Is there a way to recover from neediness?

Diffperspective · 2013-03-20T02:51:25+00:00

If someone can lose interest over you complimenting her nicely, then it's pretty clear she only used you for validation she could feel better about herself, then move on. But the fact you're overanalyzing this moment as a "screwup" does show you need to work on yourself too.

This seddit tends to interpret many failures as "poor game" but sometimes undesired outcomes are not the result of you doing anything wrong. It's just a discovery you don't or no longer serve each other's wants/needs.

So instead of blaming yourself you acted too needy in this instance, maybe what's more revealing of your neediness is you consider someone rather desperate for validation as 10/10, after 2 dates.

jimmyayo · 2013-03-20T06:29:02+00:00

Die-hard Manson fan here. But I'll tell you something: that game won't work on every girl. If you want it to work on every girl, you need to mix in some other schools of thought.

Your post didn't say much other than you telling her "she is different from the other girls" - and that's only in response to her little test. I think that is totally fine to say if you feel that way - you're not telling her that you want to marry her.

Most girls will be happy to hear that kind of honesty (as long as it's genuine), while some girls will only look for social proof and validation, and be turned off if you say something that shows that you honestly like her. This girl sounds like the latter. If you're okay w/ that and you still want to keep her around, then you need to use the typical "player" tactics - push v pull, negs, etc. You can't be 100% honest and vulnerable if you want to have girls like her (read: shallow) around.

1vibe · 2013-03-20T07:44:34+00:00

Here's what I did:

Me: Let's hang out this weekend! Her: -no answer- Me: Hey, I didn't hear back from you, so I went ahead and made other plans. I'll make it up to you another time, promise! xo Her: (2 minutes later) Hi there! I was out of town for a shoot, just got back yesterday so now working and editing the pics. How have you been?

went on another date, but not sure where it's going.....

raging46 · 2013-03-19T22:44:07+00:00

Yes. The best thing about the journey of mastery in seduction is the complete inner transformation it gives you.

Some great resources I recommend you check out are:

Models by Mark Manson (book) Way of the Superior Man by David Deida (book) The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle (book)

The Blueprint by Real Social Dynamics (DVD set; expensive but you can find it online) 77 Laws of Women and Dating by David DeAngelo (also can find online).

Best of luck. This road will make you grow in ways you can't even understand right now.

TolarianFapper · 2013-03-20T06:28:35+00:00

I'd say, don't worry about it. You're probably messing up your game by adjusting your game due to thinking that you messed up your game. Just game forward as per usual and see where it goes. Push for another date and don't appear needy again - you got it right.

TiberiusROX · 2013-03-20T14:10:49+00:00

Yep, have sex. lol

Title	Is there a way to recover from neediness?
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Date	March 19, 2013 10:30 PM UTC (13 years ago)
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