Why Women Flake On You

2011-09-28T18:16:37+00:00

One thing that I do is be very direct with my requests. I.E. Call someone or preferably in person state, "I would like to take you to [thing] at 9PM on Saturday. Basically make it hard for her to say maybe or some version of it. This sort of thing is harder because of the proliferation of chatting online, facebook, and texting. I don't use those things because in my view it teaches them not to value my attention.

Also if her impression of you is high enough she will not flake. Making sure she thinks you're a catch is the best way to make sure she doesn't flake.

LesbianPUA · 2011-09-28T20:22:21+00:00

It doesn't matter why she flakes; the way you handle it is the same.

Let her initiate making future plans. Let her think you're going to blow her off because she flaked. This is how you can gauge her interest.

If she does initiate, don't worry about it. Just go with it. Don't give a fuck about whatever her problem was or what she meant by it.

If she doesn't, don't initiate anything yourself. At the most, very casually put it on her to contact you... Not "text me when you're feeling better" more like "maybe another time. text me."

EDIT: by "flake" I mean lets you know in the morning if you're supposed meet that night. Anything less than 8-10 hours notice the first time makes her next-worthy. And, of course, it's not worth considering a two-time flake.

azteck008 · 2011-09-29T14:34:22+00:00

Awesome article. I had invited a girl to have coffee with me. She agreed but didn't bother setting a time (my mistake, I should have). Anyways, no communication at all. Day comes and goes and nothing. The next day she facebooks pm me saying sorry and making alternate plans (we are going to see a butterfly show, her idea). But again she didn't specify a time only a place and a date. So not sure what to do in this case...

RedPosterboard · 2011-09-28T14:15:48+00:00

Spot-on article by our very own Jeremy Soul. Simple but solid, and to the point. And god, how I hate when girls flake on me!

Title	Why Women Flake On You
Author	RedPosterboard
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Date	September 28, 2011 2:14 PM UTC (14 years ago)
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