last sentence you may want to be careful that you don't come across as the very likeable 'dancing monkey' :). You're not there to entertain people you don't know, are you? Be careful you don't come across as just the friendly, social guy. It's late where I am, so I only skimmed your text, but I don't seem to recall encountering the word 'challenging' anywhere in your description. You may want to challenge girls more, try to impress them less, and throw in some strong eye contac… | /r/seduction | 29/05/11 02:56 PM |
| 3 | Guys that work long hours - how do you do it?How about this one: yeah, so you're busy like hell right now, but making a shitload of money. Save up as much as you can, and then you set a stop date to working that hard in the future and maybe change to another job. If you get enough money, take a break from work for half a year, and if learning seduction is your priority, immerse yourself deeply in the game and spend some of the money on working with a good coach which - in my experience - will cut years off your learning curve. Or go travel… | /r/seduction | 29/05/11 02:44 PM |
| 1 | Teasing a girl the RIGHT way - some truly great points to be aware of when teasing women.Common sense indeed. But why do so many guys manage to loose girls by pushing them away? Is one reason not that they fail to appreciate the importance of actively and systematically looking for commonalities with others? | /r/seduction | 29/05/11 02:33 PM |
| 2 | Teasing a girl the RIGHT way - some truly great points to be aware of when teasing women.Yo brother, I hear you. I was coached by Chase on several occasions. One of the best advices he gave me, which I'll give you here for free - you can buy me a beer someday - is that if you want success in the social arts you should always attempt to find the commonalities between you and your girl - as well as with all other people in your life. Sarcasm tends to create rifts between people - but you may want to identify and bridge the gaps instead and keep your focus on finding commonalities and … | /r/seduction | 28/05/11 05:02 PM |
| 2 | Teasing a girl the RIGHT way - some truly great points to be aware of when teasing women.I've read some of your posts, Frogma, and you seem to be quite experienced :) What you're doing works for you because you're able to pull it off consistently. However, I do think many guys are still trying to figure out what works for them - including myself - which is where this article will be tremendously helpful. If I can get a girl by playing it safe and build commonalities, also through humour and teasing, that's definitely preferable to push-pull which can come across as too offensive, if… | /r/seduction | 28/05/11 04:47 PM |
| 2 | Come on, guys! Where are all the field reports?lol :p | /r/seduction | 28/05/11 05:49 AM |
| 1 | Come on, guys! Where are all the field reports?Yes, sir! Leaving for a shopping mall soon :P | /r/seduction | 28/05/11 05:48 AM |
| 2 | Teasing a girl the RIGHT way - some truly great points to be aware of when teasing women.Teasing women the RIGHT way is absolutely crucial - I don't know how many people I've pushed away in my life by trying to be funny and expecting them to see that, but instead ended up coming across as a rude person and creating gaps between us. Ouch. This article offers excellent insights and techniques to avoid pushing people away during teasing and instead draw them in. Highly recommended! | /r/seduction | 28/05/11 05:21 AM |
| 3 | I can't hit on women if there's an unattractive woman around. Does anyone else have this issue?"Sup, I was standing over there, and just thought I wanted to come up and tell you, that you're the ugliest girl I've seen all day. I'm Tom, how are you doing tonight?" ;-) | /r/seduction | 27/05/11 02:09 PM |
| 1 | I can't hit on women if there's an unattractive woman around. Does anyone else have this issue?I got the same problem... I'm only into direct daygame these days and sometimes the cutest girl comes along who's together with her really unattractive friend. And then I usually don't approach. I've done it on a few occassions, still... but I don't feel good either about the unattractive girl's feelings - since I am coming from a place of low self-esteem and once felt pretty unattractive myself and would not want anyone to feel the same way. Does anybody have any mindsets / inputs on this as it… | /r/seduction | 27/05/11 02:04 PM |
| 1 | How to be a sexy man - another kick-ass article that is changing my game.Where deep diving has changed my comfort game, the stuff in this article is changing my attraction game. Enjoy! | /r/seduction | 25/05/11 03:12 PM |
| 2 | Seddit, what's your fragrance of choice?When I go to do PU I use Armani Code too. It's sweet while still being masculine. I guess I should put it on tomorrow then (... and I'm grinning with mischief as I'm typing this, hohooo) :P | /r/seduction | 25/05/11 03:04 PM |
| 1 | Deep diving - probably one of the best and simplest comfort-building techniques out there.Check out some of my posts, I got some examples of deep diving. | /r/seduction | 24/05/11 11:38 PM |
| 2 | Deep diving - probably one of the best and simplest comfort-building techniques out there.For sure. The guy emits a pretty powerful presence. | /r/seduction | 24/05/11 11:36 PM |
| 2 | Deep diving - probably one of the best and simplest comfort-building techniques out there.I completely and whole-heartedly agree. It was my pleasure to be coached by Chase himself on deep diving where I sat in on one of his dates and listened in on the conversation with mic / ear phones. Chase only used deep diving to get her attracted, but then again, he IS mPUA. When I applied only deep diving to my dates this year, I ended up building VERY strong connections that got me friend-zoned, time after time again. Now I've started applying my former attraction game with deep diving, and t… | /r/seduction | 24/05/11 03:11 PM |
| 6 | Motivational phrases/rules."This is gonna be fun!!! :P", said to yourself before you approach her with direct game. - It completely reframes approach anxiety. | /r/seduction | 24/05/11 02:32 PM |
| 1 | Deep diving - probably one of the best and simplest comfort-building techniques out there.I've talked a lot about this technique which completely took my comfort game to a new level in one swift and sweeping epiphany. Here is the link, submitted to r/seduction for the first time. Enjoy! | /r/seduction | 24/05/11 02:27 PM |
| 2 | Staying over at a girls house, how to make something happen...I was struggling with this for a while, when I'd be getting girls to my place from dates, and then I'd assume she'd be ready to kiss, because "hey! She came to my place with me". Wrong! Nothing worse than seeing a wonderful girl pull away again and again when you try to kiss her and never get there because you played it wrong :-(, :-( and :-( some more. When you're at her place, sit with her on the bed. Always think along escalation ladders to get her comfortable with touching. What that means i… | /r/seduction | 24/05/11 02:14 PM |
| 2 | To the guy who posted that thread about token resistance, please read this.Hell yeah, I'm tired of spending energy on this. | /r/seduction | 23/05/11 02:44 PM |
| 1 | To the guy who posted that thread about token resistance, please read this.Thanks for your support! | /r/seduction | 23/05/11 12:58 PM |
| 1 | To the guy who posted that thread about token resistance, please read this.And disengaging is EXACTLY what I did, brother. | /r/seduction | 23/05/11 12:54 PM |
| 12 | To the guy who posted that thread about token resistance, please read this.Hi Heresmokethis, thanks for your supportive post. Yeah, I kind of panicked this morning when I read people's very negative responses and decided to delete it before more people would see it. Still new to reddit, so I was suprised to see that people had somehow still been able to comment on it. I then sat down and wrote a long reply to people, but when I tried to post it, I couldn't because it was deleted. Aaah, all this new technology! Anyway, the response I wrote follows below: "Well... Gotta … | /r/seduction | 23/05/11 12:52 PM |
| 2 | [LR] - Token ResistanceThanks for that, brother. | /r/seduction | 22/05/11 11:35 PM |
| 1 | Opening Body LanguageGreat article on proper body language for opening a set. | /r/seduction | 21/05/11 12:00 PM |
| 1 | Flaking ControlIn general, I get IOIs from maybe half of the girls that I direct approach - I got around 200 direct approaches under my belt, and know what signs to look for :). So what would make you flake on him if he approached you with a direct opener and you were really attracted to him when he left? | /r/seduction | 21/05/11 11:51 AM |
| 2 | how do i turn questions into statements?Oh, beware.... you don't want to potentially widen the gap between you by putting her in a box based on a quick cold read on her looks. I've been there. Asking for what she spends most of her time on and why those things are important to hear will beat statements derived by cold reading anytime :-) | /r/seduction | 21/05/11 11:48 AM |
| 2 | For all the Redditors out there, What nationality/race are you most turned on by?I'm a 'creepy white guy with an Asian fetisch'. Good for me I live in Beijing! :P | /r/seduction | 21/05/11 11:22 AM |
| 1 | Flaking ControlHey brother, good to hear from you! To answer you: I set up those dates the same evening that I met the girls, so it was only one and two days in advance, respectively. I hear you regarding this advice. I've been getting similar feedback, subsequently, from a friend of mine who's mPUA, and I will change my game plan accordingly. Whereas previously I'd have done such 'activity dates' my current game plan is to keep things as simple as possible on day 2s: Meet at subway station -> go to cafe or sm… | /r/seduction | 21/05/11 03:33 AM |
| 0 | Do Less, Not More! (The Seducer's Anti-Manifesto)I just came across this kick-ass article on achieving more by doing less. Just the kind of game I like. | /r/seduction | 20/05/11 04:44 PM |
| 2 | Sex the morning after, do you brush your teeth first?Brother! Chewing gum! :D | /r/seduction | 20/05/11 11:45 AM |
| 2 | [Frustration Report] Flaked. Badly.Next time, when setting up a date, make sure it's on your terms. If you can't get the girl to invest in coming to you or follow your lead, chances of success are pretty bad, so do yourself a big favour, and don't waste your time :-). Change your plans with her to something that fits into YOUR schedule and which is convenient for YOU! :) | /r/seduction | 19/05/11 03:03 PM |
| 1 | Guys in this forum are douche-bags...NOT, and here's why!Thanks for the compliments, Dawg1! There is a whole misconception of the community, that many people who are NOT in the community tend to buy into. What I appreciate most about the community is that finally, finally you can let down your guard around complete strangers (your new wings), and tell these guys some of your deepest thoughts and issues with little fear of ridicule or social rejection, and instead be met with sympathy, understanding and encouragement. It is indeed a brotherhood, and I'… | /r/seduction | 17/05/11 02:20 PM |
| 1 | Interpreting TextsHi GulliversBuffet, she's basically asking you to lead here. Girls hate when nice guys don't lead and don't take charge, because it means that the girls have to spend energy handling logistics and make decisions which could be 'wrong', as noted by Sleepingwithsirens. When dealing with women and moving towards sex, sex tends to only ensue when you lead them through the path of least resistance which means that you, as the man, must handle all the logistics and take charge. Best of luck :P | /r/seduction | 17/05/11 02:10 PM |
| 1 | My response to "I have a boyfriend"Hehe, you're absolutely right. But who said anything about wanting her as a girlfriend ;-) | /r/seduction | 15/05/11 01:31 AM |
| 1 | My response to "I have a boyfriend"Just direct approached a girl on the street tonight. She told me she had a boyfriend. I IGNORED IT AND KEPT TALKING AND SO CAN YOU. I eventually got her phone number and we're now talking about meeting up. Yeah, from a moral perspective it's not nice. But neither was growing up having the best intentions for others yet for some reason being met with social rejection and chronical loneliness with never a single date for years in a row. Really, if a girl who has a boyfriend wants to meet up with y… | /r/seduction | 14/05/11 04:54 PM |
| 1 | Individual situation here: I go to a small university in a small town, roughly 6,000 students. Recently I have had girls labelling me as a player...Yo Kentyfish, I agree with Frogma. Make no excuses for it. Girls usually call me out on it too, since most if them have never been approached with direct game in the daytime before. WHEN THEY CALL ME OUT ON BEING A PLAYER I always nod and agree with them and admit that "... I'm a terrible, TERRIBLE man..!" (unquote). They will admire you for your honesty. I know this for a fact, because they normally tell me they like my straight-forwardness, unlike the other guys who always try to hide and deny… | /r/seduction | 13/05/11 02:51 PM |
| 2 | [FR] Kino: It's the same in every language, and it works!Damn... great report! One point up from me, brother. That's one to remember. I've noticed some similar stuff on my dates. Saw a girl with a hot body at one of Beijing's airports last year - both of us had to take the same plane and eventually the same bus to Shenzhen, just north of Hong Kong. I 'happened' to get to sit next to her on the bus and so we started talking. We talked and talked for hours before I full-closed her later that night ;-). LEG KINO: The point is that during the trip on the … | /r/seduction | 08/05/11 03:00 PM |
| 3 | Is she interested in me, or just wanting to be friends?Dude... she's testing you here. The last girl I had over just a few days back was on a day 3 where she tried to change our original appointment, which was to meet at a subway station very close to where I live and have dinner, to meet for dinner at another subway station further away, but which would make it much easier for her to get back home, as she put it when she texted me. No, sir. You must persist in having it your way. HAVE IT YOUR WAY, OR HAVE NOTHING. Girls will look to you for leaders… | /r/seduction | 07/05/11 04:23 PM |
| 1 | Qualification: Punishing and RewardingI agree. Simple advice and spot on. It will set up the proper frame in the interaction of YOU being the qualifier and HER as the one who has to live up to your standards. Make her chase you. | /r/seduction | 07/05/11 03:28 PM |
| 2 | after 10 years of relationships I've learned one important thing: if a girl approaches you be very very cautious.LOL, this reminds of when I go day gaming in one of the major Beijing shopping areas... It's been my pleasure to be approached by the SAME GIRL there a few times who apparently thinks I'm handsome, and just has to approach me to tell me everytime, out of a good heart ;-) She's got a killer body, just a pity she works for a small, small service company, as she put it when I talked to her the first time... ;-) Yeah. In my experience if a girl approaches you it's because 1) either "there is somethi… | /r/seduction | 07/05/11 03:05 PM |
| 1 | I need advice on flakes...I don't know what to doHowdy Cosygin, I've been getting number 1 and 2 too many times to remember. What it comes down to in these cases is 1) you did something wrong in the initial approach, and 2) a lack of connection, comfort, and investment. To solve those problems you want to work on your approach. ASK YOURSELF THESE QUESTIONS: Did you attract her enough? Did you make her feel comfortable enough talking to you? Did you find commonalities with her and build a connection? Did you make her invest in you, and did you … | /r/seduction | 05/05/11 02:58 PM |
| 1 | [FR] 3rd date, noob at seduction...need to know what I did wrongHey buddy, thanks for the update and glad to hear you're willing to try out my advice. Again, I make no guarantees, but the idea is to get her to feel that you're genuinely trying to get to know her on a deep, emotional level. She's clearly already attracted to you, so next time when it's just you and her together, hopefully she'll offer you more than just milk and cookies ;-) 1) Remember, STRONG, SOFT EYE CONTACT with your head tilting slightly downwards. Hold eye contact longer than you normal… | /r/seduction | 04/05/11 03:06 PM |
| 1 | [FR] 3rd date, noob at seduction...need to know what I did wrongI still don't have my text game tight enough, so with that disclaimer in mind, I'd just say something along: "Hi, [her (nick) name], I was just down by [place where you and her went together], and thought of you. How have you been?" Keep it simple, HONEST, and to the point. If she writes back... you can even write that you're glad she texted back, and you're sad that there came a distance between you and ask her what happened. I know, I know, most people in the community would point fingers at m… | /r/seduction | 01/05/11 03:58 PM |
| 1 | [FR] 3rd date, noob at seduction...need to know what I did wrongHowdy Prof_Lin, it might be a comfort issue here. I've been with a few girls who would give me the most insanely X-rated BJs, but who for some reason didn't want to have sex with me. They seemed quite content just getting my juices... in their mouths. Yeah, I know. Go figure... After just a few dates the same girls would start to become less and less attracted to me, which would show by them putting up increasingly more resistance to my advances, from date to date. Finally they would tell me tha… | /r/seduction | 01/05/11 08:36 AM |
| 1 | Secrets to Getting Girls: The Last 5%Great article on what to be aware of when you're on the final climb to the climax. | /r/seduction | 30/04/11 04:15 PM |
| 1 | Flaking!Reading your story gets me thinking about the scene in American Pie where Oz is at the Lacrosse game and assumes that he will score but fails, and his coach gets pissed off with him and tells him: "YOU DON'T SCORE, TILL YOU SCORE!" I've been in similar situations where I was together with a girl... and just didn't drive hard enough for the F-close, because I thought I was going to get another chance with her. Wrong! I didn't, and imagine my frustration. You don't score till you score :-( I concu… | /r/seduction | 30/04/11 03:59 PM |
| 1 | Game without speaking the languageLol, come to China where I'm hanging out for a real challenge. Nothing like loosing that HB 8+ on a direct approach because of the language barrier :( | /r/seduction | 26/04/11 01:52 PM |
| 3 | A few questions regarding texting / general socializing from a begginerGentlemen, my compliments! Fortunately (for you) I used to have exactly the same problems when I started out. So, you finally worked up the courage to go and talk to those cute little ones in the bar... but how do you stay inset for a longer time? From the examples of questions you're asking I can see that you're asking nice guy questions - I used to do exactly the same and wondered why no girls wanted to talk to me. The problem with these questions is that they are factual and rational, only, a… | /r/seduction | 26/04/11 01:27 PM |
| 1 | [FR] - "It's a numbers game" - How's 5 numbers from 7 sets?Thanks. I appreciate it :) | /r/seduction | 23/04/11 05:04 PM |
| 1 | [FR] - "It's a numbers game" - How's 5 numbers from 7 sets?Did I downvote anything? I'm new to reddit.com and still trying to figure out how it works. | /r/seduction | 23/04/11 02:56 PM |
| 4 | [FR] - "It's a numbers game" - How's 5 numbers from 7 sets?I disagree... getting numbers means that you're on the right way. Heck, three years ago I'd get a number once every 6 months if I was lucky and no nothing would come out of it. Now I get almost as many numbers as girls I approach. Maybe nothing comes out of them... but in the moment when the girl is IOI'ing like crazy and you take her number... now, THAT's a booster of confidence and tells you that you have changed your life for the better! :P | /r/seduction | 23/04/11 04:50 AM |
| 1 | How to Overcome DepressionPost on beating depression and taking charge of your life. | /r/seduction | 24/03/11 06:00 AM |
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