19 year old college student, never been kissed, looking for advice

survivorboi · 2013-04-20T04:50:33+00:00

most of the time you can't get sexual with any woman simply because you don't initiate it. If you talk and treat women as if they're just another guy, you will surely be put into the friendzone. Don't worship them, but treat them as women, not just another friend. Treating them as women means showing them your a sexual man, by kinoing, by teasing, etc. Edit: The part about jeopardizing your friendship, when your new and practicing, I'd recommend you go out and game women who won't fuck your life up if you mess up. Don't practice in social circles...

Ilk2Rampage · 2013-04-20T02:59:30+00:00

Sometimes yes, I do just flat out tell a woman I'm attracted to them. It might not be reciprocated and you might gget shot down but its better than living in the friend zone wondering what if. Look, I've been shot down tons of times, its worked plenty of others. Yku justhave to be willing to put yourself out there. That's the hardest thing in my opinion. You can't have everyone you want but if you never try for any you will never have the opportunity. If they say they don't feek the same way suck it up, don't be akward, and if she's a friend have her wingman for you. Cute girls as wingmen attract cute girls

K1ng_W1zard · 2013-04-20T09:54:41+00:00

All the above comments... DIDN'T READ. Dude, just be honest with yourself. If you're not Bradolf Pitler then fine, you're not super attractive. That means that your strong point isn't going to be your looks. IF you can improve, get in the gym and do so.

Either way your resume will have to begin and end with the rest of the things that you can offer a girl. A good job? Get it. Interesting hobbies? Have them. Adventures? Go on them. An all-around great personality? Develop it.

That's your game. And it will fail. In college the girls are looking to be slutty. You may get lucky and take advantage of that but chances are you're going to have to wait until you find the right girl for you. And if you worked on all the game I just advised you on she will never look at another dude.

Oh.. and sometimes the best relationships DEVELOP out of friendships. That flies in the face of most PUA or seddit logic but you're probably a bit more innocent than the rest of us and it may be the way things go down for you. Keep your head up and don't get discouraged. Your approach is the long one.

Jake_STi-RA · 2013-04-20T05:15:06+00:00

Step one: be attractive. Seriously, it makes things so much easier. Go to the gym. A lot, be passionate about it. You need a confidence transformation. You need to redo your appearance to gain confidence before you can think about girls.

You really dont need to post this here, there are already a ton of good noob guides on this sub. Look around on here, study up. Take care of your body and keep that chin up.

Fuzzdaddy310 · 2013-04-20T02:53:59+00:00

How do you carry yourself? I have found that if you carry yourself with confidence, people will take note. Don't get me wrong, confidence not arrogance; but tip-toeing the line may work. Honestly, if you ask, the worst that will happen is that you guys will feel awkward for about 3 days...to me that's worth a possible "girl experience"

time_and_again · 2013-04-20T03:22:39+00:00

You don't usually want to just come out and say you're attracted unless you have no doubt they feel the same way.

Step 1 is to get in shape. This isn't about conforming to beauty standar-blah blah blah whatever. Getting in shape will make you more confident and women will respond better. It won't happen overnight. You'll have to commit to a workout schedule that you'll hate at first and you'll have to eat less food, which will kinda suck. Just do it for yourself though. You may say you're not attractive, but there's a good chance that getting in shape will change that perception.

Beyond that, start looking people in the eye more and small-talking/saying hello. If you're already doing that, you can do more of that observational day game stuff. Don't discount online dating either, if you're wanting more first date experience, but be aware that it kinda sucks a lot of times too and leaves you feeling like you're messaging a girl-shaped wall over and over.

Something else that's helped me (I think) is listening on YouTube to the Black Phillip Show, which was a satellite radio show that the late Patrice O'Neal hosted. I was in a much different place than you when I listened to it though, so it might be... heavy. He says some shit that would have seemed harsh to me at 19 (I'm 25 now), but he really embodies the idea of not putting women on a pedestal. His advice is usually for older guys, but I think the mindset is universal. Also he's hilarious, so that's a plus.

urmyheartBeatStopR · 2013-04-22T10:23:20+00:00

Mmmm... base on my experience (totally non scientific at all):

I find you should have a flirtatious personality. If you're all friendlike shit and very courteous you set precendent in their mind you're this nice dude. So when you starts to make a move and be flirtatious they can tell, whoa what happen to you why have you changed.

If you flirty in personality then they expected you to be crazy, fun and sexual so they generally tolerate the dirty things I tell them. I end up making it dirtier as we get closer. So they don't really notice cause flirting/banter is part of my personality. I feel like eventually all these dirty sexual banter feed an idea in their head and eventually they date me.

Haha it sounds manipulative but it's not, because I do love the banters and I do treat them well.

91Jacob · 2013-04-22T18:25:03+00:00

overweight

The brutal truth is lean dudes get an exponentially higher number of opportunities, you may have had some, but you were probably oblivious to them. One of the first steps here is probably /r/fitness.

Vijaywada · 2013-08-25T14:16:11+00:00

26 here. Still dry on lips.

Solispsism · 2013-04-20T05:51:29+00:00

I am a freshman at college and I got my first girlfriend during my first year of college. I am not the sexiest guy in the world by far, I am slightly overweight, but I carry myself with confidence. I wouldn't recommend meeting girls at parties, unless that is your type of girl. My type of girls are shy. I picked two girls in my classes (and they happened to both share the same class with me). I flirted with one of the girls RIGHT in front of the other, and a week later I was making out with the other girl in my dorm room. We have been together for 7 months now. We just had sex 4 times today ^{_^.} I wish you good luck! Flirt with some girls you find attractive, compliment something about them, then get their number. Once you get their number invite them over or invite them somewhere. After that take it back to your room ;).

Title	19 year old college student, never been kissed, looking for advice
Author	myshamefulsecret
Upvotes	9
Comments	14
Date	April 20, 2013 2:39 AM UTC (13 years ago)
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